The father and daughter walked to the pedestrian street. Han Doudou was exhausted and didn't want to take another step. She looked around and found a clean stone bench to sit on. She pouted and complained, "I told you to take the bus, but you insisted on walking. Your legs almost died. It's only two yuan for the bus fare. I don't know what you are trying to save."
Han Ze glanced at her and said, "Isn't two dollars money? Besides, insisting on walking has nothing to do with the fare. I drive all day and lack exercise, so you should think of it as accompanying me to exercise. You can't move your legs after just walking such a short distance, which shows that you also need exercise. Don't sit down, get up quickly, and let's go have breakfast."
Han Doudou slumped down on the stone chair and said lazily, "Please pack it for me and bring it over. I'll rest here for a while."
Han Ze followed her: "What do you want to eat?"
Han Dou Dou said whatever.
Han Ze smiled at her and said, "Whatever." After 10 to 20 minutes, he came back and handed the breakfast to Han Doudou. Han Doudou opened the package and saw, "Why is it steamed buns and soy milk? You knew I didn't like steamed buns and soy milk, but you still bought it for me."
Han Ze said calmly: "I asked you what you want to eat, and you said whatever."
Han Doudou choked and argued, "But you know I don't like eating buns and drinking soy milk. Besides, the buns in this store are terrible."
Han Ze was displeased and looked at her seriously: "I worked hard to buy you breakfast, you should say thank you to me instead of complaining to me."
Han Doudou was stunned for a moment, then responded and said, "Why are you so serious? You are my father, you just bought me breakfast, why are you saying thank you or not?"
Han Ze suddenly asked, "Han Doudou, how old are you this year?"
"Seventeen."
Han Doudou didn't understand and sounded a little impatient.
"I remember when you were in kindergarten, you would always say thank you to me obediently when your dad served you food. Now you are seventeen years old and in your second year of high school, and you can't even say thank you to your dad? Is it that you are less grateful as you get older, or do you think that I am your father and it is my duty to buy you breakfast, and you don't deserve a thank you?" Han Ze asked.
Han Dou Dou turned her head away and said nothing. It was just buying her breakfast, so why did he make such a big deal about it
Han Ze ignored his daughter's silent resistance. He said gently, "Since you don't like steamed buns and soy milk, give them to me. I'll eat them."
"Didn't you have breakfast either?"
Han Doudou really didn't like steamed buns and soy milk, so she handed them to her father without thinking.
Han Ze took the steamed buns and soy milk and said, "I only ate two steamed buns."
After finishing the steamed buns and soy milk, Han Ze said, "Let's go buy you some shoes."
Han Doudou looked at her father in surprise and said, "I haven't had breakfast yet."
Han Ze threw the garbage in his hand into the trash can and said, "What does it have to do with me?"
"You are my dad." Han Dou Dou glared.
"Yes, I'm your dad. I asked you what you wanted to eat, and you said whatever. I bought you breakfast casually, but you rejected it. In that case, if you want to have breakfast, you have to find a way yourself." Han Ze said.
Han Doudou said in disbelief, "How can there be such an unreasonable father like you? You knew I didn't like steamed buns and soy milk, but you insisted on buying them for me. Dad, you are abusing my physical and mental health by doing this, do you know that?"
Seeing her sitting still, Han Ze followed her and sat on the stone chair. He said in a serious tone with concern, "You are so picky and bossy to your father. You treat your father like a slave. As a father, my physical and mental health has been seriously damaged. I am worried that you will make me get Alzheimer's disease before I turn 60."
"When will I... "
Han Doudou didn't say anything. She couldn't continue speaking when she met her father's aggrieved eyes. Well, she did like to find faults, but she really didn't treat her father as a slave. Her father wronged her.
Han Ze said slowly, "You didn't treat me as a slave in your heart, but what you did was no different from treating me as a slave. You always told me to respect each other and not to ignore your wishes. I think you are right. I helped you get things done, but in the end you despised me. Although I am your father and an elder, a father is also a human being. The human heart is fragile. He also wants equality and respect from his children. He is also afraid of being hurt by his children."
