Perhaps, in the eyes of the previous generation who did not have the opportunity to study, the doctorate is a high-level title, representing a high degree of education, high IQ, and low to unlimited emotional intelligence...
In fact, the mass-produced "products" of doctors are not that tall. They are just a type of people who dedicate their whole body and mind to one thing.
If a person is willing to do one thing wholeheartedly and insist on it for several years, then he can do it well even if his IQ is low, just like - me!
My doctoral project is the same as my master's, which is to study a certain special material, and it is specifically to contribute to the aerospace industry. To be realistic, it is this kind of thing that burns money very much. Except for the aerospace industry regardless of cost, no one has the heart to burn it.
One day, I was chatting with a friend about my subject, and he asked me, "Xinxin, what are you doing?"
I said, "Study the restoration of ceramic materials."
He said he didn't understand.
Xiao Cheng explained to him: "It's like a broken bowl, she studies how to restore it to its original state."
The friend had an epiphany and slapped his thigh: "Why is it so troublesome to buy a new one?!"
I:"… "
In other words, what he said is not unreasonable, but my boss said that the subject is meaningful, that is, it is meaningful, and I will do it no matter how troublesome it is!
In the first year of my Ph.D., I deeply thought that I didn't need to graduate to be a martyr.
Because for a whole year, I did experiments in the laboratory during the day, worshipped all kinds of inscrutable documents and data in the office at night, and wanted to dig a hole and bury myself every minute.
Whenever I was tortured to the point of collapse by the data, I would call classmate Xiao Cheng and tell him seriously: "I'm going to jump off the building, please don't stop me!"
He quickly said, "Don't! You jumped off the building, what should I do?!"
"You forget me, and find a better woman than me."
He suddenly changed the subject: "Do you want chocolate? I'll buy it for you."
I immediately put down the document in my hand and smiled sweeter than chocolate: "I want to eat it!"
Half an hour later, he came to me with a big box of my favorite chocolates, and when he put the chocolates in my hands, his eyes were very sad: "So I'm not as good as a box of chocolates to you."
I took the chocolate with a smile: "Who said that it's you who can keep me alive... plus a box of chocolates!"
"You have some conscience." He patted my head, "Obviously write your paper. Call me when you're done, I'll wait for you."
"Okay!"
I struggled with my thesis while eating chocolate, and it was late at night before I knew it.
I suddenly thought of classmate Xiao Cheng and hurriedly called to ask where he was. I thought he would dislike me again for not having a good heart and for having a bad memory, but he just said to me, "You finally remember me. If you don't call me, I will starve to death in the laboratory."
I held the phone and couldn't say a word.
For a year in a row, my experiments failed repeatedly, and the project did not make any progress. The boss repeatedly urged me to submit the thesis as soon as possible, but I was facing the computer all night and couldn't hold a sentence.
At that time, Xiao Cheng always comforted me: "My subject is more tormenting than yours. If it is not tormenting, it is not a doctoral subject."
My roommate Qiao Qiao will often discuss topics with me, and use her extremely solid basic knowledge to help me find innovative ideas.
I also say to myself every day: "Persist in doing one thing, it must not be more difficult than insisting on loving someone!"
In those days, I went to bed at 3 o'clock and got up at 9 o'clock every day, and I suffered from a serious endocrine disorder. I started to lose sleep and lost a lot of hair. I wanted to give up many times, but every time I saw the boss's careful comments and revisions on the paper, I gritted my teeth and endured it.
Because I always firmly believe that a person is strict with you just because he has expectations for you!
Finally, after countless revisions and polishing, my paper was accepted by a European journal. The editor's evaluation was that the research results were very valuable.
Although it was only a few short words, it made me feel that all my efforts were meaningful, more meaningful than hearing him say "I like you for a long time" when I confessed to classmate Xiao Cheng.
From then on, I couldn't help but fall in love with my subject, in research, and in the days of waiting for new results in the laboratory every day...
I think I've been very lucky in my life, I've met a lot of life-changing people, and I'm the luckiest of all is meeting my mentor.
The person with the most rigorous academic thinking and the most powerful and patient taught me, who was confused all day, how to do things rigorously, diligently, and attentively!
One day when Bo Er was just starting, I flew to the laboratory early in the morning and met my boss on the way.
We chatted while walking. I casually mentioned that domestic experimental equipment is limited, and some experiments could not be done. The boss immediately said: "There is XX equipment in Osaka University in Japan, and it just so happens that there is a quota for the public to send abroad. You can go there and do the experiment."
"Uh..." I blinked, blinked again, and protested loudly in my heart: Boss, they just got their marriage certificate, and their honeymoon period hasn't passed yet!
I was thinking about whether to go or not, but suddenly the boss asked me, "How many years do you want to go, one year or two years?"
Without thinking, I answered, "One year."
"Okay, let's do it for a year. I'll get in touch with the professor at Osaka University."
"… "
In this way, I got up early in the morning, and before I had breakfast, I was sent to Japan by the boss on a whim.
