Jonathan had been thinking about how to solve this matter satisfactorily on the plane, thinking for hours, and had a headache. In fact, he has always felt that there are some problems between him and Jian Hongshen. Jian Hongshen doesn't know why, but he has no confidence in him, in himself, or in this relationship. But Jonathan has never been able to find the source of Jian Hongshen's pessimistic view. The other party loves to keep everything in his heart. Even if Jonathan wants to ask and communicate seriously, he will be perfunctory.
This is a thorn between them, usually not visible, as if there is no problem, but after a small fuse, a gap will appear. Jonathan and Jian Hongshen's personalities are too different, and Jian Hongshen doesn't like to confide in others. Jonathan can't fundamentally understand his true thoughts, and can only rely on long-term relationship and actions to slowly eradicate Jian Hongshen. pessimistic thoughts.
Jonathan felt that maybe it was because he had always been a playboy, so Jian Hongshen didn't believe him, so he not only completely changed his previous behavior of spending time and drinking, but also went back to accompany Jian Hongshen every day after work, and returned to Jian Hongshen. Shen has made many guarantees, and has made many promises and confessions that will never leave. Jonathan thinks that this is still useful. It is estimated that after he proposes, Jian Hongshen's confidence in each other should be stronger, and if this continues, it will always be eradicated. But now, when it has not been completely eradicated, this kind of negative emotion has exploded violently due to accidents.
In fact, this time, if it was a couple who had more confidence in each other, it would be easy to resolve the misunderstanding, and it would not be the case where Jonathan chased people across the country and the marriage proposal fell through. According to the more common practice, Jian Hongshen either directly questioned Jonathan about what happened, or he was worried about being deceived by rhetoric, so he went to verify the truth by himself. After all, they are lovers who are in love, so they should have some hope, at least to confirm the truth of the matter.
However, Jian Hongshen seemed to have no hope at all, as if he had been waiting for this kind of time, and left without any confirmation.
This makes Jonathan feel a little frustrated. He has done a lot, but he still hasn't gained the trust in the crisis. The incident this time is actually easy to explain, but if Jian Hongshen's distrust of him is not eliminated, there may be a second such incident if it happens for the first time. Feelings can't stand such a toss again and again.
Jonathan does not doubt Jian Hongshen's feelings for him, but a relationship without trust is like duckweed without roots, it is too easy to fall apart. Jonathan didn't want their relationship to be consumed by all kinds of misunderstandings. Even if the incident this time is explained clearly, it will still create a estrangement between the two of them. If Jian Hongshen doesn't find a way to dig out this heart disease, the situation may get worse.
So Jonathan thought for a long time, and in the end, besides deciding to use a marriage proposal to show his determination, he wanted Qi Yan to help him figure out why Jian Hongshen had no confidence in their future. In addition, he came in a hurry, and Qi Yan needed some help for the marriage proposal.
After Qi Yan and Jonathan clarified the matter, they suddenly felt quite complicated. It seems that Jonathan is quite sad, and such a thing will never happen between him and Shu Zimu.
However, Jian Hongshen has some problems with his mentality. As a friend, Qi Yan will certainly not refuse to help, but he is not an emotional expert who can talk heart-to-heart at all, so this matter should probably be left to Xu Chi.
This matter also needs to be discussed, so Qi Yan simply let Jonathan come to their house.
Shu Zimu felt strange when Jonathan came over at night, and couldn't help guessing that he wanted Qi Yan to be a lobbyist. But now that the cause and effect of this incident have been clarified, Qi Yan no longer concealed Shu Zimu, and told the whole situation. In addition, I also want him to help as a staff member and give some suggestions.
Shu Zimu and Qi Yan first heard Jonathan talk about his original proposal. In fact, it is reasonable to say that most people have a ring and a bouquet of flowers, just kneel on one knee and say that classic line. But Jonathan found someone to design a detailed script, and then prepared various props, arranged rehearsals for the actors, and built a very dreamy and romantic scene, ready to surprise Jian Hongshen. Jonathan picked the best for everything in this proposal process, the best venue and clothing, the most beautiful fresh roses, the top designer, and the most precious ring. In addition to being expensive, it also consumes a lot of energy, and many rehearsals are required to avoid mistakes.
