The next day is the weekend. Gu Yingjie couldn't sit still, he wanted to try his luck, so he went to Qin's house with flowers and gifts.
It was still Mrs. Qin who received him with a smile. She said that Qin Wenyi went to play early in the morning, but Qin Yufei didn't seem to get up yet. Gu Yingjie looked at his watch, feeling a little embarrassed, it was almost ten o'clock, his family was fierce and liked to stay in bed, he seemed to be a little early.
Fortunately, Mrs. Qin was very polite. She asked Gu Yingjie if he had had breakfast, asked him to have some tea and snacks, and then said that she was going up to call Qin Yufei.
Gu Yingjie heaved a sigh of relief and was very grateful. If Mrs. Qin went to call, Qin Yufei should be too embarrassed not to come down.
It turned out that Qin Yufei was really mean, and what Mrs. Qin said was: "She said she doesn't want to see you yet."
Gu Yingjie's heart sank immediately, but maybe a week was enough for him to get used to this situation, and he didn't feel as bad as the last time he came to her house to look for her. So he could barely smile, and said politely: "Thank you auntie, I'll come again next time."
Gu Yingjie left the gift and left.
After watching him leave, Mrs. Qin went upstairs. Knocked on her daughter's door: "He's gone."
Qin Yufei opened the door, wearing pajamas, listless: "Oh."
Mrs. Qin walked into the room, sat shoulder to shoulder with her daughter on the sofa, and asked her, "Mom never asked you, what's going on?"
"Didn't Gu Yingjie tell you?"
"He just said it was his fault." Mrs. Qin looked at her daughter, "What did he do? Did he cheat?"
"No." Qin Yufei was very depressed, why did he always ask him if he had cheated.
"Having an ambiguous relationship with another woman for excitement?"
Qin Yufei was even more depressed, why did he have the same problem with Yin Ting. "It's not an affair. But his ex-girlfriend always looks for him and wants to get back together with him."
"Then what's his attitude?" Mrs. Qin asked calmly.
"I was caught once before. He said he refused and told her that he had a girlfriend. Later, that ex-girlfriend said that he was bullied by others and always asked Gu Yingjie for help. Gu Yingjie talked with her on the phone for a long time. I can't even get in on the phone. I met his mother in the mall last Saturday. I was very nervous when I met my parents for the first time. Because of this ex-girlfriend, it doesn't count if I came back late, and I hid in the bedroom to talk on the phone when I came back. I had a bad day." Qin Yufei became sad again as he spoke, "I was ashamed in front of his mother."
"So you think he neglected you because of his ex-girlfriend, don't you?"
Qin Yufei nodded, "Mom, his personality is like this. I feel a little regretful that I shouldn't agree to him. I knew it before I fell in love with him. He is too affectionate. He is polite to girls, a gentleman, Easy to talk. In the eyes of others, he is a nice man. He has been in love one after another. In fact, I know we are not suitable."
"Knowing it's not suitable, why are you with him again?"
Qin Yufei was silent for a while, "Yes, I just like him very much."
Mrs. Qin smiled and touched|touched her daughter's head: "What about now? Don't you like it?"
"But he is entangled with women, and I can't stand it."
"What's his attitude?"
"He just admitted his mistake. Said he would never do it again. But I can't believe it."
"Yeah." The mother nodded in response.
Qin Yufei hugged his mother's arm, put his head on her shoulder and acted like a baby: "Mom, I thought about it, he has this kind of personality, even if there is no Abby this time, there will be others in the future. Girls show affection to him and act like a baby to him Help, he is easy to soften his heart. He is very good to me, but he is not bad to others. I am not saying that I want him to become a rude and rude|ruthless person, but he treats no one All good, I feel very worried, I will get angry. Then we will quarrel. I hesitated for a long time before falling in love with him, just worrying about this. He has this kind of character, and I have that kind of temper. Mom, I Very petty, very narrow-minded. I never told you before, that boyfriend when I was in America, the one I kept saying I would bring back to show you, he, uh, he cheated. I'm so sad, I dare not Let me tell you, I loved him so much at that time."
Mrs. Qin hugged her daughter tightly. In fact, she guessed when her daughter said they broke up later. She can feel that her daughter really loves that boy. Every time she calls home, she always talks about that boy. She said that she will bring him back when she returns to China. Said, do a good job as a father, don't despise others. She said that the boy worked very hard, as long as he was given a chance, he would definitely perform well at work. She hoped that her father would give that boy a chance.
When a mother hears her daughter say this over and over again, she naturally understands how deep the emotion is. Qin Yufei was already planning for the future at that time, she wanted to take the boy back to China after finishing her studies, arrange a job for him, and pave the way for his future. Her future is with him.
