Now that her salary has risen, after deducting the monthly food, drink and rent, she still has a few thousand. Some of the thousands will be used to raise her children, and the other part can still be used to buy some supplements.
This is the tragedy of being a worker. The monthly salary is only so little, and if you spend more, you will become a salaryman.
In the past, it was fine to spend all the money if I was not pregnant, but now that I have a child and don't plan to get married, there will be a lot of troubles and pressures in the future.
You can apply for social security for maternity checkups and childbirth.
After giving birth, she can receive tens of thousands of maternity allowances with her salary, and everything after that will depend on her.
Raising children.
Save for your own pension.
Save for a teaching fund for your child.
Save money to buy a house.
These few items, because she is no longer married, she has to rely on herself to realize them. The petty bourgeoisie family created by her parents has nothing to do with her. If she leaves the original ecological family, she becomes a person with nothing. It doesn't matter, her parents can't help her raise her children when they are old, and she even has to take care of the elderly instead, which means that the only person she can rely on is herself.
This is the inevitable responsibility after a person grows up.
Marriage means that you have what the other half has, and if the other half doesn't have it, you just have to fight together to get it.
If you don't get married, you are fighting alone.
Among the two choices, it might be easier for Xu Yizhang to choose the former. After all, Han Shen has everything now. As long as she marries him, she can change her life and change herself from a state of nothing to a city with a house, a car and a degree. middle class.
But this time she really didn't want to.
As long as she doesn't want to, Jinshan Yinshan can't shake her. Self-improvement and self-reliance are the ideal world she pursues in her life.
As long as you can live according to your own wishes, it doesn't matter if it is a little bit hard.
Besides, she doesn't have a degree, but Han Shen does. According to what Han Shen said before, he will never get married in this life. Since he won't get married, then his degree will definitely be given to Xiao Xingxing, and Xiao Xingxing will be the same If she can go to the 12-year school, no matter how serious it is, she will ask the child's grandfather to let the child go to school on the grandfather's household registration.
In short, there are always more ways than difficulties.
At present, because of her pregnancy, she has to keep accounts every day, and control her consumption to no more than 50 yuan.
She doesn't buy clothes very often anymore.
Don't go out for dinner.
Stop ordering fruit tea and coffee that cost thirty or forty yuan a cup.
The selected fruits are also cheaper seasonal fruits.
It's not that she doesn't love herself.
It's not that she doesn't enjoy life.
It's not that she can't afford imported strawberries and cherries that cost fifty or sixty pounds per catty, but that she has grown up and knows that eating those doesn't mean she's a master. The key is to save money to raise a child and buy a house. These two things The most important thing in her heart.
For an unmarried woman, maybe only by buying a house on her own can her parents believe that she can really take care of herself.
And children are the heart and soul of every mother, and every mother will subconsciously give her the best.
Xu Yizhang lay on the bed, while thinking about these things, he remembered his previous life.
In her previous life, she was a city girl who was spoiled and raised by her parents. She was coquettish, self-willed, untouchable, and spent money lavishly.
Han Shen’s salary of more than 20,000 yuan per month was used to rent a house of 7,000 to 8,000 yuan, and almost half of it was gone. Then she became pregnant. Because she didn’t have a job, she didn’t have social security. She spent a lot of money on birth checks and childbirth. Coupled with the habit of buying whatever you want to eat, and an extra car because she is pregnant, the two of them can't make ends meet.
In order to reduce expenses, Han Shen hardly consumes himself.
But his never-complaining nature made Xu Yizhang unaware that their family life was very difficult. In order to honor his parents, Xu Yizhang bought a lot of things every time he went to visit his parents and made a big red envelope. The first time I knew it, I was silent.
But Chu Huixin is not a greedy person. When Xu Yizhang made a red envelope, she would buy things for her in a disguised form, buy supplements, and pay for Xu Yizhang to hire a confinement wife for Xu Yizhang. Buying toys, rocking chairs, dining chairs, all kinds of cars... It can be said that Chu Huixin bought many things for Little Xingxing.
