Furthermore, because we are too familiar, no one is ashamed to bring up the issue of living expenses when we live together. If we don't mention it, one party will suffer for a long time, and it will explode for a while.
There are also two core issues of housework and cooking.
Unequal distribution creates resentment.
In addition, Xu Yizhang has two problems, one is cleanliness and the other is light sleep.
Her light sleep state is that as long as someone opens the door when she is asleep, she will wake up. Living with a sensitive person like her is actually a roommate that is more painful.
She didn't want to suffer from being disturbed in her light sleep, and she didn't want to disturb others by staying up late at night and singing songs, so she decided to live by herself, almost living near Qin Zhen, and it was enough to have someone to eat and go shopping with, and it was fine when she went home. It is ideal enough to be alone in a quiet room, to have a place to stay when you are sad, sad, and painful.
Qin Zhen asked her, "What kind of house are you looking for?"
"It's about the same as yours, but do I want one room for one room? It should have a balcony where you can see the sunlight coming in." Qin Zhen's is a single room, with sunlight but no balcony. Xu Yizhang wants an independent balcony. Sit on the balcony and enjoy the scenery. Single rooms usually do not have balconies.
"Well, let me ask the landlord for you."
"OK."
After hanging up the phone, Chu Huixin came to her again, "Girl, do you have sweet soup?"
In fact, Chu Huixin is really a good mother, but Chinese parents and children often have a problem, that is, they have no sense of boundaries.
She always came in Xu Yizhang's room whenever she wanted, never knocked on the door, and never cared about the time. Sometimes Chu Huixin would come in when she was looking for a quilt in the middle of the night. Before she got married, she didn't think there was anything wrong, but after getting married She feels very unfree, maybe she is mature, and she hopes to have more privacy and space in her life.
She turned her head and said, "Drink."
Chu Huixin scooped up a bowl of sweet soup for her, and the two sat and chatted.
Xu Yizhang asked her: "Auntie and the others went back?"
"gone back."
"Why do they come every day?"
"It's not because of your cousin." Chu Huixin took a sip of the sweet soup and asked her, "Did you say something to Han Shen?"
"What?"
"Your aunt said at night that Han Shen asked your cousin out alone in the afternoon. They didn't know what they talked about. When they came home later, your cousin said that he wanted to give the child to your cousin. How could your aunt be willing? Just come over and complain to us two elders... "
Xu Yizhang paused as he drank the sweet soup.
I thought Han Shen didn't read her WeChat, but unexpectedly, he asked his cousin out to talk.
It's just that in every family, it's difficult for the elders to pass.
She looked at the glutinous rice balls in the bowl and said, "Mom, actually, don't you think it's more suitable for the child to follow the sister-in-law?"
Chu Hui frowned, "Where is it? Why do you think so? Did your cousin tell you something in private?"
"No." She shook her head, "I just think it's best for the child to follow his mother."
"You don't understand." Chu Huixin sighed and said, "It's not as easy as you think for a woman to divorce and take care of a child? You think, if the child is with the father, then at least his grandparents will take care of him, even if the father remarries in the future." Now, grandparents can continue to take care of them, and my father’s family has property, so I can get some in the future. But if you follow your mother, usually if your mother’s natal family has brothers, the basic property has nothing to do with her, and divorce is equivalent to nothing. I'm gone, I have no money, no power, and I have to live and work with a child. How easy is it? Even if I finally remarry, people don't want a woman with a boy. If the remarried person doesn't want children, grandpa Grandma doesn't take over, so what do you say about this child? This woman is also having a hard time. "
What Chu Huixin was talking about was the thinking of the older generation. People of that generation basically thought so. Xu Yizhang disagreed in his heart, and retorted: "Didn't the sister-in-law say that she would not remarry?"
"My child, you think too simply." Chu Huixin said: "She is hurt now, so she said that. If she meets a good one in the future, isn't she still married? And if she doesn't marry herself, her family can marry her." Agree? She doesn't mean to be successful in her career, nor is she a strong woman. Does she have to live on her parents all her life? But her parents will grow old too, so it's impossible to control her forever. There are two younger brothers who are not yet married. When will they be married? Both younger brothers have married wives and live in the house. Can those daughters-in-law not dislike her existence? Can they think of a way to ask her to go? When the time comes, she will take What about a child?"
Xu Yizhang didn't speak.
Chu Huixin went on to say: "If she doesn't want a child, she will actually be better off. She will go back to her home to recuperate, and go to work and save some money when her health is better. With a child, the life is unimaginable, and the child is not He grew up in vain, he needs us to spend a lot of effort to cultivate, if you choose to take care of the children, you will not be able to work, and if you work, you will not be able to take care of the children, and putting the children at the grandparents’ house, is it really better than the grandparents’ house? ? And the grandparents have been watching the children grow up, in the grandparents' house, the children may adapt instead."
"I think these are all your ideas." Xu Yizhang couldn't help but said, "Now that the age is equal, grandparents are not so heartless, right? And the child wants to follow his mother even more."
"I didn't stop her from seeing it." Chu Huixin said, "And your cousin means that the child follows her and asks your cousin to pay 3,000 yuan a month for child support. In their family, they don’t want their mother to pay child support. In comparison, it’s more cost-effective to bring the child here, otherwise the child will follow the family’s surname and still have to pay child support, and grandparents won’t be able to see them when they want to. How uncomfortable it is.”
Therefore, in fact, adults still consider their own interests, and never think about who the children want to follow more.
Xu Yizhang knew that she couldn't understand her parents. The older generation lived in that environment, and their ideas had already solidified. She couldn't explain their ideas no matter what.
Although what Chu Huixin said has some truth, but the times are different, and the woman's parents may not really have the idea of "a married daughter throws water out" like most people in the previous generation. This is just her own deduction. That's all.
She decided to ask Han Shen.
Turning on the phone, I was about to send Han Shen a WeChat message when I received a message from him.
Han Shen: [Did uncles and aunts scold you?]
Xu Yizhang lay down on the bed and replied: [Why scold me?]
Han Shen: [about your cousin.]
Xu Yizhang: [What did you tell my cousin this afternoon? Why did he agree to give the child to my cousin?]
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