Mr. Kang is very interested in this kind of group outing, and he is very excited just to say it.
It was like a primary school student who had just been informed that the school was going to go on a spring outing. He couldn't wait to call the farmhouse and asked them to prepare him for a spring outing... No, it was a camping thing.
Yue Qin withdrew his gaze and couldn't bear to continue watching.
In the evening, Xia Sheng put on a mask while listening to her husband sigh...
sigh!
Xia Sheng turned around abruptly, and the mask fell off: "Husband? What's wrong?" Her husband was very optimistic and hardly sighed.
Moreover, this period can be said to be the happiest period of time. The art center is no longer in trouble. She can earn money while playing the piano. There is no problem with her husband's company, and there is an additional labor force in the family, who can not only help with the dishes , and also do them a favor when they are too late to pick up someone from the kindergarten.
Is there something she doesn't know about
"Why do you suddenly sigh?"
At this time, Yueqin told Xia Sheng what happened during the day, mainly about the farm. In fact, this incident was just a fuse.
It begs the real question.
"Can we really not interfere in the child's life in the future? Even if his behavior is wrong in our eyes, can we not force him to change it?"
In fact, the biggest problem is that sometimes parents' vision may not be able to see everything, after all, parents are just human beings.
But a child violates his parents' values and worldview. Can he really let him go and make his own choices
Yueqin had never doubted before, and even the young couple naively felt that when the child grew up, there would definitely be a sense of relief.
After listening to Xia Sheng, he laughed and said, "Xiaobao is different from Dabao, Dabao has been with us for too short a time, Xiaobao has grown up by our side since he was a child, and he will definitely be a good boy in the future. "
Xia Shengte is confident, Xiaokangkang is very smart and respects others, and there is nothing too wrong.
Yue Qin asked: "When you see that what Kang Yue does is not in line with your ideas, can you avoid coercive interference?"
Xia Sheng thought about it, and it was obvious that he couldn't.
Yueqin said: "We have only taken him for less than 4 months, and we are already used to controlling him. I hope he will walk on the right path for us. He is already an adult."
Isn't that what all parents do? Even if the child grows up, he still does not realize that the other party has grown up, and still feels that the other party is still a child.
There are no boundaries.
Xia Sheng suddenly thought of a picture in his mind, a grown child wants to do something, and he doesn't let him do it, and stubbornly feels that he is right, forcing the other party to do it according to his own.
... Isn't this her grandmother and her mother
Her grandmother couldn't understand her mother, couldn't understand why her mother had to get divorced? What do people think of a woman after a divorce
And her mother couldn't understand her, why did she want to be a girl so much
The gap between the two generations seems to be like the Great Rift Valley in East Africa.
And the responsibility of one generation seems to be to send the next generation to the next new era, to watch them go to an era that they do not understand, and stay in the old era, angry and painful.
Xia Sheng fell on the bed, tilted his head, sighed, and became the Yue Qin from ten minutes ago.
Being a parent is really hard. Xia Sheng, who has only been a parent for four years, suddenly thought of two other people.
Xia Sheng suddenly turned his head and asked, "Husband, how did your parents do it?"
To be honest, her parents-in-law didn't quite meet the society's requirements for the older generation.
They really rarely interfere with Yue Qin's choice. When he graduated from college, Yue Qin said to stay in the city with her, and they agreed.
They also come to see them every year, but they never actually wanted to live there. When they gave birth, others said why didn't their mother-in-law take care of her
Yueqin said that his mother was not a person to take care of people before, and Xia Sheng was not used to living with elders, so Yueqin took care of their mother and son alone.
If you want to replace it with ordinary parents, it is estimated that you will be in a hurry, and you can't wait to handle everything.
Xia Sheng said, "How did they do it?"
"I'll call them and ask." Yue Qin was also curious.
Yue Qin took out his mobile phone and called his father.
Xia Sheng listened intently, and soon Yueqin asked this question——
"Dad, did I do anything you think was wrong when I grew up?"
The person on the other end was stunned for a moment, and seemed to be asking another person: "Wife, what is the code for the family crisis we made an appointment before?"
Yueqin said: "Dad, the family crisis code is that the fruit of grandpa's house is ripe? We actually don't have grandpa."
The person on the other end said, "Then do you really want to ask? You are not in danger. Why do you suddenly ask such a question?"
"I found that if my child grows up, I will still judge what he does by my standards, and then I can't help but want him to correct." Yue Qin said.
"How would you deal with this situation?"
Xia Sheng held her breath and listened carefully—
"You can be more specific."
"I shouldn't have made any big mistakes, just take my brother as an example."
Xia Sheng: "..." Brother.
The man on the other end said, "Your brother is a civil servant and went to be a little actor. In my opinion and your mother, his behavior is that his brain was kicked by a donkey."
The person on the other end was very open-minded: "We can't do anything, to force him to come back as a civil servant? We just need to say a few words. In the future, he will walk all the way alone, and his path should be his own. Style, not repeating my and your mother's path."
"Everyone thought we shouldn't go to the city, including your grandfather."
"The biggest luck for your mother and I is that we stick to our own way. Sometimes my mother and I hope that you can disagree with us and stick to it."
Yueqin suddenly realized that what kind of person he wants the other party to be, in fact, only needs to say a word, but all the other things need the other party to bear the consequences.
"Raising children is like making wine. You do everything you need to do in the early stage. Fermentation is the child's own business."
After the call ended, the young couple couldn't return to their senses for a long time. After a while, the young couple, who had been parents for four years, looked at each other.
Xia Sheng: "Your brother is actually admitted to the civil service!"
Yueqin: "They should be given more space."
The two said it almost at the same time, and Qin Yue was happy: "What is your concern?"
Xia Sheng: "I also listened to what he said, and I hope the two Kangkangs can walk a different path from us."
Xia Sheng suddenly realized that she has gone now, a completely different path from her mother and her grandmother.
Mr. Kang got up early the next morning. The first thing he did was come here to wait for breakfast. It would take a while. Mr. Kang did not consider himself an outsider at all to find out the mashed jelly made by his big dad in the kitchen.
Then, he noticed that something was not quite right.
Wait, something doesn't seem right? Where exactly
President Kang suddenly realized, oh, when he came over, it was the same as yesterday.
The first thing is to drink the mash.
However, the violent mother took a look and was not at all ready to pat him on the head like yesterday, saying that he was lazy, it was obviously hot, but he had to eat cold.
In the past, he listened to the words and went to warm up the mash.
What's going on today
Mr. Kang couldn't take it anymore.
Did he do something wrong