The biggest difference between the women of the Northern Dynasties and the women of the Southern Dynasties is probably in the relationship between men and women. Because Xianbei's marriage relationship for a long time is that the man goes to the woman's house as a servant, and then can marry the woman back home, it is very easy for a woman to know what the man she wants to marry before marriage.
The women of the Northern Dynasties, especially the women of the Xianbei, have a strong sense of self emotionally. "The bright moon and the stars are about to fall, and if you want to come, you can't come and talk to me early", "Lang don't read a girl, they work hard", they are all poems left at that time, which can be said to be pleasant words, "If you like me, come and see me, You don't have to come if you cover up." "If you don't like me, you can go your own way, and you don't have to cry."
As for "daughter says that she is good, so she enters the husband's arms", "goes in and out, slaps his arm, sits on his knee", etc., all of which show the hearty character of women in the Northern Dynasties when they are dating.
Influenced by the women of Xianbei in the north, if the daughters of high-level Han families are not frank enough and timid in doing things, they will be ridiculed by others. Even women with five surnames can often go out to play and make friends between men and women on weekdays—of course, the premise is that they make friends in the right circle.
The daughters of the Southern Dynasties are more lingering, charming and tactful, which is related to the national character of the two places. In the northern regions, the ideal spouses in the minds of Xianbei women are not the tall and beautiful men that the women of the Southern Dynasties talked about, but brave and tenacious warriors. and heroes.
The folk song left by Murong Xianbei "The man is in the tenth floor, the woman is in the nine pavilion. Lang is not a yellow harrier, how can there be a bird in the cloud?" It has already shown that if you have no ability, you can't be a ferocious eagle, and you won't be able to marry your favorite. girl came home.
When He Mulan was in the camp in Montenegro, she had heard many Xianbei men say that Xianbei women had always been unrestrained and unrestrained. Yun Cai had a general understanding of the boldness of the women here.
Although He Mulan was a little embarrassed by the mistake of the proprietress, in general, He Mulan still appreciated the women's mate choice and values at this time. She was active in their social activities, and the relationship between husband and wife was reversed. Also very appreciated.
The high status of women in the Sui and Tang Dynasties had a considerable relationship with the legacy of the Northern Dynasties.
You must know that with Song Li later, the various rules and regulations that restrain women have become particularly outrageous, especially the "worldliness" that obliterate women's spirituality and mutilate women's bodies are even more disgusting. In contrast, even if the women of the Southern and Northern Dynasties looked more unrestrained, they were better than those of later generations when they wrapped their feet and shouted "chen concubine" and "slave maid". You must know that in today's era, even between the emperor and the queen. , also with "you",
The hostess must also appear during the sacrifice.
The attitude of the later world towards women is simply a historical regression.
But no matter what, even if He Mulan was fully prepared, when he arrived at Meiyuan, he was still taken aback by the current situation.
Plum Garden is a huge valley in the north of Pingcheng. Although it is called "Garden", it is actually a large field surrounded by a wall, and pavilions and pavilions are built inside, like a garden.
The Hu people in the north admired the romantic culture of the Wei and Jin Dynasties, so the "curved water stream" and "Pillow Shaxi Pond" are readily available in the plum garden, but most of the landscapes are actually natural, without carvings at all, so adding Lots of fun. It was cold this year, and the plum blossoms bloomed early. Many varieties of plum blossoms that He Mulan had never seen before were blooming casually along the road. Occasionally there were twos and threes of young boys and girls chatting under the plum trees.
"The Exotic Land Reclamation of Vegetable Skeletons"
She originally thought that the so-called "blind date meeting" was probably about men and women sitting separately, and then performing their talents with each other, and by the way, they took a look at what they looked like.
It turned out to be a man and a woman visiting the park...
He Mulan was not familiar with the path of Pingcheng, so she followed Su Hejun. Man Gu had a headache when he heard about this, so it was Chen Jie who followed He Mulan.
Di Yefei also received the post, but the post was not sent by Empress Dowager Dou, but by Empress Dowager Dou who gave it to the sons of several patriarchs of Gaoche, and the sons of several patriarchs of Gaoche all had marriage targets, so she sent the post to Di Yefei and others A few friends from Gaoche military households.
They didn't even think about marrying any sweethearts here, but they came to expand their contacts after being instructed by their parents. All the men of the right age who have some official positions and status in Pingcheng are in Meiyuan this time. Even if they are not favored by the girls, it is good to know more people.