Han Doudou was shocked by her father's words. She opened her mouth, not knowing what to say. Her father was right. Respect is mutual. She wanted to be respected by her father, but didn't he want her respect? She used to think that her father was controlling her and why he was so nagging as a man. She looked down on him, but she never thought that what she did might hurt her father.
She thinks of herself as a good young person of the new era with progressive ideas. She always thinks her father is stubborn and has old ideas. In his mind, as long as a child does not like to study, he is not a good child. But is it really like that
She felt a little ashamed in her heart, but she said unconvincedly: "I have always respected my father."
Han Ze looked at her: "For example?"
For example
Han Doudou was stunned. She tried hard to recall what she had done to show respect for her father. But in the end, her mind was empty. She had actually never done anything to show respect for her father. She pursed her lips and stopped talking.
Han Ze said dejectedly: "Not even a small thing. Maybe I am a failure as a father and don't deserve your respect."
Han Doudou was even more speechless. After her parents divorced, she chose to follow her father. It was obvious that she liked her father more than her mother.
Han Ze saw that he had almost finished talking, so he stood up and said, "It's almost time to rest. I'll take you to have breakfast so you don't get hungry."
Han Doudou stood up and asked stammeringly, "Didn't you just tell me to figure it out on my own?"
Why did you say you would take her to have breakfast
Han Ze looked at her, "This is the difference between you and Dad. Although Dad is angry that you are picky and ungrateful, he still can't bear to let you go hungry. This shows that Dad's care for you is not equal to your care for Dad. I am in a weak position in front of you."
Han Doudou's eyes widened, very dissatisfied: "It's obviously you who likes to control me, but in the end, it seems like I've become the bully in the family, bullying you all day long. Am I that bad?"
Han Ze walked forward, "You don't call me every day."
Han Doudou pouted and followed her father, saying unhappily, "Dad, I'm your daughter. How can you dislike your own daughter so much?"
Han Ze looked back at her and said, "Look, when you are unreasonable, you will say, Dad, I am your daughter, how can you do this; Dad, I am your daughter, how can you do that. But have you ever thought that you are my daughter, a student, how can you not study hard? This is your obligation now, isn't it?"
Han Doudou curled her lips and said, "We are talking about studying again."
Han Ze said, "See, you are always so overbearing. You are only allowed to criticize me, but not you. But you are my daughter, you can ignore me, but I cannot ignore you, because I am responsible for your future life. If you don't live well, I will feel guilty and think that I didn't take good care of you when you were a child. I can understand you, but you can't understand me."
Han Doudou was speechless and could only say, "I will study hard. But I still want to say that academic performance is not the criterion for judging a child's performance."
Han Ze smiled and said, "Dad knows this."
Han Doudou snorted.
Han Ze continued, "Dad just thinks that you are already a sophomore in high school, and you should know what to do and what not to do. It is a waste of time to spend your time doing meaningless things. You should set a goal for yourself, and have a clear idea of what you want to do in the future and what position you want to achieve in society. Dad is just a taxi driver and cannot give you a wealthy life. If you want to live a luxurious life, you can only rely on yourself. You are seventeen years old now, and you should understand what Dad means."
Han Doudou bit her lip and said, "Everyone can say it, but it's hard to do it."
Han Ze looked at her and said, "You haven't even tried it, so how do you know how difficult it is?"
Han Doudou glared at him: "You have a lot of shortcomings yourself. You only know how to criticize me and nag me."
"I've said so much, but you still haven't listened?" Han Ze looked at her and said without any emotion.
Han Doudou lowered her head, she had listened. At least she knew that if she wanted to gain her father's respect, she had to learn to respect him and not always think that she was his daughter and that she should give him whatever he wanted.
Han Ze looked at her expression, smiled and said nothing. It seemed that she had listened to him more or less, which was good.
Han Doudou ate breakfast, and the two went to the mall. Han Doudou walked in front, running towards the brand she liked. Han Ze followed her slowly, and Han Doudou said anxiously, "Dad, hurry up."
Han Ze smiled and quickened his pace. He walked a few steps to her, turned his head and glanced at the shelves. He looked at the salesperson and asked, "Are you having a sale?"
