The article is very long, but what Qi Wenjing wrote was not all about her own affairs. She sorted out the news on the Internet in recent years, and then wrote out the two completely different attitudes of netizens towards the victim and the perpetrator.
The girl who grew up in a patriarchal family finally made her way out, but her parents who abused her since childhood came to her and pestered her for money. A word of sorry from her parents seemed to wipe away all the suffering she had suffered since she was a child. Evening, the girl who relied on her own abilities was forced to support a family like vampires by this sentence of sorry.
The girl who was raped by an acquaintance refused to forgive the person who violated her, but because the person knelt down and apologized to her, crying and saying that he was sorry for her, others felt that the man was pitiful, and he did it because he liked the girl. Let the girl forgive the man for once.
The woman who was subjected to domestic violence cried and complained that she couldn't bear this kind of abuse and wanted to divorce, but because the man apologized and said that she would never do it again, she was forced by her family to forgive him and come back to him...
[I don’t know when it started, the perpetrator should have apologized as it should, but it has become the shackles of the kidnapped victim, as if he apologized and said sorry, the victim should not continue to pursue it, he must Forgive those perpetrators, once the victim refuses to forgive, it is not kind, it is not generous, it is not greedy enough.]
[Victims refuse to forgive, but bystanders forgive them generously, to forgive the perpetrators, to tell the perpetrators, as long as they change, they will be good people, and the victims who refuse to forgive them will become The bad guy in the mouth of the bystanders.]
[However, why should the victim forgive? Even if the perpetrator corrects his mistakes later and becomes a good person, can a person's past be erased? So what if he has become a good person? Does that mean that the people he has hurt in the past can't hate him?]
[For others, perpetrators may be good people, but for victims, they are always bad people. Why should victims forgive those who have hurt them?]
[Those who have bullied me, I believe their apology is sincere, I also believe that they want to repent sincerely, I know that people are not static, they will change, as time goes by, They may become another completely different person from the past, but what does all this have to do with me? For two years, the bullying I received was real, and the hurt I received was real. They may change into a good person, but this has nothing to do with my refusal to forgive them.]
[There is no law stipulating that if you apologize, you will be forgiven. If you make a mistake, you will be wrong. Apology is what the victim deserves, but it is the victim's freedom not to forgive.]
[I will never forgive those who hurt me, I may forget, and I will not take revenge on them, but I will never forgive them, no matter whether they become good people or not, I will never forgive them.]
After Qi Wenjing posted this article, Qi Wang reposted it immediately. At the same time, he also posted a Weibo about this article.
[When you ask others to forgive those who hurt them, please ask yourself, will you forgive those who have hurt you deeply and left indelible scars on you?]
After Qi Wenjing's article was sent out, it quickly attracted countless people to forward it.
In this era of tolerance and generosity, there are too few people who are as tough as Qi Wenjing and bravely say that I don't forgive.
As Qi Wenjing said, I don't know when it started. After the perpetrator apologized, it became politically correct for the victim to forgive them. Once the victim refused to forgive, he became a condemned existence.
However, is the apology of the perpetrator really so precious? After they give out, the victim must forgive, no matter how wronged or hurt, as long as the perpetrator apologizes, countless people will come to force the victim to forgive.
Isn't this another kind of moral kidnapping
After apologizing, you can't be angry, and you can't take revenge, otherwise you were the victim, but in the end you became the one everyone blamed.
In work and in life, how many people have suffered from this kind of moral kidnapping
It’s someone else who uttered evil words, someone else who robbed something, someone else who did evil, but in the end, after they did something evil, they could get everyone’s forgiveness by saying sorry, but the victim couldn’t continue to pursue it.
What is the basis for this? Why should the wronged be innocent? Why do victims have to suffer this? Does a high moral standard deserve to be kidnapped like this
Qi Wenjing's article resonated with many people, and the entry "Why forgive you" quickly became the top ten most searched.
[I hate this kind of moral kidnapping, why should I forgive the person who hurt me? Notre Dame is not like that.]
[Since I was a child, because of my introverted personality, I have been forced to accept countless apologies. No matter how those people bully me, as long as they apologize, I have to accept it. I want to ask, why should I accept it? To accept it?]