Shu Zimu and Qi Yan were a little amazed after hearing this, thinking that it is no wonder Jonathan spent a lot of time preparing, which can be said to be ten times more troublesome than the original design of Xu Chi's confession to Yun Hao. It's just that Jonathan was in a hurry to prepare for the proposal. In order to prevent Jian Hongshen from finding out in advance, he could only excuse that he was busy with work recently. However, Jonathan's lie probably wasn't very good. Jian Hongshen might have been a little skeptical, and when that Beryl approached him, he took it for granted that Jonathan's busy time during this period was due to dating her.
Looking at it this way, I have to say that Jonathan was indeed a little unlucky. A happy event that had been carefully prepared suddenly turned into a lot of trouble.
Now the situation has changed. Jonathan came to China without any preparations, and Jian Hongshen still misunderstood. If he wants to untie Jian Hongshen's knot as much as possible, it is best to reconcile with the explanation to prevent Jian Hongshen Thinking too much again. In other words, this matter cannot be delayed, otherwise it will appear insincere.
Jonathan's idea is to arrange people overnight, and make a simplified version of the marriage proposal scene he designed before in Hua Country as soon as possible. reduction.
Qi Yan thinks this is feasible, and the originally designed plot is definitely useless, but it is still possible for Qi Yan and Xu Chi to find a chance to lure Jian Hongshen to the destination. Jonathan prepared really well, and it's a pity not to use it.
Shu Zimu shook his head at this moment: "I don't think it's good."
Jonathan looked at him when he heard the words, and asked in doubt, "What's wrong?" He was very confident in his well-prepared marriage proposal.
Shu Zimu asked: "What do you think is the most important part of a marriage proposal?"
Jonathan was taken aback, "...is it time to bring out the ring and propose?"
Shu Zimu smiled and said, "It's the person who proposed, and his sincerity."
"If the person proposing is not someone you like enough to spend your whole life with, no matter how touching the promise the other party makes, how expensive the ring they are holding, or how wonderful the proposal is, they will not be accepted. On the contrary, as long as you are right Even if you don’t have any of the above, the impact will not be great. There is actually only one purpose for a marriage proposal, which is to gain the acceptance of the other party, and the success of this matter basically depends on whether you are the person in the other party’s heart .”
Seeing that Jonathan was in a daze, Shu Zimu continued: "In addition, sincerity is also very important. Sometimes the other party may not be completely sure of his mind due to various factors. At this time, it depends on whether the sincerity shown can impress the other party."
Jonathan thought for a while and said, "Then what I prepared is not a show of sincerity? Why do you say it's not good?"
Shu Zimu shook his head, "You are really sincere in what you did. If this accident hadn't happened and you were still in country l, then your preparations can be said to be perfect. But now you have to explain the misunderstanding before you propose marriage, and To solve the misunderstanding, you should take the initiative to come to the door, instead of leading the other party to a well-arranged place, giving people a feeling that they are not in a hurry and are very leisurely."
Jonathan frowned, "Then I'll go to him to explain it first, and we'll talk about it after the proposal?" Jonathan said that he rejected this idea. If this marriage proposal can't seize the opportunity and relieve some of Jian Hongshen's worries, then it's better to go back to country l altogether, or use the original plan.
Jonathan felt that if he simply explained the misunderstanding, he and Jian Hongshen would be awkward for a while, and they would not be able to be intimate. If he didn't propose immediately while explaining, then Jian Hongshen might not feel any surprise after proposing in such an awkward state for a day or two, and it would be easy to think about other things. And if the effect is to be guaranteed, and the explanation and proposal are carried out at the same time, what Shu Zimu said is indeed reasonable.
