Seeing that Qiao Qiao's father was on the verge of breaking out, I hurriedly invited him into the house, and then led him to a room. This is a study. Basically, I am not a scholar, and the study at home is not very useful, but it is a good place to talk about some things.
After Qiaoqiao's father sat down, he took a few deep breaths before his mood stabilized, but his face was still ugly. He stared at me: "Chen Yang, what is your relationship with Qiao Qiao!"
Before I could speak, Qiao Qiao's father had already stared at me viciously, and said angrily, "Don't tell me that we are friends! Huh, my daughter wouldn't take off her swimsuit in the swimming pool of an ordinary friend's home!"
I don't know what to say or how to say it.
What can I say? Admit that there is something more than friendship between me and JoJo? At the same time, I have a girlfriend of my own... If I say this, no father in the world will be able to bear his daughter being "touched" by such a man...
So deny? Not to mention that this is not in line with my personality, and I am not the kind of person who dares to act or not to act. Besides, now that Qiao Qiao's father has determined something, is it useful for me to deny it
He pressed the table hard, stood up suddenly, and then slowly walked towards me... Just when I thought I might be slapped, Qiao Qiao's father put his hand on my shoulder. He pressed me hard, as if he was making a decision, then he walked away and walked back and forth in my study several times, pacing, hesitating and thinking on his face.
finally…
"Chen Yang, let's be honest." Qiao Qiao's father took a deep breath: "I've already had my head hurt about this girl, Qiao Qiao."
"Although we don't dare to say that our family is a wealthy family, we still have some foundations. For a family like ours, whether it is a marriage between a man and a woman, it is not so casual. In your words, you may think that we are Political marriage... Hey! Actually, I didn't intend to arrange any political marriage for Qiao Qiao."
Qiao Qiao's father looked at me: "I have only one request for Qiao Qiao. The man she finds must be in the same family as ours. If it's a boy from an ordinary family... To be honest, I don't feel at ease marrying Qiao Qiao to him of."
"Hmm..." I nodded vaguely, but my heart was a little uneasy: Why did he tell me this
"It's not that I have views on the family, and it's not that I look down on boys from ordinary families... In fact, there are some things in this world that you young people don't understand, let alone understand." Idiom, this is actually very reasonable, but nowadays many children who don’t know fart think that after watching a few love movies and a few love novels, they think that love is paramount and they can ignore all objective conditions.”
"Those stories in movies and TV can be made up at will, such as a rich man's daughter falling in love with a poor boy, or a rich man's young master falling in love with a poor girl... They can unscrupulously advocate that this is the supremacy of love and the greatness of love , Noble...Anyway, in this world, it doesn't cost money to make a high profile." Qiao Qiao's father said indifferently: "But those little kids who have no life experience don't understand this kind of truth."
I nod.
He continued: "Let me use an analogy. A girl who graduated from college fell in love with a man who only had a primary school education. At the beginning, the two people may have sparked due to occasional friction... Maybe everyone in the family would object. I think that a man's academic qualifications are not good enough for a girl... At this time, I am afraid that the young people around who have been "educated" by those love stories will advocate the supremacy of love, thinking that any organization that organizes two people together is rotten and outdated The old stubborn... "
I nodded, as if that was indeed the case.
"But in fact." Qiao Qiao's father curled his lips: "The so-called heartbeat is only temporary. After a long time, even if the two of them are together, they will slowly find out that because of the different educational backgrounds, the two people's feelings are different. Their hobbies, tastes, and habits of life are completely different, and even their conversations are quite different. For example, women are highly educated, like listening to operas, watching stage plays, and watching ballet... But these, Men who only have an elementary school education level don't like it. Another example, men like to be loud and noisy, like to make noise in public places, and like to swear... When the two first met, in the eyes of a woman, it is the expression of personality that attracts her. But after a long time, the freshness has passed, and it will feel vulgar. At that time, maybe even a small gesture will feel unsightly. Actually..." Qiao Qiao's father smiled: "There is a saying The saying "love can contain everything" is actually a nonsense made up by writers to fool people. There is no love that can contain everything in the world. Love is very fragile and must be established in a specific environment and specific conditions. ... If two people come from different cultural backgrounds, different qualities, different experiences, different habits... Then love cannot be produced, or if it does, it will not be strong, and it will break soon. This is what I call a good match, It doesn’t just refer to money, but refers to all other conditions must be met, must be equal and similar.”
I admit he was right, really right, and realistic.
A love movie is a love movie after all, I don’t talk about money... The so-called match does not only refer to the economic background of the two parties, but also the culture, quality, education received since childhood, living habits, etc., all must be equivalent.
For example, in China, it is very difficult for a northern man and a southern girl to live together harmoniously. Even if the relationship between the two is very good at the beginning, this kind of relationship cannot withstand the test of life. The simplest example is that most of the men in the north are more masculine, while the girls in the south are more masculine. More delicate and sensitive. When these two kinds of people live together, conflicts will inevitably arise, especially when the initial passion is polished by the trivialities of life, breaking up is the inevitable end.
These words are hard to hear, but they are the truth.