The salesperson smiled and said, "New models are not discounted, only these few are discounted."
Han Ze nodded, turned his head to look at Han Doudou, and said, "Those pairs of shoes are on sale. Can you ask the salesperson to bring them to you to try?"
Han Doudou glanced at the discounted shoes, which were old models from last year. She was unhappy and said, "Dad, our budget is one thousand yuan."
Han Ze said, "They are all the same brand of shoes, with little difference. They cost more than a thousand yuan before the discount." After a pause, he turned to the salesperson and asked, "How much are these discounted shoes per pair?"
The salesperson smiled and explained: "When these shoes were not discounted, the selling price was about 1,200 yuan. Now they are 50% off, just over 600 yuan a pair."
Han Ze looked at the discounted shoes, pointed at one of them and said, "Give her a size 37 pair to try."
Han Doudou pouted and said reluctantly, "Dad, I want to buy a new model."
Han Ze frowned and asked her, "Aren't they all just worn? Even if it's a new model, it will become old after a while. What's the difference? It's just a waste of money."
Han Doudou complained: "Dad, you don't keep your word, and I don't keep my word either. I want to go play games."
Han Ze was also angry. He said sternly, "Since you are going to play games, you don't have to buy these shoes that cost more than 600 yuan a pair. Let's go back."
Han Doudou grabbed his father's arm and said, "My shoes are broken."
Han Ze raised his eyebrows and looked at her: "What does it have to do with me?"
Han Doudou's eyes were red: "You are my father."
Han Ze said, "I'm your father, and you don't listen to me? In that case, you don't need to look for me if you have any problems."
Han Doudou asked, "Dad, how could you do this? You clearly promised me that you would give me 1,000 yuan to buy me shoes, but now you go back on your word and break your promise. How can I trust you in the future if you do this?"
Han Ze said calmly, "I learned it from you. You promised me to study hard, and every time you promised, you would play games anyway."
Han Doudou choked. Her father had become smarter and knew how to use her shortcomings to shut her up.
Han Ze added: "Through this incident, you should know that you can't trust anyone easily."
Han Doudou rolled her eyes and asked, "You're my dad, do I have to be wary of you every day?"
Han Ze smiled and said, "Even if I am your father, you cannot completely trust me. After all, sometimes, even I don't trust myself 100%. Sometimes I decide to do something, but for various reasons, I often fail to do it."
Han Doudou bit her lip and asked, "Then who can I trust?"
Han Ze asked, "Are you on good terms with Xu Yining?"
Han Doudou nodded, "We have always had a good relationship."
Han Ze asked her, "You must trust her very much, right?"
Han Dou Dou nodded again.
Han Ze continued: "For example, Xu Yining borrowed 10,000 yuan from you. When she returned the money, you trusted her and didn't count it in person. When you came back, you found that 100 yuan was missing. Even if Xu Yining didn't do it on purpose, what would you think at that time?"
Han Doudou pouted, "This analogy doesn't hold true. I don't have that much money to lend to Xu Yining, and Xu Yining's family is rich, she won't ask me for money."
Han Ze smiled and said, "I'm just saying if, what would you think if something like that happened?"
Han Doudou pursed her lips and said nothing. She wouldn't think about what ifs.
Han Ze answered for her: "If something like that really happened, no matter what you think, it would be a test for your friendship. Trust between friends is precious, but sometimes because of trust in each other, hurt will be inadvertently caused. If the money had been counted in person at that time, would this have happened?"
Han Doudou thought about it and agreed. Given her personality and her relationship with Xu Yining, it was very possible that she would not count the money in person when she returned it.
Han Ze smiled and said, "So no matter who it is, if it involves money or property, you have to clarify it in person to avoid mistakes and then you can't explain it. Just like buying shoes today, if you were at home, you could ask your dad to give you a thousand yuan. With the money in your hand, you can buy whatever shoes you want. Do you still need to bargain with your dad?"
Han Doudou pouted and looked at him: "I'll only be fooled this once, don't try to fool me again next time."
Han Ze smiled, hoping that the child would learn his lesson. He said, "Go try on the shoes."
