"Do you think someone gave me the hush money?" Driver Wang asked back: "You think it's too simple, it's not a person. It's not people who give me the hush money, it's them."
"Who are they you talking about?" Guan Zheng asked carefully.
"Yes, it is them. The earth is moving a little bit, and they are also moving a little bit, and then they are about to stop." Driver Wang said some weird words that made Guan Zheng feel weird. He wants to tell us. What we do.
Xu Jiuyan is still dealing with the child here. The child is like a hedgehog with puffed up hair. No one is allowed to approach. Xu Jiuyan's mouth is almost worn out when she stands at the door. People just ignore her when she says so many good things.
Xu Jiuyan still patiently said: "You have to learn to take care of yourself, take a deep breath, forget the people you shouldn't remember, no one will deceive you anymore, do you understand?"
Wei Chunyu didn't listen, but still covered himself in the quilt and shrank in the corner of the ward. Xu Jiuyan tirelessly said: "From a psychological point of view, the "emotional" reaction that makes a person particularly angry or overly injured is usually related to the original family when he was a child.
People should learn to use the present, more mature, and more objective standpoint to examine what happened in the past. If your father had been very unsympathetic to you, try to look at it from a new perspective. You may understand that your father had no choice but to say a word accidentally, but the harm to you was so real. So deep. Unless you can re-explore, it is difficult to escape from it. Even if your father hurt you deliberately, spiritual exploration and healing can reduce the injury, help you accept the shortcomings of others, learn to put yourself in your place, see your father's reasons for doing that, and then forgive him. The child’s ability to withstand is not enough. When encountering certain things, sometimes it will cause deep harm. But if we can trace the situation from an adult's perspective, the wound will not be that big. This is why it is important to review the psychological process. "
Wei Chunyu stared at Xu Jiuyan straightly. Xu Jiuyan continued: "Why don't we read more books and listen to more interpersonal and psychological speeches?"
Xu Jiuyan's patience is much more inexplicable: "Or you can use emotional diary and lifeline analysis to gain a deeper understanding of your emotions and psychological interactions with others. Try to write an "emotional diary" and think carefully about what is in your life. It will make you have emotional overreactions. Recording such things is very helpful for your own growth and psychological rehabilitation.
If we do not have the courage to face some painful experiences in the past and blindly suppress our hurting emotions, we will become slaves to these emotions and be controlled by them. Trying to suppress and deny these emotions will often burst out with greater intensity at unexpected times and occasions. Therefore, we must always introspect, learn to understand and deal with emotions. When we enter a crisis state of over-emotion, it is our best opportunity to learn again. This process of instant reflection can help us understand more deeply the psychological operations in the subconscious. So don't give up easily. Instead, take the opportunity to work hard to record it bit by bit. With the emotional diary, it can help us to examine and think. what do you think? "
Xu Jiuyan and Wei Chunyu dealt with each other for a long time, but Wei Chunyu still didn't appreciate it. The psychiatrist next to him said: "Officer Xu, Wei Chunyu's illness is very serious, and it can't be solved easily."
Xu Jiuyan asked anxiously: "What the hell is going on with her?"
The psychologist said: "Psychiatric trauma is generally defined as "events beyond the experience of ordinary people." Trauma usually makes people feel powerless or helpless and paralyzed. Trauma occurs suddenly and cannot be resisted. When it comes to psychological trauma, we think of wars, floods, earthquakes, fires, and air crashes. In fact, psychological trauma is far more than just these powerful events. There are also neglect and emotional abuse that we may experience for a long time in our daily lives. , Physical abuse, or violence will all promote the formation of psychological trauma, especially now that people’s impetuous psychology is more likely to cause psychological trauma."
Xu Jiuyan was also very anxious, and said, "Then do you have any good solutions?"
The psychiatrist said: "There are ways, but they are not easy for everyone. First and foremost, let the traumatized people feel the external support, even if all people leave you, there will be "the earth" for you. Support, and anything around you, such as chairs, tables, floors, even trees, and air will give you support. When you feel this way, your body will feel a sense of relaxation, feel the changes in your body, and focus on it. In terms of feelings, gradually a new emotion will come: "I am not alone, I am safe. "
The second pendulum effect is to allow the injured person to return to a state of awake in shock, so that the body being treated can shuttle back and forth between "good feelings" and "bad feelings". It is necessary to pay attention to uncomfortable negative feelings such as tension and stiffness. Pay attention to positive and neutral physical feelings. This can help us learn to feel the various sensations of the body, and learn to distinguish the feelings of the nervous system in different states of imbalance and balance.
When the mind is traumatized, our body will also change and enter a defensive state. Just like Wei Chunyu, synchronous tracking is to let the injured recall a traumatic scene, and at the same time pay attention to the changes in the body, then the inertial reaction of the body can be consciously changed, and this kind of trauma will be slowly repaired.
However, for those who have experienced traumatic experiences, although the great defense energy in the body is aroused, it cannot be released due to various reasons. Instead, it freezes and accumulates. In similar situations in the future, they feel powerless and numb. Recovery of defense reaction exercises can activate the body's natural energy to complete a natural defense reaction process and restore the nervous system.
At the same time, actively adjusting body movements and postures can also affect our minds. Usually many people think that the relationship between our mind and body is a one-way relationship of decision-making and execution. The mind thinks and commands, and the body is just a tool to execute will; but more and more psychologists, brain scientists and neuroscientists believe that, The relationship between our body and mind is not that simple. They are an organic system that influences and interacts with each other. Not only does our spiritual world affect the body's response, it actively adjusts the movements and postures of the body, and it can also affect our mind. "(End of this chapter)