Then suddenly one day, she said that they broke up and their relationship was not compatible. Mrs. Qin didn't say anything at that time, and didn't ask any further questions, but she actually understood it completely in her heart. She thought that her daughter would never mention this matter again, but she didn't expect to say it today.
"He, he slept with Vi. They've been together for a while, but I've been kept in the dark." Qin Yufei simply said.
Mrs. Qin touched|touched her daughter's head: "So you think Gu Yingjie will do the same? Will he cheat?"
Qin Yufei shook his head, thought for a while but said, "I, I'm not sure."
Mrs. Qin asked her: "Is he gentle or ambiguous towards girls? Can you judge this? Gentleness and ambiguity are two different things, and so are joking and making love."
Qin Yufei frowned and thought for a long time: "I can't judge." When encountering such a thing, he was so angry that he was so angry that it was impossible to make a judgment.
Mrs. Qin said: "Then how can you ask a man with normal social skills not to contact girls, and how can you prevent other girls from showing affection to him?"
Qin Yufei was stunned for a moment, then raised his eyes to look at his mother.
Mrs. Qin smiled at her: "you can't even control yourself, can you?"
"Mom!" Qin Yufei was unhappy, is it his biological mother? Why speak for others.
Regardless of her protest, Mrs. Qin continued, "Even if it wasn't Gu Yingjie today, it would be another man. Your boyfriend must have good conditions and charm. Mom believes in your vision, you won't I like someone who is disgusting, ugly and has no quality. Think about it, the conditions are good and attractive, how can no woman like it. It is impossible for a normal man to see a woman smile at him and let him get fucked. There are girls who confess to themselves Just let people die, right? Then he must have a personality defect and a psychological problem."
Qin Yufei pouted: "That didn't make him so exaggerated."
"So it's reasonable to politely refuse. Even if it's you, a boy politely confesses to you that you don't like him, but the other party has done nothing wrong and is not a bad person. You can't reprimand him unreasonably, right? If you are educated, you can say that you are gentle. But if you don’t explicitly refuse, but are noncommittal and hang on to the other person’s appetite, this is called ambiguity. Or even though you refuse, your eyes, body and language are teasing and full of hints. It's also ambiguous. It's the same with joking and having sex. Normal people would laugh when they hear a joke is funny, but the teasing and hints just mentioned are not included in the normal relationship between men and women. Look, it's actually quite easy to distinguish, isn't it? "
Qin Yufei didn't speak, she couldn't refute, but she was still unhappy. Then she is stingy, super sensitive to this kind of thing, and can't tolerate a little bit of it at all.
"Yufei, mom isn't talking for Gu Yingjie. Mom doesn't have any opinion on whether you want to break up with him or not. Feelings are like drinking water, and you know whether it's hot or not. But mom thinks it's time to talk to you now. It's time for love and marriage. You have to think clearly about the reason why you broke up with Gu Yingjie. Will this reason disappear when the next man comes? Although there is a saying that the next one will be better, But who knows if it's going to be better. It's up to you to decide if this is good enough."
Qin Yufei blinked, thinking of Gu Yingjie. She really liked him and thought he was nice. Except that he was nice to everyone. She really felt that it didn't matter if he kicked away those women who showed love to him, regardless of his upbringing and politeness.
Mrs. Qin smiled when she saw Qin Yufei's unconvinced look. "Daughter, there is no perfect person in this world. Men and women are the same. There is no such thing as happiness. It's the same when you grow up. Look at your father, let alone when he was young, he is now at his age. He is well-maintained. Well, I don’t have a big belly, I’m clean, elegant and elegant, and my career is so successful, I don’t know how many little girls come to Pakistan. It’s just that you didn’t see it, but I know it. Call him to ask questions, When he was on a business trip, he texted him asking if he could come to his hotel room to discuss business. He showed me his phone."
"Why did I show you!" Qin Yufei frowned angrily, his father was so disgusting.
Mrs. Qin smiled: "he just wanted to show off how attractive he is. He didn't cheat or apologize to me. He rejected those people. "
Qin Yufei bit her lip, wanting to say how do you know, but you can't see it. But when the words came to her lips, she thought that these were her parents, and she said that as if she was trying to provoke their relationship. But Mrs. Qin knew what her daughter wanted to say, she said: "This is the main point I want to tell you. Yu Fei, women must have wisdom. This kind of wisdom depends not only on the brain, but also on the heart. Use your brain to judge You know how much your father wanted a son, and your father was very disappointed when I gave birth to you and couldn't have another son. You don't know now, but at that time it was actually the biggest crisis in our marriage. "
Qin Yufei listened quietly.