Han Doudou sighed, thinking that age is always more valuable. She thought she was smart, but she couldn't outsmart her father.
In the end, I still followed my father's advice and bought the discounted shoes.
But think about it, a pair of shoes used to cost just over a hundred yuan, and the more expensive ones were over two hundred yuan. Now she bought a pair of shoes for over six hundred yuan, so she didn't suffer any loss. Thinking of this, the depression in her heart finally disappeared for the most part.
Han Doudou bought new shoes and put them on. When she walked out of the mall, she looked at the shoes on her feet and became happier and happier. She liked this brand of shoes so much, even if they were old models.
The father and daughter left the mall and went shopping for groceries, then walked home again.
Although Han Doudou had some complaints, she thought about what her father said about mutual respect. Her father ran so far to accompany her to buy shoes. Although the shoes were not the style she had in mind, they were her favorite brand and style. She could endure it even if her legs were sore just walking on the street with her father.
After returning home, Han Ze sat on the sofa and said, "My legs hurt from walking. You can cook lunch."
"I cook?"
Han Doudou looked at his father suspiciously, and Han Ze smiled and nodded: "You are seventeen years old, you should be able to complete such a simple task as cooking, right?"
Han Doudou frowned and said unhappily, "I've never cooked before. Can the food I cook be eaten?"
Han Ze said indifferently: "As long as it's cooked by my daughter, Dad will eat whatever it is made, and he won't be disgusted."
Han Doudou was speechless, but still said, "Dad, I really can't do it."
Han Ze looked at her. "Not knowing how to cook is not an excuse. There are recipes at home. If you can't do it, Dad can teach you in person. It's a pity that Dad can't drink because it's a rare day off. Let Dad enjoy the blessing of his daughter and have a ready-made meal."
Han Doudou muttered, "Isn't it possible to order takeout?" But she also knew that her father was frugal. He would not allow her to order takeout since he had just bought so many vegetables from the supermarket. Thinking of this, she reluctantly went to the kitchen. She looked at the vegetables in the bag and felt confused. She really didn't know what to do. After thinking for a while, she shouted to the living room, "Dad, how do you make rice?"
Han Ze stood up and walked to the kitchen. He said, "Wash the pot in the rice cooker and wipe the water off the bottom of the pot."
Han Doudou groaned, clumsily cleaned the rice cooker, and wiped it carefully. She said, "How much rice do you need?"
Han Ze told him the amount, and Han Doudou scooped out the rice. With the help of his father, he added water, closed the pot, and turned on the power. Han Ze said, "Press the button to cook rice, and it's ready."
Han Doudou finished, looked at Han Ze, and asked in surprise: "Is that all?"
Han Ze said: "Yes, that's it. Just wait for it to cook automatically."
Han Doudou opened his eyes wide: "So simple?"
Han Ze smiled and said, "It's easy to cook, but it's hard to cook dishes. I bought some snapper today, and we're going to steam it. Wash it, make a few cuts on the fish, and sprinkle some salt and cooking wine..."
Han Doudou took the kitchen knife and carefully but clumsily cut a few times on the fish. After making neat slashes, she breathed a sigh of relief, looked at Han Ze, and asked, "Dad, how is it?"
Han Ze raised his thumbs up and said, "Very good. I didn't expect my daughter to have a talent for cooking. Many people can't hold the kitchen knife properly when they cook for the first time, and they may hurt their hands. Although you are a little slow, the results are very good."
Han Doudou was a little proud and complacent: "It seems that I am not completely incapable of cooking. I didn't know how to cook before, but that was because I didn't learn."
Han Ze said, "You have learned it now, but it doesn't mean you can do it. From now on, whenever you have a day off, you will cook for the family."
"Ah?" Han Doudou looked at him with wide eyes, "I'm a student."
Han Ze said disapprovingly: "What's wrong with students? Don't students need to eat?"
Han Doudou stared at him, and Han Ze said, "You go to school, so don't I have to work? There are only two of us in our family, you can't let me do everything, you should also share some of the housework."
