This is the first time Ruan Qing has understood the matter of "eating an only child to death".
[She is an only child, and she will be mine from now on! Immediately, after receiving the certificate, I turned over!]
Ruan Qing heard this sentence many times.
There is long-term depression, there is excitement about victory, and there is urgency and anger to stand up and become the master.
Ruan Qing listened for a long time that day. When Xicao returned to her house, she had already packed his things, ignored any of his excuses and pleas, and asked him to leave immediately.
Then I called the company and asked for a long vacation. Her performance quota for that year had been completed and she could have rested.
She went out to play by herself for half a month. When she was tired, she returned to her parents and rested for a month.
After hearing her confess the situation, her parents didn't say anything. After all, the breakup had become a fact.
But they arranged a blind date for her.
"We are of the right family, and we know our roots well." Ruan Qing said, "My mentality at that time was very indifferent. If you ask me to see you, I will go and see you. I won't lose a piece of meat."
Sure enough, the nostalgia and sadness between Ruan Qing's brows disappeared.
What a disaster!
Even though the marriage has obviously not happened, Ruan Qing still thinks so highly of this guy! !
"At that time, I thought, how can this person be so reliable? I am not tired at all when I am with him, there will be no big mood swings, and even my own mood has become stable. And he is also very good at taking care of others, especially Can provide emotional value.”
"If you ignore it, you will definitely learn a lesson later."
"Actually, I just feel that he is a very suitable person for marriage."
It was completely different for this person. As Ruan Qing talked, he felt a little nostalgic in his eyes.
"Actually, this is him. If I hadn't experienced what happened with my ex, I probably wouldn't like to fall in love with someone like him. I always feel that there is still a lack of passion."
The other party's family is in a similar situation, a second-generation private business owner. Compared with Ruan Qing's father, who has already planned to retire, he is now taking care of the other party's house and the business is booming.
"Anyway, I was always happy when I was in love before, and I didn't feel any loss. Now that I'm not happy, I should let it go."
"I don't have those feelings like the pounding of my heart when I'm in love, the intense thoughts after not seeing each other for a day, the urge to stay together every day... etc. Maybe it's because I had already gotten rid of that love pattern at that time. , I have experienced something, and my thoughts are different from before.”
The second generation is several years older than her and is almost thirty. Before we met, my parents said that he was mature and steady, but when we met, we found that it was completely different from campus love.
Economic conditions, family style, personal emotions.
"There is no 'perfection' in the world. This sentence is a truth." Ruan Qing thought of those things later, "He can take good care of people very well, but sometimes he also shows a little domineering. In fact, I I felt it at the time, but I didn’t take it too seriously.”
Twenty-seven had to take action, he reminded her: "Then why didn't it happen later?"
Who knows, sometimes the people introduced by parents can be really reliable.
Twenty-seven could see that it was indeed not comparable to Zhao Hao. When Ruan Qing broke up with Zhao Hao, his attitude was like throwing away an old piece of clothing that was worn out and out of date, without any nostalgia.
"But I just caught up with this gap. I was already rebounding from the matter of 'love'. It was at this time that I met him."
"It turns out that the little uncomfortable feelings that occasionally occur when you are in love are actually your subconscious warning you."
If there are no heart-shaped candles, you will get cold medicine, brown sugar and water. But it is stable, stable in every aspect.
In fact, it is a bit unfair to say that he is the second generation. He intervened in the family business very early, so he can be said to be the 1.5th generation. But it's not called that.
So she went to meet her blind date.
Ruan Qing continued: "After we met, we felt that we were in good company, so we started dating. At that time, I was working in a first-tier city, and he often went there because of business. Sometimes he would stay for a week and a half. , so it’s not a completely different place.”
"But his factory is still here, in the same city as my parents, and in the same industrial area."
"We have been dating for almost a year, and he mentioned getting married. Even if it comes naturally, I think we can get married. This matter has been put on the agenda."
"Then he asked me to resign and go home to fully support him."
"I disagreed at the time. Do you think my personality is the kind of person who can stay at home and be a full-time housewife? Definitely not."
"He mentioned it twice, but I refused. He didn't mention it again, and instead suggested that I leave the front line and go to the provincial capital to do it myself. You can start with a studio first, and if it develops well in the future, you can expand the company. .
"This is really good advice. Besides, it takes less than two hours to drive back to my parents' place in the provincial capital, and it takes less than two hours on the intercity expressway. It's super convenient."
"I was very moved after hearing this. Moreover, his attitude is also very good and he is very supportive of my own career. My parents also have the same attitude, because our family and their family also have many connections in the provincial capital. Everything is very convenient. And in this industry, to be honest, the customer base is just people from my dad’s circle, so it works really well.”