On the first day I arrived in Japan, I dragged two suitcases by myself, changed the train three times, and walked a few kilometers before arriving at the student dormitory of Osaka University.
In the apartment, there was no internet or phone. I was sitting on the hard bed, looking at the large blisters on the soles of my feet, thinking of the people waiting for me at home, and crying silently.
At that time, I wished I could go back to China right away, a day was a long day for me.
I cried and called classmate Xiao Cheng, my heart was full of despair: "I miss you, I miss you very much, what should I do?"
His voice was deep and powerful: "wait for me, I'll find you."
Just this sentence, I no longer despair.
On the day Xiao Cheng came to Japan, I was so excited that I didn't sleep well all night. Before dawn, I took the tram to pick him up at the airport. I waited at the airport until noon, and the plane had landed for two hours. I still didn't see him coming out. I rushed to ask everywhere, for fear that he would be detained by the security check.
After anxious waiting, he finally appeared.
"Why did you come out? I'm going to die!" I asked, pulling on his sleeve, still having lingering fears.
He sighed: "Don't mention it, I brought you a suitcase full of meat products, all of which were detained by the customs quarantine. I negotiated with them for two hours, and finally left this for you... "
He opened his backpack, and I saw a packet of spicy hot pot ingredients inside.
I was so moved that my nose was sore, and I hugged his arm tightly: "As long as you are not detained, I will be content!"
"Say it earlier, I don't have to waste so much time!"
I quickly said: "You, add a bowl of spicy hot pot, it's perfect!"
That night, we called all our friends and shared a traditional Chinese food - spicy hot pot!
I grew up watching anti-Japanese dramas, and I didn't have a good impression of Japan.
However, in Japan, I have to admit that they definitely have something I respect, and that is "serious", they will take everything seriously, even if it's just to show a stranger the way, they will seriously explain to you Until you fully understand it, if you don't understand anything, then I will take you directly.
After spending a year in Japan, although I did not give up my confusion, I at least learned to take scientific research seriously.
This is my biggest gain.
Another gain for me is that I have found a lot of valuable data in the library, and based on those data, I have thought of a new method that may lead to a breakthrough in my subject.
From then on, I began to look up materials, do verification experiments, and write papers. When I flipped through the calendar by accident, I realized that a year had passed in a hurry, and it was time for me to leave.
That year, the maple leaves turned red very early. I climbed up Arashiyama alone and looked at the red leaves all over the mountains and fields, and I remembered the first day in Japan.
Now, I really wish the day was a little longer, giving me more time to finish my unfinished experiments.
Almost forgot, I have another important achievement in Japan, which is to finish a novel that I like very much.
During that time, my experimental tasks were particularly heavy, and I would often guard the experimental equipment for more than 30 consecutive hours, observing the experimental results every hour.
Because of this humanized experimental equipment, I spent countless sleepless nights alone in the silent laboratory, doing experiments and writing "Place with Wolves".
"Sleeping with the Wolf" is the most thoughtful novel I have written, because no one protests or disturbs me, I can love my hero and heroine without distractions, and I can immerse myself in the world of life and death and feel their Love and Hatred.
In life, where there is gathering, there is separation; where there is departure, there is return.
The China Scholarship Council called to inform me that the return flight had been booked for me, and I had to leave with nostalgia.
Before leaving Japan, I cooked a large table of meals and invited my friends from overseas students to have a break-up meal.
Everyone who can come has come, including the lovely Brother Feng and Sister-in-law Feng, the "Just come back!" Ma Sang, the intellectual senior sister, the lovely little junior sister, and the military doctor next door to her brother...
That night, we sang karaoke together and gave a goodbye hug.
Later, in countless dreams, I returned to my apartment in Osaka, made dumplings and ate hot pot with them again...
It was the most unforgettable time of my life.
After returning from Japan, I spent a year summarizing the experimental data in Japan. My research has made great progress, and the Nth article has also been successfully accepted.
I wanted to make more achievements and publish more articles, but Xiao Cheng's thesis was completed, and he applied for a graduation defense.
The boss took the initiative to find me and said to me: "You also prepare your graduation thesis and graduate."
"But I haven't finished my project yet," I said.
"This subject will never be finished."
Yes, the subject is infinitely extended, but there is a deadline for studying for a Ph.D., and I have to leave sooner or later.
"Thank you, teacher."
I bowed deeply, and when I was about to leave the office, the boss suddenly remembered something: "The outstanding graduates of T province that I applied for you have been approved, and the certificates and prizes are in the Academic Affairs Office, remember to take them back... Ning Xin, you didn't let me I'm disappointed."
All the hard work, all the hard work, all the hard work turned into a heavy satisfaction at this moment.
"Ning Xin, you didn't disappoint me."
This sentence, I still remember, my heart is still hot.
In recent years, the relationship between doctoral supervisors and students has always been questioned. There are often propositions on the Internet that discuss "how doctoral supervisors exploit students". Every time I see it, I can't help shaking my head. Why do people always see "severe exploitation" and ignore that in the process of exploitation, we have learned to endure and persevere, which is more important than everything!