"I said, even now he doesn't have to worry about no one to fall in his arms, let alone at that time. He never cheated, but there was more than one person who had an affair at that time. If I didn't handle it well then, you and I don't know what will happen now." Whatever, he doesn't know what will happen. Anyway, it won't be like this now. I thought at that time whether he would dislike me and my daughter for the rest of his life. Another woman gave birth to a son." Mrs. Qin smiled, "It's been more than 20 years now, and it turns out that he didn't. He treats you very well, doesn't he?"
"How do you do it?"
Mrs. Qin touched|touched her daughter's head: "This method and countermeasure, of course, is a different way to deal with different people. As for your father, he must be strong, a big man. At that time, I pretended to be generous and pitiful. It's all my fault that I didn't live up to my son's attitude, but I was very pitiful and quietly showed him the knowledge that it was the man's reason to have a boy and a girl. Then I pretended to plan a life without him, how would my daughter and I live? Hold him back, he is a successful entrepreneur, how can he do without a son? Of course, I also let him imagine how miserable it is for an abandoned woman and child. Not only is life difficult, but also everyone The onlookers laughed and ridiculed. At that time, he was so stimulated that he hated the heartless man who abandoned his wife and son the most."
Qin Yufei thought about it, and yes, a few years ago, a principal in the company went to the company and scolded her husband for finding a mistress for betraying the family, and her father fired that person in a fit of anger. Could it be that it was all taught by her mother
Mrs. Qin continued: "Not only do you want him to feel sorry for you, but you also have to let him know how miserable he is after being taken away by a female jackal outside. These things cannot be explained clearly in a few words, but women are sometimes really Don't be afraid to soften your posture. Being soft does not mean that you ask him to be considerate of his shortcomings and problems, but also let him know the bottom line. My bottom line is very simple. I can't accept any form of derailment. Your father I know. We almost broke up, he was scared, and we have been fine since then, until now. Of course there are quarrels, there are cold wars, there are frictions. But why do you say I am confident that he dare not cheat? Cheating, this self-confidence is what I have built over the past 30 years. Running a family is no easier than running a company. Judgment, patience, timing, countermeasures, concessions, rewards, and punishments are all necessary to run well.”
Qin Yufei frowned: "But what's the point of doing this, it's too tiring, it's too boring to live like this."
Mrs. Qin smiled: "Why are you tired? Tell me what you think is a big deal. In fact, everyone lives like this every day. You too. You say that one day you don't need to judge things, and one day you don't need to judge things. Patience. You drive on the road, there is a traffic jam, you endure it. Your client is difficult, you endure it, think of a countermeasure, even if you don’t cooperate with me, you have to think about what to say if you refuse, right? You’re hungry even for dinner You can’t put food in your mouth right away, so you have to endure it. Instead of fried fish sticks, eat fried chicken wings, isn’t that a concession? Do you feel tired and unable to go on? These things are done in the blink of an eye. Does it really make you feel tired and unbearable, but in fact you won’t be able to bear it at all.”
Qin Yufei was stunned. It suddenly occurred to him that he had actually endured Gu Yingjie's harassment all this time, and had resisted breaking up with him. So in fact, it's not that she can't bear it, and she even looks forward to his daily text message, hoping to see what he will say.
If you really can't bear it, you won't bear it at all.
"There is another very important point, a very, very important point." Mrs. Qin said, "If all your judgments and countermeasures work, it must be because you have a deep relationship. Otherwise, everything is useless. He loves You will be willing to be taught by you."
Qin Yufei pursed her lips, she felt that Gu Yingjie loved her. So can she transfer|teach him? Kick those annoying women away
"As much as you do for him, he will do for you." Mrs. Qin lovingly put her arms around her daughter, "You have to judge first whether he is worth the many things you do for him. Women who give selflessly are all stupid| Damn, women who just want to take are idiots."
So she has to change first? "What if I just can't stand a little trouble?"
"Then you can find someone who is not disturbed. Look at Qiu Zhengqing, he is unstoppable. He is probably very ruthless when he rejects women. He thinks the other party is very ignorant. I guess." Mrs. Qin's tone Some naughty. "Isn't this kind of your ideal type?"
Qin Yufei pursed her lips, Mom, you're too old to pretend to be cute, it's really unbearable.
Mrs. Qin laughed: "Actually, it's all good, you will think it through yourself. Even if you lose your love, you are not afraid. You must have felt very sad when you lost your love, but now it is different and you are in love again, and you have found someone you like again." People. So it’s okay to lose love. I also thought at the beginning, I’m not afraid of getting divorced, I’m so beautiful, my daughter is so cute, if this man is gone, maybe I can find another better one.”
