With the progress of society, many men and women agree to trial marriage. They think that living together for a while before marriage can tell whether two people are suitable for living together. If it is not suitable, why start a marriage that is doomed to fail
I also agree with trial marriage, but I think that trial marriage is not to test whether two people are suitable for marriage, but to see what is not suitable for two people, and what kind of living habits need to be changed in order to live together more harmoniously .
If you don't try, you won't know, try it and be shocked!
Classmate Xiao Cheng is a boy with serious cleanliness. He often dislikes my hair everywhere, dislikes me for dropping potato chips on the bed, and dislikes me for always throwing things around, making the room a mess.
When I'm in a good mood, I'll admit my mistake with a good attitude, and when I'm in a bad mood, I'll go back with anger and contempt.
When we disagreed, we would inevitably quarrel.
Every time he quarrels, with his quick reaction speed, careful logical thinking, and sharp words to the point, he can kill the living and the dead in minutes!
Once, I was so angry that I ran back to the bedroom.
My new roommate Chaochao has a lot of research on constellations. Seeing the sadness on my face of being abandoned, she kindly reminded me: "Virgo and Gemini are not compatible at all. When the two constellations are together, it is a human world. Tragedy, so it's not necessarily a bad thing for you to break up."
I didn't believe it at first, but after following her on the constellation website, I finally understood why I wanted to abandon classmate Xiao Cheng a hundred or a thousand times every day.
Because the meticulous and cautious Virgo man and the changeable Gemini woman are two completely different types of people.
Virgo men belong to the calm and orderly thinking family, while Gemini children belong to the jump-thinking type, without principles, saying one thing and doing another. Maybe at the beginning of the relationship, the attraction between the two people is very strong, and they love to death. Once they get along for a long time, the Virgo man will gradually become cold and even bored. Under such circumstances, will the emotional Gemini not leave him
of course not!
When I realized that our zodiac signs were seriously incompatible, Xiao Cheng's classmate called.
I carefully told him my decision: "Let's break up!"
He was silent for a few seconds on the other end of the phone, without holding back: "Okay, you can divide it if you want."
"You bring my things, all my things." After that, I hung up the phone.
Half an hour later, he called me and told me to go downstairs, and I found that he only had a bag of chips in his hand.
"What about my stuff? Why is this only one?"
He looked at me helplessly: "You have so many things, I brought them, and I have to take them back in a while, so troublesome, just take some symbolic things."
"You!" I stamped my feet in anger, "Don't think I'm joking with you, I'm serious."
"I know you're serious, and I'm serious too." He looked at his watch, "It's past twelve o'clock, you haven't eaten yet, right? Let's have our last meal, which is considered a breakup meal."
“…Where to eat?”
"Your favorite 'Old Sichuan flavor'."
"Well, okay!"
During the breakup meal, he counted his mistakes with great sincerity and his determination to correct them... After he finished speaking, he held my hand and looked at me affectionately: "How about you try it again? ."
"try out?"
"Well. I've been sent back to the factory for repairs, and I'm sure there won't be any more quality problems."
I thought about it for a second and nodded vigorously: "Okay, let's try again."
On the way home holding hands, I said to him, "I don't blame what happened in the past, but I have two requirements that you must fulfill."
"tell me the story."
"The first request is very simple: if we quarrel again in the future, and I'm angry, you must coax me until you make me happy."
"Why do you want me to coax you, can't you coax me?"
"I can't! My heart is very small, and the little things are like the sky is falling! If I'm in a bad mood, I won't be able to eat, sleep, or even die! You are different, you have a strong psychological capacity, and in your opinion - it is a trivial matter when the sky falls!"
Xiao Cheng thought about it carefully again: "It seems like this. Well, I promise you! What is the second requirement?"
"Second, I can only say abandon you, you can't say abandon me."
"That doesn't sound fair."
"It's not fair, but I'm a girl, I'm emotional, I'm impulsive! I often make a decision on impulse, and regret it after three minutes. You are so rational and calm, if you say you abandon me, then you must You really want to abandon me!"
He thought about it: "It sounds reasonable, well, I promise you."
I immediately stretched out my little finger: "Let's pull the hook, and the hook cannot be changed for a hundred years!"
Many, many years later, someone deeply sighed: "People, don't sign an unequal treaty for a hundred years because of a momentary pity, because a hundred years is too long, more than 36,500 days, It’s easy to promise, but hard to keep…”
However, it's too late!
A few days later, we were arguing again.
After a heated argument.
I yelled angrily: "You let me go, don't stop me!"
He let go of the hand that was holding my wrist tightly: "If you have to go, then go. Before leaving, I will give you something."
"what?"
