"Dad, how did you and Mom get together?"
When the original wife died, Yan Duojin, the eldest daughter, was already eight years old. For her mother, even after more than ten years, she still had the memory of the other party in her mind firmly stored in the depths of the sea of consciousness.
In Yan Duojin's memory, her mother was a hot-tempered woman with a straightforward personality and a slippery personality. Now that the Shan family can have such a foundation, it is not unrelated to her dedication at the beginning. In the family, the other party is also a A very good mother, even though she wanted a son wholeheartedly because of old ideas, she did not ignore the daughters in front of them.
What's more, being able to make such an excellent father think about him for half his life and never remarry for the rest of his life is enough to prove the charm of the mother and the relationship between the parents.
"We were different from you at that time. There were several ways to find a partner. Parents, colleagues, relatives introduced, and only a small number of people talked about their own. At that time, they were not interested in dating. It was right. , the family background is also suitable, you can make a marriage certificate, and then you will come here for the rest of your life. Your mother and I were introduced by relatives. We met on the first day. After the matchmaker got affirmative answers from both sides, we I went to see a movie with her, went to the park on the third day, and then the marriage was settled, and then the elders on both sides discussed the dowry, and after going through these procedures, your mother and I will get married a month later."
Yan Chu recounted what he saw from the memory of the original body.
"Is it just a blind date?" Yan Duojin was a little surprised. In the past, his father rarely mentioned things about his mother, and their sisters also thought that their father was afraid of being hurt by the scene, and they paid attention to this point in their daily speech.
She always thought that if her father was able to stay single for the rest of his life, it must be because they had a vigorous relationship before. Now it seems that she is thinking too much
"Then when you saw your mother for the first time, did you have that feeling of falling in love at first sight?" Yan Duojin couldn't help asking.
"Where is it so mysterious?"
Yan Chu couldn't help laughing, and touched his daughter's head, "Your mother has many brothers and sisters. When she was young, she and the first pair of brothers and sisters were sent to the grandma's house in the countryside. They didn't return to the city until they were old enough to find someone. At that time, she was dark, tied two braids, and was wearing a newly made dark blue shirt. She looked a little stiff. At that time, I thought she was not good looking, and I wanted your grandma to be the one in the middle. The online celebrity said, we didn't like your mother here."
Although he said belittled words, there was a warm and reminiscing smile on Yan Chu's face. Yan Duojin understood that even if his father didn't like his mother at the beginning, he must have changed his view of her mother later, otherwise he wouldn't use this He talked about the events of the year without any concealment.
"But your mother's place is different. Your father and I were so handsome when we were young. We still had a high school diploma. On the day of our blind date, your grandma helped me clean up and looked gentle. Your mother just saw me. The eyes are straight, if you say love at first sight, she's probably really like that."
"Dad, since you didn't fall in love with my mother at the beginning, why did the matter between the two of you end up again?" Yan Duojin asked anxiously.
Yan Chu patted his daughter on the shoulder, signaling her not to worry.
"Didn't I say it before? When we were looking for a partner, we looked more at the family and the meaning of both parents. At that time, I didn't like your mother, but your grandma did. They thought your mother was physically strong. , is a diligent woman, and your mother has a sharp temper, which is more to your grandma's appetite. At that time, she always felt that I was slow to do things, so she needed this hot-tempered woman to neutralize my temper. Since everyone around me said Okay, I thought I would give it a try, so I asked your mother to watch a movie, and I asked her to go to the park to play. When we got along, I felt that your mother was just like what your grandma said, and she was a suitable person for life. Accept this marriage, then we will get married, and then we will have you."
Marriage at that time was not so complicated. Get married when it suits you, and there is no love or dislike. Just make do with it, have children, and if there are no accidents, it will be like this for the rest of your life.
What Yan Chu said was completely different from the story about the parents that the sisters imagined at the beginning, Yan Duojin turned his expression down, and thought of himself with some regret.
"Dad, what kind of feelings do you have for Mom? Is it your responsibility?"
Yan Duojin thought of herself from her parents' marriage. At present, it seems that Yao Zhan is indeed the most suitable one for her, especially now that the two families are cooperating harmoniously. If they can really be together, they can also strengthen the relationship between the two. Partnership, it's a win-win thing.
She doesn't seem to need to think about other more complicated situations.
Yan Chu saw what the eldest daughter was thinking, couldn't help but sighed, then corrected her sitting posture, and let her look at him face to face.
"In the era when your mother and I were married, the relationship was mainly cultivated after marriage. If there was love, there must be. But for more couples, what supported their marriage in the future was responsibility and family affection."