Jonathan thought for a while, and combined with Shu Zimu's previous words, he realized something: "Then I don't prepare those things, and go directly to him with the ring?"
Shu Zimu nodded with an expression of "children can be taught", and said: "Those things are all external. Although you prepared them carefully, the other party may not know the hard work you put in. After all, with your financial resources, let the assistant It's easy to find a planning company to arrange these things. According to what you said, Jian Hongshen seems to have doubts about the depth of your emotions, so you should express your emotions more straightforwardly."
Jonathan smiled wryly when he heard the words, "I've been very straightforward about this."
Shu Zimu "coughed", "I'm not just talking about verbal expression, but more aspects." Shu Zimu thought for a while, and explained to him: "When people are pessimistic, their thoughts tend to tend to be bad. direction, so if you want the other party to accept positive information, it is best to make a performance that has no other interpretation options. For example, giving gifts, most people will be happy when they receive gifts from their lovers, but people who are prone to gains and losses may not only be happy, but also I will think about what this gift means. If the gift is too simple, I will suspect that the other party is perfunctory; Worrying is done by the secretary; if you have some other doubts before, you may not only be unhappy when you receive the gift, but you may even suspect that it is a sign of a guilty conscience.”
"So in this case, the best way is to do it yourself or choose it yourself, and let the other party see it directly, let the other party know that this is specially prepared for him. There can be no negative guesses from the motivation to the process. The result is of course guaranteed to be good.”
Shu Zimu considered it for a while, and then said: "And your straightforward verbal expression may have side effects, after all..." Shu Zimu glanced at Jonathan, and said in a very academic tone: "After all, you have a dark history, Jian Hong Shen may think... the sweet words you said have no credibility. The more you speak nicely, maybe the more he thinks you are, er, flirtatious, and thinks that your relationship is as weak as your previous ones. Although there is a bit of historical legacy problem, but this cannot be completely said to be your fault. It’s just that if you want to get along happily with people who are not in a healthy state of mind for a long time, you must pay more attention to these problems. Of course, as long as Jian Hongshen’s knot in his heart is untied , There is enough relationship and trust between you, so you don’t have to worry about this situation.”
As a screenwriter, Shu Zimu also knows a little bit about psychology, and Jonathan and Jian Hongshen's play is quite a bit of a bloody idol drama, so Shu Zimu is also easy to set up, and talked a lot.
Jonathan was silent for a while when he heard the words, "... so that's the reason?" He felt a little wronged, but he still didn't defend himself at this time, but said to Shu Zimu: "What you said makes sense, so what do you think I should do now? Is it better to do it?"
Shu Zimu said: "You don't need to prepare for too long, just go directly to Jian Hongshen, apologize, explain and propose. The point is to show that you value it, and you can see it at the first sight. You can directly read from l It is very good that the country has chased the country of Hua, but it is not immediately chasing people, it still delays an opportunity."
Shu Zimu is not good at writing scripts of dog-blooded emotional dramas, but under the request of Mr. Guo, he has learned a lot and practiced a lot, and he is still very familiar with the relevant routines.
Jonathan's face changed slightly when he heard Shu Zimu say that the opportunity was delayed, "Then I will go there immediately?"
Shu Zimu said: "It's already early in the morning."
Qi Yan said at this time: "It's too late, the two of them should not be asleep yet." Jian Hong was deeply concerned, and Xu Chi would definitely not let him lie on the bed alone with insomnia and daydreams, he would probably bring others to play games.
Jonathan stood up immediately upon hearing this, "I'll go now."
But Shu Zimu stopped the person, "Wait, don't worry, it's been delayed anyway, it's not too late, why don't you think of other ways, maybe the effect will be better."
Jonathan was a little suspicious, "What way?"
Shu Zimu said: "Although it is definitely effective to explain now, it doesn't feel very good to talk in the middle of the night. The most important thing is that it is likely to disturb the other party's rest. Although you know now that you won't be disturbed, knocking in the middle of the night The door still seems very inconsiderate, in other words, it means not paying attention to the other party, which will affect your 'sincerity'."