[After being tricked by this group of apology bitches countless times, I deeply understand one thing. For these people, an apology is just another kind of bullying, and they don't really apologize at all.]
[Yes, what's wrong with holding on to the victim instead of blaming the perpetrator? Do you bully people endlessly because you see them easy to bully?]
[Don't say I'm extreme, I've seen too many people like this. Most of the apologies of these perpetrators are not directed at the victims, but at other people. You see, I apologized, but he refused. Forgive me, I can't blame me, this is what they really think.]
[Qi Wenjing, I support you. For the victim, the perpetrator is always a bad person. No one is qualified to force the victim to forgive the perpetrator.]
[Those who force Qi Wenjing to forgive, ask yourself, if you have been bullied for two years, can you forgive those who hurt you? Why ask others to do things that you can't do yourself?]
[The generosity of others is not acceptable, and moral kidnapping is not acceptable. Those moral standards are a tool to demand yourself, not to kidnap others.]
Qi Wenjing's article resonated with countless people. In life, everyone has more or less suffered from such moral kidnapping. In the past, they could only hold it in their hearts and endure it. If you don't end up with the reputation of being narrow-minded, you have to show a nonchalant look on your face.
But this time, Qi Wenjing spoke their minds, and many people directly forwarded this article and made comments.
[Those who hurt us will go to hell with your cheap apologies, we will never forgive you.]
The comments on Weibo were overwhelmingly supportive of Qi Wenjing. Wang Renjie led his fans in a desperate struggle, holding on to Qi Wenjing's kind little angel and not letting go.
[Forgiving them may not be easy for others, but for you who are kind, forgiving them is also letting yourself go. Do you want to endure this kind of torture for the rest of your life?]
The previous Weibo post by Qi Wenjing was regarded as a response, but she saved some face for Wang Renjie and didn't @ him, but Wang Renjie still refused to let her go, and aggressively asked Qi Wenjing for an answer.
After all, she has more fans than the other party. Qi Wenjing felt a little headache when he was so entangled, and didn't know how to deal with it for a while.
She didn't know how to deal with it, but with the almighty little uncle around, Qi Wenjing went to look for Qi Huang with her mobile phone.
Chinese New Year is coming up in a few days, Qi Wang didn't take any more jobs, he stayed at home these days, when he saw Qi Wenjing coming in, Qi Wang patted the seat beside him and asked her to sit down.
"Wen Jing, what's the matter?"
Qi Wenjing nodded, and told what Wang Renjie was holding on to her.
"Uncle, what do you think I should do?"
Qi Wenjing has a lot of worries, she has a lot of fans, she is really afraid that her fans will kill each other.
Across the Internet and wearing a vest, she doesn't have so many scruples when arguing, and what she may say may be more excessive than in reality. In all fairness, Qi Wenjing has suffered school violence, and she doesn't want others to suffer from it.
The little girl hesitated to say what she thought, and after she finished speaking, she looked up at Qi Wang and asked softly, "Uncle, what do you think I should do?"
Qi Wang raised his hand and patted her head: "You are kind."
Qi Wenjing: "..."
She came to seek advice from my little uncle, why did my little uncle suddenly praise her
I'm really a little embarrassed.
After comforting the little girl, Qi Wang said: "Although there is a saying that is indecent, it is appropriate to use it here."
"The so-called first tease is cheap, did that person think about you when he made things difficult for you? As an adult, he knows very well what the consequences will be if he finds you. You have many fans and the people who support you are There are many, but once you fall, the backlash will be more serious, and cyber violence is not much worse than school violence."
Qi Wang has also been in the entertainment industry for two years. Although he is not involved in those messy things, he knows a lot of the twists and turns.
The purpose of people like Wang Renjie is actually very simple. He doesn't necessarily want to seek justice, but because Qi Wenjing's popularity has been high recently, he wants to step on Qi Wenjing to climb up.
If Qi Wenjing can be stepped down, all the enthusiasm that belongs to Qi Wenjing will belong to him. The large traffic exposure and the surge in fans are also extremely beneficial to him.
Qi Wenjing didn't intend to get involved in the entertainment industry in the future, so Qi Wang didn't tell her about these things in the past, but since Qi Wenjing met this time, Qi Wang told Qi Wenjing all the twists and turns here.
He knew this strong little girl, and she would know what to do best.
