After graduating from the Ph.D., my classmate Xiaocheng and I ended the classmate relationship, and the title "Xiaocheng" should also be honorably laid off, so I racked my brains to choose a name for him that was more in line with his character, but never thought of it, until one day…
in a certain scene.
I said: "Disgusting, annoying..."
He asked, "Where am I annoying?"
"...you know it yourself!"
"Then make me more annoying..."
"… "
From then on, I started calling him annoying.
Although Annoying has protested against this title many times, all of them have been dismissed by me with "seeking truth from facts".
On the eve of my Ph.D. graduation, the choice of a future job was a big issue, and I went through another difficult decision with Anan.
Originally, we had already contacted a unit in S city. From then on, the two of us could continue to go out and go in pairs, saving fuel for the country and living a low-carbon life.
However, plans are not always as fast as change.
When I was about to leave school, my boss told me that a European research institution was very interested in our subject and wanted to invite me to do a postdoc.
The annoying boss also introduced him to a job in City B that was a perfect fit for him. I can see that he really wants to go, after all, there are more opportunities at the feet of the emperor.
We thought hard for a week.
We believe that our feelings are deep and that a temporary separation will not affect our feelings in the slightest.
We believe that we are still young and should seek better opportunities to develop.
We hope: we can have a better future...
Finally, we decided: go to S city together.
Just because I can't bear to leave him!
Annoying: "That's a good reason!"
After work, I continued to work on my repairs, fighting to the end every day in the lab with the experimental results.
Annoying gave up the original topic and turned to some kind of amorphous material.
I asked him very curiously: "What is amorphous material? Is there any research value?"
Annoying explained it to me very professionally: "General materials are crystalline, for example, to give birth to a child, you must go through a series of processes such as embryos, gestation, growth, and formation before birth, while amorphous materials do not go through this process. In the process, we only need to sleep for one night, and the child is born the next day... So, it is destined to have extraordinary properties."
After the annoying professional explanation, I realized without thinking: "It sounds like this material is very different, it must be valuable, you should study it!"
Annoying leaned over to me: "I think it's more valuable for us to study a normal-born child first."
Me: "... People are discussing serious business with you."
"I'm talking serious business too."
"… "
After work, Annoying began to run around, endless business trips, endless social events, and endless phone calls.
Once, I met Anren at the entrance of the stairs. I saw that he was tired and irritable. I couldn’t help but hold him and asked, “What trouble is there again? It’s okay if we can’t do it, anyway, our current life is not good. Very stable, don't put so much pressure on yourself."
He shook his head and said that he would persevere. There will be various problems in the progress of anything, and this is what we need to do.
I smiled and said, "In order to console you, I will cook your ribs today and come back early for dinner."
"Okay, I'll be early in the evening..."
Before he finished speaking, the phone rang again. From the conversation between him and the client, I could hear that he was socializing again at night.
Hanging up the phone, before he could speak, I said, "Remember to go home before twelve o'clock, otherwise... you will be abducted by Cinderella."
"Cinderella wants to kidnap the prince, but she won't kidnap me."
I told him seriously: "It's dark at night, Cinderella is easy to misunderstand!"
He smiled and patted my head: "Only a foolish woman like you can look away..."
A year later, Anren went to another place to work as a science and technology cadre. In addition to business trips and entertainment, he had to travel back and forth between two cities. However, no matter how busy or tired he is, as long as he can find time, he will definitely come back to spend the weekend with me.
I like the sunset at the airport every weekend. The crimson sunset glows red half of the sky. The plane glides from the vast sky like a tired bird returning to its nest...
After sunset, I parked my car in the parking lot and walked for ten minutes to wait for him at the airport.
He was surprised when he saw me at the airport pick-up gate: "Didn't I tell you to park at the airport drop-off gate? I can get in the car when I walk out the door, and we don't have to walk so far to the underground parking lot."
I held his hand and answered him with a smile: "Because I miss you, I want to hold your hand for a while, take a walk with you, and chat."
He laughed too, held my hand firmly, and told me about his business trip as he walked...
The ten-minute journey was over in a blink of an eye.
For marriage, we are all inexperienced people, and we have to cross the river by feeling the stones.
But I believe that we are all grateful people, how I treat him, he will treat me the same way.
When the enthusiasm of love is diluted by a long time, we need to work hard to create a warm atmosphere and warm each other.
Now, annoying jobs are getting busier.
I am also very busy and often work overtime until late.
Many times I've come home late at night, facing a cold house, an empty refrigerator, and no appetite.
I leaned back on the sofa tiredly, wondering if this was the life I wanted.
No, it's not!
What I really want is a warm home, a family-friendly husband, he doesn't need to make too much money, just enough to keep me fed and clothed; he doesn't need to be gentle and considerate, as long as he is there when I'm tired It is enough to give me a warm shoulder, let me lean on, give me a soft comfort, and make me feel at ease.
However, now he is like a flying kite, hanging in the sky far away. When I am lonely and miss him, I can only look at the thread I hold in my hand and say to myself: He is still in my hand...
I don't know how high and how far he will fly in the future, and I don't know if the line in my hand can withstand the strong wind, but I won't pull him back.
A kite is destined to go into the wind, a goshawk is destined to soar in the sky, and a man who is unwilling to be plain is destined to be unable to keep the ears of his beloved woman.
If you love him, choose him, you should accept everything about him.
- Lesson 13 of "The Secret Book of Love" -
In love, it is not necessary for a man to take the initiative.
Passive women, usually with someone who likes you!
Only active women can find the ones you like and like you!