After confinement, Xu Yizhang brought up the baby by herself, feeling abandoned by the whole world. In the middle of the night, Han Shen worked overtime, and the child cried day and night. She was exhausted and in pain, and broke down crying.
Please stop crying!
She even knelt down and begged for the child.
But the child was still crying, and she cried with her. When she finished crying, she had no choice but to accept her fate, pick up the child, and walk around the house with a blank expression.
Finally, when Han Shen came back exhausted, Xu Yizhang seemed to have grasped a life-saving straw, and also seemed to have found the source of venting. She thought the child was two people, but Han Shen worked overtime every day regardless of the fact that she was just a month old. The novice mother of the child was so angry that she threw the child to him to sleep.
Han Shen reeked of alcohol, looking at the crying child in his arms.
That was the first time he showed a disgraced look.
A stagnant career, a wife whose temper was getting more and more out of control, and a child to pay for.
He seemed to have nowhere to rest.
The delicate and handsome man in the past is no longer high-spirited, knowledgeable and charming, he is like a helpless child, looking at the baby in his arms in the middle of the night, his eyes slowly revealed disappointment...
In fact, that time, Xu Yizhang felt that he had hurt him.
But at that time, she was also exhausted, and she was also a woman who needed someone to care about, so she stubbornly refused to look at him, which made the relationship between the two of them drop to the freezing point. She didn't even want to reconcile, and even took extreme revenge I thought: This is better, a man who doesn't care about his wife should let him have no wife!
Xu Yizhang felt that his past self was a bit self-willed, but it was also uncontrollable. A girl forced to become a mother is like entering a maze by mistake. At first everything was confused, but after breaking through one after another, she could see clearly and adapt to it. this identity.
People say that only by sacrificing great work will you be highly praised by society.
This reflects that the role of mother requires a huge sacrifice.
Therefore, people should not get married and have children before they are mature, otherwise, when the hurdle of children comes, the marriage is likely to be cut in half.
In fact, their marriage was also cut in half on the level of children...
In particular, Xu Yizhang used to accept the idea: "If a man can't make you feel happier and happier, but can only make you feel more and more painful, this is not a healthy relationship, and this is not a happy marriage..."
She felt that every sentence of this passage was about her pain point, and once she substituted it, it would be difficult to get out.
She recalled her unmarried time, with her father's love, mother's love, friends gathering in twos and threes, and good academic qualifications and transcripts. She felt more and more that she was a victim of marriage. If marriage hadn't tortured her like this, her life It should be fighting for a career, gathering with friends on weekends, and living a chic and comfortable life, not holding a baby with high needs every day, no friends, no company, no one to talk to, and no one to empathize...
In the end, the wild thoughts in her heart seemed to form a huge storm, swallowing all her reason and thinking.
She couldn't control herself at first, and blamed Han Shen for this mistake, and said hurtfully again and again:
"If you have a house like my father, we don't have to rent a house, so we don't have to live so hard!"
"If I knew that you brought me such a day, I wouldn't marry you!"
"You wasted my youth!"
"A person like you is not worthy of me at all. My parents trained me to finish a key university, and I ended up falling into your hands!"
"You ruined most of my life!"
"You ruined my life!"
Thinking of this, Xu Yizhang suddenly opened his eyes.
What happened to her in the end
Why do you say such hurtful things
Although Han Shen was busy, he gave her all the money. Why was she still so aggressive
Was she suffering from some kind of mental illness
How can you be so extreme
It may be because of her making money in this life. She understands that money is not so easy to earn. She used to blame Han Shen for his incompetence, but now she struggles on her own, and she just needs food and clothing, not enough to buy a house. Degree.
And buy a house.
A room in a big city.
With her current job, she might not be able to afford it thirty years from now.
Thinking of the house price at this time, she sighed, she couldn't afford it now, let alone in the future.
The house price in Nancheng has always been the best, no one will lower it, and it will always be far ahead of the country's No. 1 in the future.
She might have to figure something out.