Those who sing the slogan "Love conquers all" are mostly young children who have not experienced much real emotion.
"Actually..." Qiao Qiao's father changed his tone when he said this, "When I found out that Qiao Qiao was with you, I thought about it a lot."
"Oh?" I smiled wryly.
"Of course, you may not understand the psychology of being a father now. That's because you are not on my side. Maybe in a few decades, you will understand." He sighed, with a smile on his mature and handsome face. With a bit of helplessness: "Jojo's temperament is too weird, I don't want to hide this... well, or, she is weirder than most girls. Especially her strange... 'habits'."
I didn't say anything—I couldn't just say "Well, yes, your daughter is gay."
"So, when I arranged a marriage contract for her, I actually carefully selected it for a long time... You have seen Li Wenjing, a young man, he is excellent... He is excellent in all aspects, and his family background is also very good. From these, He has almost no flaws, and I have to admit that he is a very attractive young man." Jojo's father shrugged: "Unfortunately, my daughter doesn't like him."
"..." I looked into his eyes: "What exactly are you trying to say?"
"Speaking of you." He said bluntly: "From the time I knew that Qiao Qiao was with you in Canada, I started to think about new issues. You, Chen Yang, a young man, you... well, you look It's not bad, and more importantly, you and Qiao Qiao can get along... Of course, the most important thing is the issue of getting along."
"Uh..." I think I'm speechless.
"Frankly speaking, if you were only in the same position in the country, I would have rejected you without even thinking about it. Because I will not let my daughter date someone at the bottom of the society... not I'm biased against people, but because of those four words..."
"The right family." I sighed.
"That's right, it's the right family. If it's a man of ordinary status, I have to think too much. Of course, I don't think about whether he can afford my daughter... You see, I don't lack money. But I think about it." The most important thing is whether two people can really live together. Two people from different social levels, they live together, what to eat, what to wear, what to use, what to say, what to do, will be completely different. Time In the short period of time, when love is still fresh, you can tolerate each other, but after a long time... there will inevitably be conflicts. So, I can accept that you were my daughter’s friend when I was in China, but , be her man, I will be the first to break you up." He said with certainty, and he didn't mean to hide it at all: "The simplest example is that when ordinary people spend their daily lives, they just eat and eat with friends. , drink alcohol. But in our circle at this level, communication is a kind of knowledge... If two people come from different levels, sooner or later they will feel that they are not used to each other's living habits."
He was right.
To put it simply, Qiao Qiao would cost tens of thousands of dollars to buy a piece of clothing. Ordinary men, who can stand such a girlfriend? Well, or you can say, if she really loves me, she will be willing to live an ordinary life with me.
Then I will tell you that you really don't understand life.
People buy thousands of clothes, not to show off, not to be extravagant... It's a habit developed since childhood, it's just a habit, and it has nothing to do with "hating the poor and loving the rich". She is used to the clothes being designed by a special designer, and when every brand-name brand releases a new style, the merchant will directly notify her of the new style in accordance with the most considerate and thoughtful VIP service model... In this case, you let her accompany you. Let you go to the food stalls, accompany you to the night market to buy clothes worth tens of dollars each... She doesn't mean that she dislikes this kind of life too poor, but she simply feels that she is not used to it.
That's all.
I have also heard that men and women from the south and north of the country once got together and finally broke up. The result is that the habits of life are different: southerners like to eat rice, and northerners like to eat pasta. The two parties did love each other very much, but their living habits were different. In the end, they couldn't stand this kind of life, so they had to break up.
If you say, well, I can bear to eat rice (or pasta) every day for my lover... Then, I can only say that you don't understand life.
what is life It's not romantic love, that kind of illusion of infinite love... Life is firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea! !
I changed color a little: "Don't you now..."
"It's not a problem now." Qiao Qiao's father looked at me: "My first reaction was that Qiao Qiao lives with a man, which may not be a bad thing. At least she is finally willing to accept a woman... At least it's better than her living with a woman."
He said it so directly that I had to smile wryly.
"Then I checked you very carefully... the man who lives with her. In the end, I suddenly felt that this might be good news. Indeed, when you were in China, you were still at the bottom of the world. But now, You have already risen to the top, you have a certain status, you have power, even the power is not small. You are very rich now, and have gradually entered the upper level of this world. From the point of view of being well-matched, You are almost completely in line. There is no flaw... Besides, you and Jojo are very familiar, very familiar. There is a possibility that you can be together." He looked at me: "As a father, especially Jojo's father, in After worrying about her lifelong event for a long time, I suddenly felt that you are not bad. Although you may not be better than Li Wenjing, you are indeed very good. If you can become my son-in-law, this is also a good choice."
He looked at me: "Since the man I chose for her, she doesn't like it. Then the man she chooses also meets the conditions in my heart, so why not do it?"
I was stunned, completely stunned, took a deep breath, and then slowly said: "Mr. Qiao... well, Uncle Qiao, what do you mean, you want me to be your son-in-law?"
"Exactly." He looked at me with a smile, but then frowned: "However, there are other girls around you now, which surprises me... Well, this is an unexpected problem... But In my opinion, the girl named Yan Di is actually not a big problem."