"Everyone is very supportive of me."
"Then what do you think I would choose? Of course I said I would just do it. I quit my front-line job and went to the provincial capital to prepare for the wedding and prepare the studio at the same time."
It has all progressed to the wedding stage.
Although he knew it didn't work out in the end, Twenty-seven still became nervous.
Fortunately, Ruan Qing said: "Just three days before our wedding, I accidentally saw on his mobile phone that he had a group with my parents. I saw the chat history and realized how they plotted against me." They Together they coaxed Ruan Qing to quit her job in a first-tier city and return to the provincial capital, saying they supported her in starting her own career.
In fact, the three of them planned for her to have a baby as soon as she got married. They planned for her to have at least two children, and they even agreed that one would have her husband's surname and one would have her maiden name.
They think it's okay to lie to her for a while. When she has a child, she will know that they are doing it for her own good.
Women cannot give birth too late.
Ruan Qing looked at those chat records at that time, and he had a completely different feeling from those rants he heard from Xicao a year ago.
Although different, one thing is exactly the same.
"This was not what I wanted," she said. "I realized all too clearly that the life they planned for me was not what I wanted."
Twenty-seven encountered some difficulties in understanding this matter.
He didn't know what Ruan Qing was concerned about.
He asked tentatively: "Are you angry that they didn't tell you the truth? Or... you just don't want to have children?"
It is not difficult to understand that women do not want to have children because they will die.
In that era of 27, the head wives of wealthy families would often take the initiative to take concubines for their husbands after they had legitimate children, not necessarily because they wanted to please their husbands. A big reason was that they did not want to have any more children.
The mortality rate for women giving birth is too high.
Your own life is more important than your husband who married blindly and dumbly. I have my legitimate son and my property. As for my husband, I can sleep with whomever I like.
"What I care about," Ruan Qing said, "is that others try to control my life. The two points you mentioned can be included in this point."
"They tried to manipulate my life and arrange my life through deception and joint deception. This is completely unacceptable to me."
"And they were people I completely trusted at the time. Do you know how fulfilled I was when I was preparing for the wedding and preparing the studio at the same time? I felt like I was really a winner in life, with a good career and a good marriage!"
"The results of it?"
Twenty-seven understood and silently recorded in a small notebook: Her principle is to live your own life.
After thinking about it, I made another note: You have to listen to her about having children, and you can't force her.
Another rule: You cannot deceive her means to achieve your goals.
Ruan Qing smoothed his hair: "So when I think back later, the uncomfortable little emotions that occasionally appeared during the relationship were all early warnings. You really need to pay attention to it. That is actually intuition. Your intuition is already telling you things. That’s not right.”
So Ruan Qing ran away three days before the wedding.
"Actually, where should I go? Over there on the front line. Everyone knows that I quit my job, got married, and opened my own studio. The industry is so big, and you can't see me without looking up. I really don't want to go back." she says.
Twenty-seven said: "So you came to Jiangcheng?"
"A lot of things are opportunities. When I was confused at the time, one of my former clients called me. He was also from this province, and his hometown was in Jiangcheng. He rebuilt the old house in his hometown, and because he liked it very much, I had designed a first-line villa for him before, and he wanted to find me, so he called me and asked me if I could go to Jiangcheng to do this job for him.”
"I received such a call when I was confused, so I drove here. Then I settled here, and two years passed in the blink of an eye."
Having talked about this in the past, Twenty-Seven already understood why Ruan Qing later got together with an immature person like Zhao Hao.
He originally felt that Zhao Hao was too immature and not a good match for Ruan Qing. If Ruan Qing only valued his sex, after getting along with him these days, he felt that Ruan Qing was not such a shallow person (Da Wu).
After knowing what she has been through, and looking at her choices, it becomes clear.
Twenty-seven even understood that if Zhao Hao stayed honest, Ruan Qing might be willing to stay with him.
Zhao Hao was actually not happy when they broke up, but he did it himself and couldn't blame anyone.
By the way, make a quick note in your notebook: Keep yourself safe and don’t flirt with others.
He would avoid the pitfalls that Xicao, Erdai and Zhao Hao had stepped on.
Finally turned off the light again, and before going to sleep, Ruan Qing asked: "What about you? Aren't you the age to be a grandfather? Don't you have any emotional experience?" Twenty-seven said: "I have met some good women, and they also treat me like Intentional."
Ruan Qing: "Then?"
"Nothing else." Twenty-seven twitched the corners of his lips, "They are interested in Mr. Zhao Fourth."
Ruan Qing: "Oh..."
Ruan Qing said: "Go to sleep."
Ruan Qing added: "When the identity matter is settled, you can fall in love openly."
Twenty-seven said "hmm" and said, "Okay."
(End of chapter)