After explaining all the dirty things inside to Qi Wenjing, Qi Huan paused and asked, "Do you want me to help you deal with this matter?"
Qi Wenjing lowered her head and thought for a while, then slowly shook her head.
"No need, uncle, I have grown up, I can't rely on you for everything, you helped me solve today's matter, what about next time? What about next time? If I can't encounter this kind of thing, I will ask you for help, little one." Uncle is always too busy to take care of it, and I have to face it myself."
The current Qi Wenjing is very different from the one who just came back. She has become more cheerful and confident, completely different from the hedgehog in the past who stood up all over his body to face people.
Now that she had made a decision, Qi thought about it, and left this matter to her.
When the little girl grows up, she always has to face these ups and downs by herself, so it's good to let her experience it, because she can't solve it, and he, the uncle, is the backing.
After receiving Qi's false words, Qi Wenjing began to edit Weibo, preparing to respond to Wang Renjie's words.
[Mr. Wang Renjie, my kindness is for those who treat me equally, not those who hurt me. Is it necessary to forgive those who hurt me just because I am kind? If this is the case, I would rather I was not kind.]
Qi Wenjing directly @王仁杰 this time, in response to his Weibo post just now.
Qi Wenjing had always shown a gentle and gentle look before, plus she was young and had been bullied on campus for two years, Wang Renjie felt that such a girl was very easy to bully.
He has seen too many people who have been bullied on campus. These people either put up their spikes to guard against everyone around them, or they have formed a flattering personality and dare not reject others.
Previously, Qi Wenjing's Weibo showed a gentle and gentle girl. Wang Renjie thought that she would be the latter, the kind of person who pleases others and wrongs him.
People like this are extremely easy to manipulate. As long as they stand on the moral high ground and bully and suppress her, the other party will completely weaken and let others bully her.
Although the person standing behind Qi Wenjing was Qi Wang, but Wang Renjie felt that he was being precise about Qi Wenjing, even if Qi Wang knew about it, there would be no big trouble.
Sometimes as long as the traffic is enough and it can become popular, even if it is black or red, it doesn’t matter. If the traffic is enough, there are more things that can be done, and the face and everything can be put aside.
However, Wang Renjie never imagined that he had misjudged Qi Wenjing, a girl who seemed weak and easy to bully, and dared to confront him face to face.
Now most of the public opinion on the Internet is on Qi Wenjing's side. There are many people who scold Wang Renjie. That's why it has risen so much, and it's also because of the restriction that you can only comment if you follow him. The reason why those people follow him is because they want to follow him and scold him.
There was a lot of enthusiasm, but it was all negative. Wang Renjie's whole face twisted when he saw the comments scolding him.
He wanted to step on Qi Wenjing's position, he wanted popularity, but not the current popularity.
According to Wang Renjie's vision, the netizens are now standing with him, attacking Qi Wenjing verbally and in writing. The current social environment is like this, pay attention to being kind to others, strict self-discipline and lenient treatment of others. No one has ever returned after others apologized. Aggressive and pressing.
Qi Wenjing is not scolded by others like this, but is still praised by others.
Unable to swallow this breath, Wang Renjie fought hard with Qi Wenjing, but Wang Renjie, who used to stand on the moral high ground and forced people to retreat steadily, was forced to retreat steadily by Qi Wenjing.
In the end, the farce ended with Qi Wenjing winning a big victory. Although Wang Renjie didn't apologize, he didn't say that he would chase after Qi Wenjing any more.
After tossing and tossing, it was already twelve o'clock in the evening, and Qi Wenjing finally relaxed. After throwing the phone aside, Qi Wenjing looked at Qi Huang excitedly.
"Uncle, I won!"
When confronting people across the Internet, Qi Wenjing didn't feel the tension that she felt in reality. Thinking of her making the other party speechless, Qi Wenjing felt very happy.
Qi Wang raised his hand and touched her head, and praised her with a smile: "Wen Jing, you are really great."
Qi Wang, who watched the whole process, felt that the little girl's growth rate was completely beyond his expectation.
However, he didn't think that Qi Wenjing's behavior was bad. On the contrary, people with sharp edges and corners would not be hurt. Qi Wenjing's behavior was very good, and Qi Wang was very happy that she had the ability to protect herself.