Di Yefei originally planned to come with He Mulan, but Su and Jun ordered that He Mulan must act with him that day, so He Mulan had to decline Di Yefei's invitation.
She guessed that it was Di Yefei's first time to participate in such a "blind date meeting", and she was probably still a little uneasy. In addition, his identity was much lower than theirs. With her, a general from an ordinary military household, maybe Be more comfortable. Even if these are ignored, she and Di Yefei are so familiar, even if they chat in the cold, they are not boring.
But she didn't know that Di Yefei had seen similar situations when he was in the Gaocheren station in Jinshan, and the memories he got were really not very good, so she wanted to use the calmer He Mulan as a shield. .
As a result, He Mulan was pulled away by Su and Jun, and Di Yefei could only go to the plum garden with a few nephews of the Cui family with a cold face.
The high gates of the Han people are all active in the south of the garden, while the Xianbei clan and envoys from various countries are in the north of the garden. The Queen Mother Dou heard that she would not come to host the flower banquet until noon, and the rest of the family could not see her, so most of the young people were young. People still play with themselves, and don't take the trip to the plum garden as a social occasion.
Suhejun is also a famous person in Pingcheng. Although Suhe's family is not a dignitary, Suhe's family is from the eastern Xianbei. He has followed Tuoba Xianbei since he went south. The whole family is deeply trusted by the emperor. Never under the eight surnames.
So when Su Hejun brought He Mulan into the garden gate, the news of the arrival of Shiro from Su He's family spread throughout the plum garden. Along the way, many young people who knew each other came to greet him.
Today's Su Hejun is wearing a white robe. White is a color that can only be worn by nobles from the eastern Xianbei. Eye-catching, Su Hejun was bragging about how hard it was to get his clothes on the road.
"Material is second, this embroiderer is from the south, so the needlework is from the south..." Su Hejun happily pointed to the pattern on the sleeve edge: "Do you feel that there is no pattern at all? Wait. In a sunny place, as soon as the light shines, all the dark lines will come out…”
He Mulan, who was dressed in black, interrupted him with a headache.
"Su Hejun, I know you're nervous, so you don't have to be distracted by chatting with me like this. I really don't want to know how your clothes are made..."
"Who... Who said I'm nervous?"
He raised his arms angrily and started speaking to himself.
"I am the only unmarried man in the Suhe family. I have a bright future and a good-looking appearance. I have traveled south to north, north to Rouran, west to Tuyuhun, south to Liu Song, where have I never been? It's just a small plum garden... "
"Don't talk, a few women are coming towards us, right behind you."
He Mulan swept his eyes and saw several women in Xianbei costumes shoving toward this side, and couldn't help but remind him not to dance.
"Huh?" Su Hejun's face froze, and the raised arm didn't know where to put it: "Is it behind me? Is it far? I turn around now to see if it will look very..."
Monkey in a hurry
"There are still a few feet."
He Mulan endured the funny smile in her heart, "You can do it naturally."
"Of course you are, you are not a man!" Su Hejun lowered his voice and said annoyed: "If you are like me, you will naturally not get up. And these women are obviously coming towards me, of course you are not nervous. A large group of men are coming towards you, I see you..."
"Is this Lang Jun the newly appointed Hu Ben Zuo Sima, General Hua?"
The group of Xianbei women here are all wearing Hu clothes with narrow sleeves and waistbands, wearing unique headdresses of Xianbei people on their heads, crowns on top of their heads with hanging beads and jade strings, and a few gems are set in the side of the ears. Eyes are blind.
He Mulan had seen the headdresses of Xianbei aristocratic women, seeing them putting such a large pile of jewelry on their heads, she could not help but glanced at their necks with emotion, and then glanced at the plains who wished to dig a hole and bury them. He Jun, then replied:
"It's down."
The talking Xianbei woman glanced up and down at He Mulan and shook her head: "You don't look good."
As soon as she finished speaking, Su Hejun next to He Mulan burst out laughing, and suddenly felt much happier in her heart.
"What you're saying is..." He Mulan touched her nose, "However, I don't rely on my face to make a living."
Probably because He Mulan answered decently, and she was not angry after hearing it as they imagined, the woman laughed generously: "You are quite interesting, I am the daughter of Yuchi's family, Yuchi praises Lu It's my uncle."