He took out an exquisite bracelet: "This bracelet, I originally wanted to give it to you on Valentine's Day. Since we broke up, it should be considered a breakup gift."
"I've never heard of a breakup with a gift."
"We are the exception."
He carefully put the bracelet on my wrist and gave me another deep hug: "I will miss you."
"Me too." I miss him a little now.
"Then don't go. I know I was wrong, and I won't make you angry again, okay?"
I looked down at the delicate bracelet on my wrist and asked with tears in my eyes, "You really don't make me angry anymore?"
"Not anymore."
"Oh." I took off the chain and put it in his hand, "You can give it to me on Valentine's Day."
After another heated argument.
"I have to break up with you this time, it's useless what you say!" I vowed.
He was silent for a moment: "In the middle of the night, don't divide it, we will divide it tomorrow!"
"I can't wait, not even a minute!"
"Can't you be a little more rational? At this time, your apartment is closed and we broke up. Where are you going? It's freezing cold, do you want to wander on the street?"
This statement makes sense, I thought for a while: "I'll go to an Internet cafe."
"Internet cafes are dirty and messy, there's no place to rest when you're tired, and no place to sleep when you're sleepy, so why are you making trouble for yourself?" Seeing that I was a little hesitant, he softened his tone and patted me on the shoulder, "Well, are you here? Sleep well at home, and I'll go to the Internet cafe."
"However, the Internet cafe is dirty and messy, and there is no place to sleep..."
He immediately said, "Why don't we wait until dawn tomorrow, and then talk about the breakup?"
"Okay." I lay down on the quilt.
He leaned over, hugged me, and after some vigorous resistance, I succeeded... surrendered!
A few days later, Xiao Cheng made me angry again.
Before I opened my mouth, classmate Xiao Cheng said kindly for me: "Are you going to abandon me again? You don't have to say it, just abandon it if you want to."
"..." Without robbing me of the dialogue.
"Next week is your birthday. I'll take you to buy a present. It's our parting gift and keep it as a souvenir."
"I don't want breakup gifts anymore!" I've had a lot of breakup gifts.
"Then you can give me one." He said seriously, "I have given you so many, but you have never given me one."
I thought about it and it made sense: "I'll buy you a pair of sneakers. Your sneakers are worn out."
His eyes softened: "Okay."
We went to buy a pair of sneakers together, he bought me another birthday present, and we had another "breakup meal"...
Why can't I remember why we quarreled in the morning
On the way back, I complained, "Every time you coax me casually, I don't get angry anymore. It's just too easy for me to be coaxed by you, and you don't know how to cherish it, and it always makes me angry."
He glanced at me resentfully: "Just coax? Do you know how many brain cells I waste every time I try to coax you?!"
I patted his head, "It's okay to waste a little bit! Anyway, the most important thing you need is brain cells."
During our break-in period, I can't remember how many times we broke up. In short, the "break-up gifts" I received can fill a cabinet. As for "break-up meals", I don't know how many meals I have eaten.
However, the result of the breakup has always been the same - the gift is bought, the food is finished, we go home happily holding hands, the sound of the waves is still the same.
One day, I asked classmate Xiao Cheng, "People say that you can't say things like 'break up' easily. Saying it will hurt your feelings, but I've said it so many times, and I haven't seen it hurt your feelings?"
He stopped his hand turning the book, looked up at me, and answered seriously, "That's because my feelings for you are too deep, and I've been hurt a hundred and eighty times, and you can't tell."
I was very happy, and deeply felt that Xiao Cheng's sweet words became more and more easy to understand.
I asked again: "You promised me that you would not abandon me, but you didn't promise not to be abandoned by me. Why do you have to coax me back every time I say goodbye to you? You can't leave me like that?"
He lowered his head and continued to read.
I snatched his book: "Hurry up and answer me!"
He reluctantly looked at the book in my hand and replied, "Because you told me a long time ago: you love someone with all your heart, and you can't bear the pain of breaking up. Although I want to abandon you a hundred times every day, but I'm always worried that you can't take it..."
My nose was sore and my eyes were a little wet. I threw the book to him: "The most annoying thing is you. Saying 'Can't live without me' will kill you!"
He put his arm around my shoulder and said with a smile, "Since we decided to have a relationship that never breaks up, we can only do it."
We are about to be ten years...
I don't know if we can live forever, but I never regret knowing him, falling in love with him, choosing him, and giving him all the best years of my life.
In fact, men are not born to please women, they must be taught patiently.
- Lesson 10 of "The Secret Book of Love" -
If a man never said how important you are in his heart, never said what he paid for you, never even said to you: I like you!
However, he will always be there when you need it.
Well, he might just like you!
Such a man, you must give him a chance to get close to you, because he knows what is true love!