Some lucky couples find that the other half is suitable for them in getting along after marriage, and love gradually develops. They are lucky. There are also some couples who do not fall in love with each other in getting along after marriage. However, family affection was born, and on the road ahead, they supported each other and stayed with them for the rest of their lives. These people were also lucky, and they were also the majority of their time.
It is the sense of responsibility of both of them that tests the second half of the couples.
In the 1970s and 1980s, material life had just been basically satisfied, and many people did not have the leisure time to pursue spiritual prosperity. The relationship between husband and wife revolved around daily necessities, rice, oil and salt, and children and parents.
After the 1990s, people's material level improved, and their entertainment life became richer. At this time, the test came.
Men dislike their wives for not being pretty enough, no outside women know how to dress up, and dislike their wives for not being gentle enough, they only know how to care about everything for ten cents, unlike outside women, they are knowledgeable, witty, and gentle.
In the same way, women will also dislike their husbands who have no other husbands who can earn money, and dislike their husbands for not giving her a good enough life, and women whose husbands are enough to earn money, may dislike the other party for not having enough time to accompany them, Compared with the temptations of those sweet words around me, the current marriage is lackluster.
At this time, they will think that the beginning of this marriage is just a family arrangement, and it is just a way to live together, and breaking the shackles of this wrong marriage is the beginning of freedom.
Divorce began to become more frequent and more justified, just like the literati proudly holding their new and progressive new wives in the Republic of China, and saying that they were not so proud and high-profile with the original wife who was married by Ming Media, just like the original marriage, it was someone else who took the knife What was carried out on their necks completely forgot about the poor woman who was also suffering in this marriage.
At this time, responsibility becomes extremely important.
No matter how great the external temptation is, responsible people will remember who accompanied them through difficult times, who gave birth to their children, and who followed them to honor their elders.
This world does not run only on love and love. Apart from love, there are other things worth sticking to.
It’s all right before you choose the other half. Since you chose at the beginning, then in the future marriage, you should be considerate and understand each other, instead of being tempted by the outside world, using the flirty words that I have no relationship with you , to put an end to the marriage.
Yan Chu didn't know whether Yuanshen had ever been in love with his wife, but he was certain that before that strange Zhong Xiaoduo appeared, he was a man in charge.
"but."
Just when Yan Duojin thought that her father was going to teach her that the most important thing in marriage was responsibility, Yan Chu suddenly changed the subject and changed his rhetoric.
"In our time, there was no choice. Everyone said that you were not young, so you had to go on a blind date and get married. Everyone said that the person was suitable for you, so you had to argue with him. That society is like this. You can't be different, just Able to follow the planned life and live step by step."
Yan Chu pinned the fine sideburns behind her ears for her daughter, and looked at her daughter with extremely loving eyes: "I like this era because it can accommodate more voices."
"I hope that when you show up to your dad with your boyfriend, it's because he's the one you like, not just the right one. I hope one day I take your hand and hand you over to another man. It's because you love him, because you want to marry him, not because others say, when you're old, you should get married and have children, that's not true."
"Dabao, Dad hopes that in your future marriage, there will be not only responsibility, but also love."
Facing Yan Duojin's puzzled eyes, Yan Chu smiled: "Don't worry, Dad is very open-minded. If you don't find the one you're really willing to marry, then we'll talk about a lifetime of love. If one day you get Seeing a girl come back, saying that she is the woman you like, dad also raises his hands to support, but there is one thing, dad wants you to remember, that is, don't get married just for the sake of getting married, that kind of life is not what dad wants to see of."
Yan Chu didn't think that kind of marriage that fit each other was bad, but because Yan Duojin was his daughter, he hoped that she would have a better life.
"dad."
Yan Duojin's eyes were slightly red, and he couldn't help but buried his head in his father's chest, and hugged him tightly.
She felt that her father should know about her recent troubles. What he said just now was also his suggestion as a father.
To be honest, getting married in this circle is not a rare thing. As early as when he decided to inherit the Yan family, Yan Duojin was ready to find a husband of similar family background who would be beneficial to the development of the Yan family. Yao Zhan was such a man People, there is nothing like or dislike, just because the other party is suitable.
Just as Yao Zhan expressed satisfaction with her, it was only because of the union of interests.
But what her father meant now was clearly that she simply wanted to find a man she liked, not a husband who would be good to Yan Shi.
Yan Duojin felt that the luckiest thing in her life was probably having such a wise and loving father.