"So we have to go tomorrow?" Jonathan frowned, "It will affect you if you go too late, isn't it a good way?"
Shu Zimu shook his head, "I suggest you go now, but find someone tomorrow."
Jonathan and Qi Yan on the side were startled, Shu Zimu smiled and said: "According to my observation, Jian Hongshen should be very soft-hearted, so I think we can use a bitter trick. After you pass now, wait outside the door overnight, tomorrow Knock on the door after the wake-up time. This shows that you chased us all night, and is considerate and affectionate enough. The more embarrassed and dusty you look, the easier it is for the other party to soften their hearts and be moved. If you stay outside the door because If you catch a cold overnight and have a minor illness or something, the effect will be even better."
After Shu Zimu finished speaking, the expressions of Jonathan and Qi Yan suddenly became a little complicated, but after thinking about it, what Shu Zimu said would indeed be a very useful solution. Qi Yan didn't speak, Jonathan only thought for a moment and said, "Okay, then I'll go and watch outside his door now, I should catch a cold if I take off my coat."
"..." Shu Zimu choked on hearing the words, "Actually, you can let the cold go with the flow, you don't have to work so hard...Jian Hongshen should care about you, I think it's enough not to catch a cold."
Jonathan shook his head, "It's just a cold, it's nothing. If this can dispel his pessimistic thoughts a little more, then I'd like to come a few more times."
Shu Zimu stopped persuading after hearing the words, "Then you go, but you still have to be careful, don't make it too serious, it will be fine if you have a fever for a few hours. When explaining, remember not to let the other party feel that you are blaming him. To build the other party's confidence, you must show more actions and attitudes that are willing to sacrifice for the other party."
Qi Yan's mood is a bit complicated. After all, the bitter trick is actually a little intentional to deceive Jian Hongshen, but Jonathan's intention is good, and his feelings for Jian Hongshen are also true. In addition, this is Shu Zimu's idea...
Qi Yan thought for a while, but still did not stop Jonathan, and was not going to reveal it to Jian Hongshen.
I hope this pair of lovers who have not completely separated can reconcile smoothly.
Jonathan left quickly and went to the address given by Qi Yan. Standing at the door, Jonathan's heart beat uncontrollably fast. Thinking that the person who had worried him for a long time was at the door, Jonathan almost had the urge to rush in and see him with his own eyes. However, he still took a few deep breaths and sat down by the door against the wall without making any movement.
There was a cold breath on the ground, and Jonathan's brain calmed down little by little, and he began to think about how to explain and propose in order to get the best results.
As Qi Yan thought, Jian Hongshen and Xu Chi were indeed not asleep, but were playing games. Although Jian Hongshen's expression didn't seem to change, he often lost his mind during the game, and unconsciously glanced at the mobile phone that had been silent from time to time, obviously still thinking about Jonathan.
It's just that he didn't know that the other party was actually just across the wall from him, and he could see it as long as he opened the door.
Xu Chi also didn't know this. Seeing that Jonathan hadn't contacted Jian Hongshen for so long, he naturally became more and more dissatisfied with Jonathan. Then look at Jian Hongshen's seemingly normal appearance, but he is out of his mind, and the opinion is even bigger. But considering Jian Hongshen, he still didn't express his dissatisfaction, but tried to divert Jian Hongshen's attention with other things.
At this time, although Qi Yan and Shu Zimu, who knew about it, were in bed, they didn't feel sleepy. Fortunately, the next day was still a holiday, so there was no need to get up early, so the two simply lay down and chatted.
Although the two of them are not gossips, they are still interested in talking about the emotional entanglements that are happening in front of them, especially after hearing what Shu Zimu said, Qi Yan deeply feels that he may think too little usually, and I don’t know if he has let Shu Zimu Create that uneasy situation.
