The road of love is not smooth sailing, but it will not be without a road.
If you think that your love has reached the point where there is no way out, then please don't attribute the mistake to the fragility of "love", because you did not try your best to find a way out.
Every pair of parents loves their children wholeheartedly. They regard you as a treasure in the world. They oppose you being with the person you love, just because in their eyes, you are worthy of being cherished, cared for, and loved by better people. Love forever!
Based on this great love, when my parents heard that I was in a relationship with a 20-year-old boy, and they were living together, one could imagine how severe the consequences would be.
When I came home from the holiday, I was scolded by my mother for being completely skinny: "You have been careless since you were a child, and now you are even more lacking. He is a man, it doesn't matter if you play, you are a girl, can you afford it?"
I said, "He's serious about me."
"Seriously, seriously now, can you be serious in the future?"
"… "
Later, I was finally criticized by my mother to the point that I couldn't bear it anymore. I left a sentence and slammed the door and left: "Anyway, I like him, and I just want to be with him."
The next day, my cousin heard that I was in love with a 20-year-old boy, and she also came to persuade me: "Xinxin, you can be more hearty. Now, which man is not in love with you? , eachother, when he abandoned you, he didn't look back It's as hard as going to the sky!"
I nodded, I thought about it, I thought about it every day, and I dreamed about it, so I was especially afraid that he would get tired of me and not want me after a few years.
I said, "Cousin, no matter what happens in the future, I will not leave him now."
cousin:"… "
The five aunts, aunts, aunts, aunts, and uncles who have a common language with me, they heard that I was dating a 20-year-old boy, and they took turns to persuade me as if they had made an appointment.
I know that they love me and love me, so they don't want me to go the wrong way. I don't want me to be bruised all over by a man one day before I realize how stupid I was back then.
But I'm just so stupid, knowing that this is a dangerous gamble, and losing the rest of my life will cost me the happiness of the rest of my life, but I'm still willing to gamble once...
Xiao Cheng called me, heard that I was in a bad mood, and asked me why I was not happy.
I told him, "Because everyone except me thinks there's no chance of me and you."
He smiled and said, "Not everyone, but me!"
"… "
After hanging up the phone, he sent me a song, "Courage" by Liang Jingru.
I know, that's what he always wanted to say to me: "Love really needs courage to face gossip, as long as you look affirmative, my love has meaning, we all need courage to believe that we will be together... "
In those difficult days, every time I was not firm enough, I found this song and listened to it several times, and my courage was multiplied in an instant!
It didn't take long for my future in-laws to also hear about my "inappropriate" relationship with their precious son.
They talked on the phone with classmate Xiao Cheng for more than an hour.
I didn't hear what they said, I saw him holding the phone and frowning deeply, silent.
Finally ended the call, I asked him, "What did your parents say? Are they against us being together?"
"No, they just asked casually," he said.
Just ask, he will be so frowning
I don't believe it: "Did they say anything else?"
"My dad said that there are many places to spend money with a girlfriend. Tomorrow, give me a bank card to transfer some money."
Romance novels really are art! In reality, the father who will cut off his son's source of income is not his own father!
Ever since I went to college, I have had a habit of self-abuse. Every time I don't want to study and just want to fall into idol dramas, I go shopping.
Specializing in shopping malls with elegant environments and prices beyond my ability to afford.
Because every time I see those skirts, jewelry, and cosmetics that I like, I will have a strong motivation to study. After I go back, I can study hard for at least half a month.
My good habit of self-motivation came after meeting classmate Xiao Cheng... Alas! tragedy!
One day, I found that classmate Xiao Cheng was too addicted to Wenrou Township and didn't think about his studies, so I decided to take him to feel the inspiration. I saw a particularly beautiful dress on the model, and I liked it so much that I couldn't help but try it.
He saw that I liked it: "The clothes are quite suitable for you, just buy them if you like them."
I glanced at the tag and pulled him away.
"Is it expensive?"
"I'm going back to study hard, and I'll buy it when I make money in the future."
A few days later, on a silent winter night, I was alone in a house like an ice cellar, and "Courage" was playing on a loop on my computer:
"Finally made this decision, I don't care what others say, as long as you are the same, I'm willing to go to the ends of the earth with you..."
The cold wind blew in through the crack of the window, biting to the bone. I look at the electric heater, think about the electricity bill last month, bear it!
I cut the old sheets to pieces and blocked the windows, but it still couldn't stop the terrifying cold outside.
I opened the closet, looking for more clothes to wear, and accidentally saw the one I liked…
When Xiao Cheng came back from get off work, he saw me sitting on the bed in new clothes and rubbing my fingers. He immediately turned on the heater and put my frozen hands on the only warm chest.
He asked me, "Is it still cold?"
"It's not cold anymore." I pointed to my clothes, "When did you buy it?"
He replied casually: "I bought it at noon. When you came back, you were not at home, so you hung it in the closet first."
"But... it's expensive."
"As I said, there are plenty of opportunities to make money, but not very often to please you," he said with a smile.