"Ah, when I was in the army, General Yuchi took care of him..."
No wonder!
He Mulan casually said a few words of courtesy.
This group of girls obviously didn't come for his courtesy. Yuchi Kualu's niece pulled out a round-faced girl from behind and patted her on the shoulder: "Didn't you keep asking just now? Why are you going backwards now? already?"
He Mulan suddenly felt a bad feeling in his heart. When he looked at Su Hejun, he saw a schadenfreude smile on his face, and he couldn't help his scalp tingling.
Facts have proved that since her time traveled, except for the Yuan family's head, who is not very clear, most of the people who have expressed admiration for her are women.
Although this has something to do with her now walking in the world as a man, her own sexuality is normal, and after a few more visits, she also has a faint headache.
Is this girl going to say something like "I've admired you for a long time"
He Mulan's right foot had begun to slowly move back half a step.
The round-faced Xianbei girl looked up at He Mulan, then looked at his clothes, and suddenly asked, "Why don't you wear the clothes I made for you?"
"Huh?" He Mulan was dumbfounded.
"What?" Su Hejun pricked up his ears to listen to the gossip, and was suddenly stunned.
"Hua Mulan, you're not being kind. When did you hand over such a confidante, you even took away their clothes..."
Su Hejun frowned.
"I can't even meet women in the army..." He Mulan looked at the round-faced girl who was obviously happy, and a terrible guess suddenly flashed in her mind: "Could it be that the robes that General Yuchi sent over at that time? Yes… "
The round-faced girl's smiling eyes were crescent-shaped.
"Yeah, yeah, that's what I did. My father said you like girls with good needlework, so I made a set of four seasons' robes. Don't you like it? Why don't you wear it..."
"puff!"
Su Hejun covered his mouth, ran straight to a plum tree and pretended to admire the plum tree, not daring to look back at He Mulan's face.
Apart from He Mulan and the round-faced girl, several other Xianbei girls also showed concerned expressions, wanting to hear He Mulan's answer.
If He Mulan is really a man, I am afraid that at this time, he will think of a way to not attack this girl, but also easy to be accepted, politely reject her kindness, thank her for her clothes or something.
Helpless, He Mulan was a person with a low emotional intelligence, and she had no experience with such things. The only "Zhao Ming" was running away crying because of what she said.
So she froze for a while, then said dryly: "That...the clothes that were sent here...the clothes I wore in the army were all rough. General Yuchi's material was so good that I didn't wear it..."
"Are you sending too many clothes?"
The girl lowered her head in disappointment, muttered for a while, and raised her head again.
"My name is Yuchiyan, you didn't wear them before, but now you're a Sima, remember to wear them!"
"Huh? Oh, good."
He Mulan nodded.
"But most of my clothes are left in the Montenegro camp, and I have to ask someone to bring them back."
Yuchiyan froze now, and stomped her feet unwillingly: "You are really wood! Forget it, I will write a letter and have Abo deliver it to you! Remember my name is Yuchiyan!"
After she finished speaking, she looked at He Mulan carefully for a while, focusing on He Mulan's gibbous waist, and then she calmly followed a few female companions.
When the girls from Yuchi's family were gone, Su He Juncai moved over with an expression similar to "laughing and twitching", and asked He Mulan amusingly, "I took other people's clothes and didn't acknowledge it, eh?"
"Before the expedition, many generals inexplicably sent me clothes from others. I couldn't refuse, so I took them all. Some were suitable, and the materials were not expensive. The brocade is of the highest quality, how can I wear it to fight..."
He Mulan shook his head.
"After I joined the army, Huafu was no longer with me."
Su Hejun was still making fun of the rotten peach blossom that He Mulan caused, but suddenly fell silent after hearing her emotion.
After being around her for a long time, she always forgets her real gender.
There is a gender in this world, not a man or a woman, but like Hua Mulan, who can no longer be defined simply by "who is she".
What was Mulan like before joining the army? Does she also manage her hair at the window at home and apply yellow decals to the mirror? Like the sisters at home, are you worried about whether to wear a red dress or a blue dress today, and will you be angry about one less piece of jewelry for yourself
Su Hejun shifted his gaze to He Mulan's face, and seemed to want to detect the clues from her expression and appearance when she was still in cardamom.