Qi Yan didn't ask directly, but he didn't have too many roundabout skills. After they finished talking about Jonathan and Jian Hongshen, he pretended to ask Shu Zimuxi if he didn't like the gift he gave him before.
Shu Zimu didn't react at first, and asked which gift casually, Qi Yan said everything, Shu Zimu was stunned for a moment, and slowly came back to it, suddenly a little funny, "Are you worried that I will be like I said?" , you think too much when you receive a gift?"
Qi Yan didn't speak. Shu Zimu spoke so eloquently, and seemed to understand that mental state very well. Although Qi Yan felt that Shu Zimu was not like what he said, he was still worried, so he showed a tacit attitude towards Shu Zimu's question.
Seeing this, Shu Zimu laughed, and said, "Even if you don't understand these things, don't just substitute in any emotional symptoms. I'm Jian Hongshen, the analyst. Do you think I resemble him?"
Qi Yan heard that Shu Zimu did not have those performances, but he still said, "Hongshen doesn't seem to have such a pessimistic personality." He paused, "If you are dissatisfied with me, tell me directly. Am I okay? Don't guess for yourself."
Shu Zimu felt more and more helpless seeing his reluctance, but he also felt sincere warmth, so he explained seriously, explaining that he had only read the relevant information, and it was not because of empathy that he knew this, he had no such thing at all. Regarding the problem, I have never been secretly dissatisfied with Qi Yan, and I will communicate with Qi Yan directly if I have any problems in the future.
"I said that there is enough emotional and trust foundation, so there is no need to worry about this situation. Do you think our emotional foundation is not enough? Or do I not trust you enough?" Shu Zimu said jokingly.
Of course, Qi Yan couldn't give a negative answer to such a question, so he had to admit his mistake of thinking too much, but Qi Yan was naturally very happy when he heard Shu Zimu express in disguise that they had a deep relationship and trusted him, so he had to "admit defeat". Very happy.
The topic turned back to Jonathan and Jian Hongshen. The two discussed the success probability of Jonathan's operation, and they both felt that the possibility of a positive result was still very high, but the process was indeed a bit of a toss, especially if they did it themselves. For comparison.
The two of them decided to get married at the beginning, and they quickly developed a relationship, and they have been living well after marriage. Although there are more than one rivals in love who have come out to make trouble, there has never been a twists and turns in their relationship. They are definitely envious of others, at least Jonathan is probably very envious.
Shu Zimu once thought that Qi Yan had someone he liked, but soon found out that they were in love with each other. Originally, due to the disparity in their identities, Shu Zimu may actually fall into a state of being unconfident and worrying about gains and losses. However, Shu Zimu has lived a new life and has a resolute and mature personality. In fact, Qi Yan is actually a bit frank and cute in addition to being strong and cold, so Shu Zimu did not think that Qi Yan There is a sense of distance, but I feel that he is easy to understand and worth entrusting for a lifetime. Afterwards, all kinds of demon rivals appeared, but they didn't affect their relationship.
The two recalled and compared their memories, and found that although their initial conditions were not good, a blind date without an emotional foundation, a huge gap in identity and background, a bright face and a secretly lurking rival in love, any one of them may cause a lot of trouble. negative effects, but in fact their relationship developed really smoothly.
Qi Yan was inexplicably complacent and said, "Jonathan and the others should learn from us."
Shu Zimu laughed, "Learn what? Learn how to match someone at a blind date banquet?"
After hearing the words, Qi Yan thought for a while, and found that they really seemed to be just letting nature take its course. It's just that I was lucky and chose the most suitable person from the beginning, so I was able to go smoothly all the way. To be honest, I can't seem to find anything worth learning, except for being sincere to the other party. But Jonathan and Jian Hongshen may not treat each other badly. In comparison, the marriage proposal ceremony prepared by Jonathan is better than his...
Qi Yan thought for a while, and suddenly realized a problem:
Neither he nor Shu Zimu has gone through the step of proposing marriage!