Did he say it
He is not good at anything, but his memory is always so good!
I'm wearing my favorite clothes and leaning on my favorite boyfriend.
It was the coldest winter I have ever experienced and the warmest winter I can remember!
He hugged me and suggested, "Let's take the postgraduate entrance exam together!"
"Postgraduate entrance examination?" The experience of the college entrance examination has left me with lingering fears, and it has caused me a psychological shadow, and I don't want to take the test again.
"Well, maybe our parents would change their minds if we went to graduate school together."
My dad did hint to me: "Work is no better than studying. The society is very complicated. There are many people in contact, and you will always change some of your original intentions. If you can stay in school, your relationship may be more stable."
I hesitated: "But with my stupid brain, I can't get into graduate school if I'm exhausted!"
"Don't worry, there's me, I can help you."
"But… "
He smiled and kissed my face: "You don't want to be my classmate anymore?"
"miss!"
"After a while, I quit my job and concentrate on accompany you for the postgraduate entrance examination!"
"Okay!"
Two months later, he quit his job to accompany me to concentrate on reviewing. Since then, I have also embarked on the road of no return for postgraduate entrance examinations.
The time of struggling for the postgraduate entrance examination was the saddest and warmest time in my memory.
Every day, we go to the study room to study, rain or shine, and concentrate on the piles of exercises. We don't come back until late at night with tired and dizzy minds. I leaned on the two big heads of Crayon Shin-chan, so tired that I didn't want to move. He would boil a pot of hot water and bring it to let me soak my feet...
Looking at his gentle eyebrows, I always say, "It's worth dying for you!"
Having said that, many times faced with the postgraduate entrance examination materials, I really couldn't hold on, and said discouraged: "I don't want to take the test! I can't pass the test at all... Why should I waste time on impossible things? "
At that time, classmate Xiao Cheng always said the same thing to me: "Some things, if you persist, you may not succeed, but if you don't persist, you will definitely fail... Even if you are doomed to fail, when you hope you fail , say 'I tried hard, I don't regret it!' Or say 'If I had worked harder at the time, it might not have been the result...'"
I gritted my teeth and picked up the book to continue reading.
I didn't want to be admitted to graduate school, I just want to be able to say to myself calmly one day - I did my best, I have no regrets!
For me, who has not passed CET 4 N times, I can imagine how badly I was tortured by English reading.
And how badly he was tortured by my stupid mind, I don't want to know. But he always kept his temper and taught me how to comprehend the subtle ideas of the teacher who gave the question, and taught me how to memorize boring English words.
Before going to bed at midnight, he would dig out a political book, tell me about Deng Xiaoping's advanced theories, and discuss materialism and idealism with me.
When I woke up in the morning, he always had to test me a few English words first. In order not to be despised by him, I had to work hard to memorize the words.
Whenever I couldn't bear the pressure and wanted to give up, he would accompany me to walk on campus and describe the good time as a classmate for me: "We will be admitted to graduate school together, we will become classmates again, we will take classes together, go to the cafeteria to eat together, you You can also go to the playground to watch me play football and be a cheerleader for me…”
Looking forward, I will continue to study with full energy.
Whenever I was exhausted, he would take me to eat my favorite barbecue. In the aroma of the meat, he promised me: "In the future, when we are admitted to graduate school, I will bring you to eat the barbecue in this restaurant every day..."
I smiled and held his hand: "Don't forget what you promised me."
"You should have confidence in my memory."
"Well, even if I don't have confidence in everything, I have confidence in your memory."
At that time, he was my biggest motivation and my most hopeful future...
The postgraduate exam was over, and I was anxiously waiting for the results.
We all passed the exam.
I don't remember how many points I got in the test. I only remember that he got a non-human score on the test, and he was the first in the whole department.
The parents, who have a very high degree of admiration for higher education, heard the news and completely calmed down.
My father also had a sincere talk with me, and the main idea was to suggest to me: "You should study for a Ph.D. together, and your relationship in school is relatively stable."
Considering that my father has eaten more salt than I have eaten, I called Xiao Cheng that night: "You can study for a Ph.D., and I also take a Ph.D."
He was very hesitant: "It will take at least four years to study for a Ph.D."
"Four years is not too long. Anyway, you are young and have time."
"But are you sure you can graduate with a doctorate?"
"For our future, I have to fight this little life to read!" I said, patting my chest.
"Okay, then let's make a mistake."
In this way, we made a mistake in the end!
I believe that there is no right or wrong in the road to happiness.
Even if you choose the wrong path, as long as you keep going and don't look back, you will still reach the end of happiness.
I am afraid that you are always going back and forth on different roads, not knowing what is the happiness you want.
- Lesson 11 of "The Secret Book of Love" -
If you're sure you like him, don't let him know right away, it's not to keep a woman's pride, but something that is too easy to get will appear less precious.
Try to get close to him and let him get to know you better, wait until you are sure he understands you very well, if he still doesn't show anything. Then, just say it directly!
Because it is very likely that he is a person with a super long perceptual reflex arc, just like someone else!