"But you just said that God knows what will happen next, and now this is more important."
"Yes, that's right." Mrs. Qin said convincingly, "Now this is more important, you must pay attention to it, and don't just throw it away like garbage. But it's not the end of the world if you really lose it, life is still going on, There are still good men. Women, you can only enjoy happiness if you can bear the pain and loss. These emotional experiences are corresponding. You have tasted bitterness and sweetness before you know that it is really sweet and how sweet it is.”
Qin Yufei gritted his teeth and thought seriously. Mrs. Qin bumped her with her shoulder, "You are my daughter, I don't believe there is a man who is more difficult to deal with than your father. Gu Yingjie seems to be gentle and slow, so he should be easy to teach. Your father was only called a man back then. naughty."
"Then, if he promises to change this time, I will forgive him?"
"That won't work."
"Why doesn't it work again?"
"Leave him alone. Take care of yourself first. You forgive when you're ready to forgive, or you're just accumulating grudges."
Qin Yufei asked: "Then what if the preparation is not good?"
"Let's break up then."
"..." Qin Yufei's heart sank, and he suddenly felt sad.
"If you don't prepare well, why bother to trap yourself and each other, let's each find a better one."
Qin Yufei's eyes were red. She really couldn't imagine a life without Gu Yingjie.
"Are you afraid?"
Qin Yufei nodded.
"What about him, will he be afraid?"
Maybe? He kept begging her forgiveness in such a hurry. So Qin Yufei nodded again.
"After a long time, I won't be afraid anymore." Mrs. Qin said.
Qin Yufei was hit on the head again.
"So, you should solve it as soon as possible. People can't bear to be dragged on like this. After a long time, the heart will become weak. You don't have to think about others, think about whether you are like this."
Qin Yufei couldn't deny it. If it had changed her temper, it might not last a week at all.
"Go to him, tell him what you think, and don't make any decisions yet. Then you go on a trip, change a place, and let yourself calm down. Is it his problem, or your problem, or both of you? Then ask your own wisdom what to do."
Qin Yufei thought and thought, and suddenly grabbed his mother: "Mom, why don't you teach me this?"
"I haven't been waiting for you to bring your boyfriend back, so that mother and daughter can learn from each other. But you haven't. I have all the skills and nowhere to teach them. I'm also very depressed."
"I'm going to sue Dad. He's been tricked by a woman for decades."
"Then he will die of complacency. A man with a rotten body and a bad temper has a woman like me who is trying to plot against him, plot him to be healthy, have a successful career, a harmonious family, and a filial daughter. He has to go to the grave of his ancestors to worship and kowtow Thanks."
Qin Yufei couldn't help laughing, hugged her mother and acted like a baby: "Mom, I don't want to wait for the next one, who knows what the next one will be. I just want this one now."
"If you're sure he's worth your effort, go for it."
Gu Yingjie didn't know that Qin's mother and daughter had such a conversation. He drove to the shopping mall to wander around, firstly because he didn't want to let himself be idle, and secondly because he wanted to find a gift that would make Qin Yufei happy. After walking around, he was tired, and when he was resting on the bench, a man sat down beside him and spoke loudly on the phone: "It's actually very simple for a man to get a woman, just a trick."
Gu Yingjie didn't take it seriously, how could there be so many tricks. If you pretend to be sick, you will be shot to death by Qin Yufei.
I don't know what the person on the other end of the phone said. The man on the phone continued: "It's not about letting you die. Death is unpredictable. Let her be afraid that you will have an accident, isn't it enough? Buy a gift It’s not like no one has happened to being hit and killed when going out.”
Gu Yingjie's heart skipped a beat. He suddenly thought of Qin Yufei's sadness. The reason why she wants to go to America to see the star lights.
The man next to him walked away, Gu Yingjie looked at his back, and felt that something was weird, but he was very happy, he thought he had found a way.
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Author: Buy it and leave it! Hey, buy it and leave it!
Yin Ting: What are you doing
Author: Bet on which one will win, Qin Yufei or Gu Yingjie!
Yin Ting: If I bet on both sides, I won’t lose.
Qiu Zhengqing: You're so stupid. Get your money back. We start the game ourselves to collect money, so that we can make a steady profit without losing money!
Yin Ting: Yes. Hurry up, everyone, come on, buy it and leave it! Hey, buy it and leave it.
Author: Wait a minute, why are you betting on her? I am the author.
All the gamblers: They bet on the giveaway.
Author: I will go. Qiu Zhengqing, come over and let's chat.
Qiu Zhengqing: No time!