What is it like when there is a big gap in education between husband and wife
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For me, it's a good experience.
I have a dual-major doctorate degree, and my wife is a general college graduate. She is six years younger than me.
Meeting her was both a coincidence and fate.
She saved my life once when I was very young, but I didn't know it at the time. It took me a long time to realize that it was fate.
I can play chess, and my wife can also play chess. We have competed several times on the playing field. I have an impression of her, but not a deep one.
The real encounter was when I was eighteen years old, when she was twelve years old and had just finished her first year of junior high school.
It was a summer vacation, and I was invited by a friend to go to a KTV to celebrate his birthday. My wife was also singing at the KTV with a group of friends. We didn’t know each other. They went out without any money, so my wife came to ask me to borrow money.
My wife shamelessly asked me if I had any money.
I said I didn’t have any money, and I wouldn’t borrow it if I had it.
The little girl was young but had a bad temper. She took off the AJs I was wearing as collateral and took away all the 300 yuan in my pocket.
Before leaving, he said he would pay me back, but he never did.
We are in the same school, both in junior high school and high school. She is in the second year of junior high school and I am in the third year of high school.
I had not seen her a few times before in the first grade of junior high school, but I bumped into her several times by chance when I entered the second grade of junior high school.
During that time, my parents and I were at loggerheads.
My parents both wanted me to go to the United States to study. I didn’t want to go to the United States, so I couldn’t argue with them. I was young and energetic at the time, and I broke off the relationship with my parents out of anger.
Cutting off the relationship means that I have no source of income. It just so happens that my wife's father is looking for a tutor for her, which costs 6,000 a month. After thinking about it, I took the job.
At first, he only regarded her as a little sister who did not study well, was naughty, stubborn, willful, savage and tricky.
After getting along with her for a long time, I think she is a bit cute and her eyes are beautiful. I like to look into people's eyes the first time I look at them.
Later, she had a fever and I took care of her. She took the initiative to kiss me in a daze.
That was my first kiss.
I was confused at the time.
I had imagined that my first kiss would be after I fell in love with a girl, confessing my feelings to her, kissing her carefully and seriously, and telling her that I would treat her well.
I've always been a stickler for rules, doing everything according to my parents' plans. Although I have my own opinions in my heart, I want to break away from their constraints, but I am unable to do so.
After the kiss ended, I didn't feel too uncomfortable. On the contrary, I felt relaxed.
Some things that I held on to for a ridiculously long time ended with this kiss.
I fell in love with her first.
As a person, once I identify with one person, it will be her for the rest of my life.
I wanted to take her abroad, thinking that I would take good care of her and take care of her until she becomes an adult like a child bride, but a series of changes happened along the way.
We missed each other for ten years.
I don't know what's good about her either.
I keep thinking about her and don't want to let go.
My friends advised me to take a longer view, but I couldn’t listen to these words.
During this period, I went on a few blind dates and met other girls. I was disgusted within three minutes.
In fact, I am a person who lacks maternal love. My mother has been harsh and strict with me since I was a child, and I also dislike some of my mother's styles.
Before I met my daughter-in-law, I thought that I would find a very gentle woman in the future, the kind of woman who would have a peaceful time, know how to take care of others, be very gentle, and speak slowly and softly.
It’s not like girls of this type have confessed to me before.
The strange thing is, I feel nothing.
Maybe it's because I'm more chauvinistic. I like to take care of others. When I see that person being taken care of well by me, I feel a sense of accomplishment. I like to be relied on by my partner.
After marrying my daughter-in-law, we had a lot of resistance to each other.
I love her as always. Sometimes she is willful and I tolerate it.
After being married for more than four years, she filed for divorce twice and I filed for divorce once, but in the end we didn't get divorced.
We mutually agreed that no one would mention it a third time.
Her second divorce was a big deal and I still remember it vividly.
We both came to the Civil Affairs Bureau with our household registrations. I did this on purpose, just to see if she still didn't care about me.
Fortunately, she did not disappoint me. Her legs went weak when she reached the door, so she backed down and took her best friend away.
I won the bet.
I didn't dare to think about what would happen if I lost the bet and got divorced. I would definitely not let her get married to someone else. I would never get divorced for the second time in my life.
Many times I love her more, and I spoil her more and more like a child. She is impulsive, acts without thinking a lot, makes noises, and is careless.
Fortunately, I am there.
She doesn’t have as much experience as I do. She doesn’t know many things over the years, and she’s been very busy. I treat her more calmly. I give her advice when she doesn’t understand. She listens to me. I like the feeling that she relies on me. .
Yesterday I saw her secretly scrolling through her phone and shedding tears. I saw this question:
What is it like when a husband and wife have a big gap in education
I know she has low self-esteem again.
Sometimes she feels she is not good enough for me and has asked me many times why I chose her.
She is quite a thought-provoking person, and I don’t even understand some of the wild thoughts in her head.
But that doesn't stop me from loving her.
After three years of pregnancy, she gave birth to three children, two sons and a daughter.
I always love her.
Now, she is lying in my arms, asleep.
Good night, my little lady.
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