Do you wear rouge at home, comb your hair in a bun, and wear a narrow skirt
Su Hejun imagined He Mulan dressed like this, and then...
- shivered hard.
"his..."
Su Hejun rubbed his forearm strangely, and glanced at He Mulan again.
"Are you cold? Are you wearing less?" He Mulan didn't know why, and looked at Su Hejun who suddenly stood with arms folded, "Your clothes are really good, but they are a little thinner. It is early winter now, although silk cotton clothes It's bulky, but it's much warmer than a jacket."
"What do you know, it's called Fengyi..." Su Hejun replied reflexively, then glanced at He Mulan: "When you weren't a soldier before, what did you wear at home?"
He Mulan was stunned for a while, thinking back to Mulan's girlhood.
"Apart from not wearing a narrow skirt and pleated trousers, and wearing a crown on the head, it is no different from their dress."
"Oh... fortunately you joined the army..."
Su Hejun couldn't bear to look directly and covered his eyes.
"Otherwise..."
Otherwise, with her mediocre appearance, I am afraid that she will marry an ordinary and mediocre man, and then spend her life wasted.
That is simply a humiliation!
"Everyone in the world judges women based on their looks and talent. Before I met you, I thought so too." Su Hejun couldn't help but sigh, "I always feel that with my family background and talents, I will definitely marry someone with beautiful looks in the future. A noble girl runs the house, and then she marries seven or eight beautiful concubines with different looks, and this life is considered complete..."
'Then you marry a woman with a truly amazing family and an equally amazing temper. Not to mention concubines, it is estimated that if you look at other women, they will be killed...'
He Mulan complained silently in his heart.
"But after getting to know you, I think I'm a little shallow." Su Hejun shook his head. "There are thousands of women in this world, who said that you have to be beautiful to be considered a good match?"
"Huh? How can Su and Jun compare me?" He Mulan laughed, "I guess I won't be able to find one in thousands of miles."
"Indeed."
Su Hejun nodded and looked up at the plum tree above his head.
There, many budding plum blossoms are dotted on the branches. Because they have not bloomed, almost no one cares or appreciates them.
But he felt that the budding plum blossom was precisely because the time had not yet come, and he was even more looking forward to what it would look like.
"so… "
He Mulan followed his gaze inexplicably.
Bare many little dots, what the hell is he looking at
"General Hua! Oops, you are here!"
A tall man wandered around near the gate of the garden, and finally found He Mulan and Su Hejun who were chatting in this remote corner, and immediately ran over happily with long legs.
"I've been looking for you for a long time!"
"Lonely, lonely, stupid!"
Su Hejun gritted his teeth and pronounced his name.
"Ah, Su and Shijun are also there." Dugunuo walked in front of the two in three or two steps, grinning as if he had just discovered Suhejun: "The Shijun looks really good in clothes, but I walked all the way, It seems that everyone wears it like this. Did you agree to wear it like this? I wouldn't wear it if I knew it earlier."
He patted the red shirt on his body, and seemed a little embarrassed that he was wearing something different from others.
"Ah, General Hua is wearing black! That way I'm much more relaxed!"
Xianbei nobles are still white, so many people wear white clothes on such solemn occasions.
There are also people who wear official uniforms, but Wei's official uniforms are not good-looking, and they look like they are showing off their positions.
Even so, to say such words so loudly, if it is not intended to be ironic, it may really be a lack of heart.
Seeing Su He Jun's anger, He Mulan could not wait to take off his clothes and step on his feet a few times, and turned his head to make a round: "I'm all men, and I can wear whatever I want. What's your business with me?"
Dugu Nuo laughed a few times, turned to see that the servants in the family hadn't chased after him, and then said mysteriously: "My family has arranged a marriage for me, but I haven't seen the girl in that family, I'm going to secretly Go to the garden to the south and have a look..."
"That's a pity, just because you dress up like you, I'm afraid that you won't even see the faces of the girls, and you will be forked out as a disciple."
Su Hejun sneered.
"Yes, yes, I think so too."
Dugu Nuo nodded again and again.
"So General Hua, can you please accompany me?"
"what?"
He Mulan was taken aback.
"I go?"
"If I'm really discovered, with a warrior like you, I'll be able to avoid a beating... Otherwise, just protect me and don't get hit in the face. If my brother sees my face hurt , go back and be beaten again... "
Dugu Nuo smiled innocently.