Han Doudou had no idea what had happened to her father. He had changed his strategy and stopped asking her to study hard. Was he trying to use a roundabout tactic to make her suffer setbacks in other areas so that she would naturally think of the benefits of studying and study hard? He was wrong. Although she was average in her studies, she was obviously very talented in other areas, such as cooking.
With the help of her father, Han Doudou finally finished making lunch after an hour and a half. She picked up a piece of fish and put it in her mouth. The taste filled her mouth. She wrinkled her nose and said, "It's not as good as yours. It's too salty."
Han Ze smiled and said, "Not bad."
He kept moving his chopsticks, obviously enjoying the meal.
Han Doudou pursed her lips, thinking of her father's occasional meal, which was too salty or bland, and she would complain non-stop and refuse to eat out of anger. Then she looked at her father's attitude towards the dishes she cooked, and she felt uncomfortable. She seemed to be a little overbearing and didn't know how to respect her father.
Putting down the bowl and chopsticks, Han Ze said, "The food is well cooked. Next time, put less salt. I believe it will taste better."
Han Doudou didn't say anything, but just nodded to show that she understood. After dinner, Han Ze said, "Wash the dishes and do your homework."
Han Doudou was very reluctant: "It's not fair, I cooked the meal, and I have to wash the dishes too?"
Han Ze said, "You're talking to me about fairness. In all these years, have I ever cooked or washed the dishes?"
Dad wanted to be lazy, and Han Doudou had nothing to say. After all, he was right. It was her father who had taken care of her for so many years. Now that she was a little older, it was just a matter of cooking and washing dishes. It was nothing.
Han Doudou was hunched over, washing dishes, and sighing, "When children act like spoiled brats in front of their parents, parents love their children and can do nothing but give in to their children. If parents are determined to let their children be independent, and act like spoiled brats and lazy in front of their children, letting them do everything by themselves, the children actually have no other options."
For example, when her father scolded her harshly and asked her to study, she rebelled and became even less willing to study. Now her father has learned her temper completely, being overbearing and willful, and even being lazy and not doing housework. She can't do anything about him, and can only bear it and do things according to his requirements. After all, although her father is willful, he is right and respects her, so she can't resist.
At around four o'clock in the afternoon, Han Doudou packed her schoolbag and prepared to go to school.
Han Ze came out of his bedroom and took out two small notebooks. Han Doudou looked at him curiously: "What are they?"
Han Ze handed her one of the small notebooks and said, "Dad spent the whole afternoon thinking about it and made this little notebook. Take a look."
Han Doudou opened the small notebook and saw a line of words on it. She frowned and said, "Daughter's Rules? What does that mean?"
After saying that, he looked at Han Ze.
Han Ze's face was serious. "The daughter's rules are made for you by your father. Here is also a book of father's rules. You can write down the rules one by one. Then your father will act according to your rules. For the sake of our harmonious relationship, you should always carry this book of daughter's rules with you. When you want to do something, open it and check if it mentions that you can't do those things. If it mentions, you should consciously and spontaneously not do them."
Han Doudou shouted in disbelief: "Dad, you are not serious, are you?"
Han Ze looked at her and said, "Of course it's true. If you can't follow the daughter's rules, then Dad won't follow the father's rules. Dad will be disappointed in you, and may even take certain measures against you with your teacher to force you to study. Let's see if you are willing to follow the rules and supervise each other, or if you are willing for me to force you to study. Make your choice."
Han Doudou looked at the small notebook in her hand and said, "This is too much. What kind of rules are there for daughters? You're lucky you could come up with this."
Han Ze spread his hands and said, "There's nothing we can do. We are a father and a daughter and neither of us is willing to give in to the other. We can only restrain each other through the principles of fairness and mutual respect through the Dad's Code and the Daughter's Code."
Han Doudou's eyes flashed. Mutual restraint? Then, could she ask her father not to be too strict when supervising her studies? As long as her father didn't treat her too strictly, she gritted her teeth and just followed the daughter's rules, she agreed.
The author has something to say: In this unit, Han's father has to fight with the naughty child in a battle of wits and courage. Fortunately, although the naughty child is naughty, he is not a bad person at heart and can be saved.