"I'll just go and see what the girl I'm marrying looks like, and don't do anything..."
"Why don't you go in a big way?"
He Mulan's eyes widened.
"Isn't it normal for fiancées to meet?"
"It hasn't arrived yet... The two families are only privately... "
Dugu Nuo blushed suddenly.
"Actually, I am also high..."
He was probably not good at lying, and his face was flushed in half of the words: "General Hua, I will tell the truth, I just want to ask people if they are willing. Discuss, don't delay others."
"Mulan, don't follow this bastard!"
When Su Hejun saw He Mulan's thoughtful look, he was scared to death.
"If he is discovered, he is nothing, I am afraid that your reputation will be lost!"
"What kind of reputation do I have!" He Mulan stimulated him amusingly, "I don't want to marry some beautiful family, I'm begging for seven or eight concubines!"
"That was not what I meant!"
Su Hejun felt like he was going crazy.
"There are so many people in the garden on the south side, it's hard to guarantee that no one knows us, and it's not too late now, and it's not suitable for us to run around before the Queen Mother..."
"No need! I've sent my family to find out where they are! Let's just sneak over there!" Dugu Nuo waved his hands again and again. "Let's just say we got lost! You know my reputation, it's normal to get lost, right?"
"Humph!"
"General Hua, I really can't find anyone to help me. If I go alone, I'm really scared." Dugu Nuo looked a little confused. "My grandmother said that waiting for the water to succeed, but I always feel that the girl from the Han family is afraid that she will not be willing. If she is not happy, I will not be happy, and it will be meaningless. I want to marry someone who doesn't like me. What is the girl doing?"
"Wicked! How can a marriage between big clans be decided by your willingness or not? Even if the girl is unwilling, if the family wants her to marry, she can only..."
Su Hejun immediately put his hands behind his back, and prepared to talk to Dugu Nuo with a look of "I want to educate you".
"Okay, I'll go with you."
He Mulan simply nodded.
"Hua Mulan!"
Su Hejun's eyes widened.
"Thank you, General Hua!"
Dugu Nuo was ecstatic.
He Mulan is willing to go there because Dugu Nuo still maintains such a pure heart after Hua Mulan disarms and returns to the field, and is even willing to support her idol with her marriage.
Now that he can say, "What am I going to do when I marry a girl who doesn't like me", then in the future he is willing to treat Hua Mulan as his wife, and he can imagine the choice in his heart.
She remembered that the Yulin Langs who went with him once canceled his "everyone has five strengths and one weakness", so his wife couldn't stand it and divorced. Dugu Nuo was so embarrassed that he scolded him angrily, but he didn't say a word. If his wife is not good, he is not like many men who complain about how his ex-wife is not.
Perhaps it was because he kept his mouth shut that his wife was not good, that people thought something was wrong with him.
She felt that Dugu Nuo was a very cute and honest man. If the two ended up reconciling because the girl was unwilling to marry him in the first place, it would even set the beginning of "the union of Han and Xianbei people is unhappy", That would be a pity.
Even if she is willful once, it can be considered that she wants to repay the favor that Dugu Nuo once came to support Hua Mulan, and she is willing to help him.
"Su He-jun, I'll just go with him. The queen mother didn't come, and now this plum garden is not a dragon's pond and a tiger's den. It's enough for me to go there alone."
He Mulan nodded to Su Hejun.
"You wait for me here, wait for me, I'll come back..."
"Do you know the way to Meiyuan? Do you have Han clothes? Do you know what the girl he's looking for looks like? Do you know how Dugu silly Er can talk to people?"
Su and Jun said a lot of words in a row, and seeing that He Mulan and Dugunuo had been stunned, they shook their sleeves with prestige.
"Uh… "
"what… "
"If you were my egret officials, I would have sent you back to your hometown for more." Su Hejun put his hands behind his back, raised his neck, and said contemptuously:
"If you talk about sneaking into the South Garden, without my help, you will be humiliated and thrown to the Hall of Supreme Harmony early in the morning!"
He squinted at Dugu Nuo.
"Want to meet your fiancée? Please, please, I'll..."
Hahaha, struggle, go away, as long as you have a little...
"I actually forgot about your ability!"
Dugu Nuo looked frantic.
He looked at Su Hejun, who had opened his mouth wide, and simply bent down and gave a big gift.
"Please!"