A woman can be weak or strong, no matter what kind of posture it is, if you do three things, you will basically not be bullied by your husband.
First, respect your husband. Whether it is a job choice or a decision on something, give him enough respect and don't point fingers. Even if you think it is wrong, you must carefully make suggestions with the correct tone.
Second, don't rely too much on your husband. It's okay to spend your husband's money, but it's best not to rely solely on your husband for support.
Third, no matter how considerate and gentle a wife is, she must have a bottom line and principles. Once she is touched, she must have a big explosion that he can remember firmly.
Ji Man also forgot which post he saw these words in, but he thought it made sense anyway. If she can't live with Ning Yuxuan anymore, she can leave immediately. Anyway, there is a food store, so she can't starve to death. If you are not happy, then go to Errong and Yurun, anyway, he is not the only one in her world.
Machismo will never die, jihad will never stop!
But not only thinking about fighting against Ning Yuxuan, the two of them still have to live. Her advantage is that she is a modern person who knows more and is smarter than ordinary women.
Now Ning Yuxuan is probably secretly planning a major event. As the person standing next to him, he must not just add to his troubles, but try his best to help him.
Men have men's battlefields, and women have women's battlefields. After Er Xin was made a concubine, Ji Man went into the palace to visit her with Er Rong.
The rank of concubine is not high, but apart from the queen, Erxin is the only one who is the most favored. Ji Man saw that this girl had delicate features, unlike Er Rong's carefree, she was well educated and reasonable, following the rules every step of the way. No wonder it was loved by the emperor.
Er Rong stayed to talk to Er Xin, and Ji Man went to the Queen's Palace.
The Empress Sealing Ceremony has passed, and it was not as grand as imagined. The emperor said that he didn't want the empress to be tired while pregnant, but Shen Youqing understood that Zhao Zhe didn't care about her that much anymore.
Now that her body is not suitable for being favored, and there are batches of newcomers entering the palace, Shen Youqing feels very uncomfortable in her heart, she wants to respect her mother, and she can't be jealous, and she can't even punish people at will. A queen is better than a concubine.
Ji Man went there many times, and the people in Shen Youqing's palace were quite familiar with her, so they invited Shen Youqing to greet her without saying a word.
"Why are you free today?" Shen Youqing didn't have a good look at her. Among the maids who were favored this time, several who looked like her were kept by the emperor. This Nie Sangyu was still her biggest threat.
Ji Man said with a smile: "I just came to pay my respects as an ordinary friend. I heard that my mother has been restless recently, so I wanted to have a chat with my mother."
Nie Sangyu is just a commoner's daughter now, she goes in and out of the palace as if there is no one else, and the emperor will not blame her for any wrongdoing, how can she not make all the female relatives jealous? If there is no support from the emperor's love, how can Nie Sangyu mention the word "friend" to her? Who are you going to invite Ann again
Shen Youqing was angry in her heart, but she still smiled on the surface: "You have a heart."
"Minnv thinks that Empress does not have to worry about falling out of favor." Ji Man said seriously: "Empress's family has made great contributions to the emperor, and they have worked hard. No matter what, Empress' position as queen will not be shaken."
Shen Youqing nodded, she knew this, but without the emperor's favor, what's the point of just wanting a second place
"I don't need to avoid the newcomers, I went to train them myself, but I am familiar with them, and I will get close to them a lot in the future." Ji Man said with a smile: "Ministers are talkative, these empresses naturally know."
Of course Shen Youqing knew that it was not her turn to teach the harem to win people's hearts. It's just that she is not a human being.
Ji Man didn't say anything superfluous, but while reassuring Shen Youqing to have a stable back position, she subconsciously hinted that newcomers need to be trained and guarded against, what if they become a big threat someday
In fact, not every imperial palace has palace fights, and some of them are not as fierce as those shown in TV dramas. But with Ji Man's gentle stirring, the muddy water in Shen Youqing's heart turned upside down. Ji Man walked forward, and she ordered someone to go to the Sixth Palace on the back foot, and let the newly promoted palace people come to the East Palace to listen to the teachings.
There were also people from Ning Yuxuan in the palace, and just taking advantage of this opportunity, they made some small moves. Erxin's leg was accidentally pushed when the queen was teaching her, and she dislocated it.
The person whom the emperor was doting on was suddenly embarrassed by the empress, Zhao Zhe suppressed his anger and took Er Xin back, without blaming Shen Youqing. But there were a few people in the East Palace who whispered in Shen Youqing's ear, saying that the emperor must hate the queen in his heart. The first wife is always the least favored when she is rich and honored. Even if the empress is pregnant with a child, she probably doesn't have much weight in the emperor's heart.
These palace people are also human spirits, instead of speaking in front of Shen Youqing, they sat on the steps at the entrance of the palace and secretly said it, but it was difficult for Shen Youqing not to hear.
Does Zhao Zhe not care about her anymore? Shen Youqing clutched her stomach, and was so sad that she immediately wanted to take the sedan chair to ask the emperor.
As a result, the bearer took her around the road, dawdled for half a day, and sent the queen to Zichen Hall just when the emperor was about to pamper the palace people.
Ji Man sat face to face with Ning Yuxuan in the Hou's mansion, and took a sip of tea together with a teacup.
"I heard that the empress had a cold war, and the empress was so angry that she almost had a miscarriage." Ji Man put down his teacup and sighed: "You are too cruel."
"If the bridge of the Shen family and the Xiao family is not demolished, we will be the ones who will be uneasy in the end." Ning Yuxuan put down the teacup, looked at her with some appreciation and said, "But I never thought that you would know what I want to do, and you will know what I want to do." Pass me the ladder."
Ji Man tutted twice and shook his head: "It's just a coincidence."
Who knew that this man's hands had grown into the palace? Isn't he a Hou Ye who seems to be keeping his duty
Does she count as a gangster now
Erxin is indeed a clever girl, she climbed up step by step without any difficulty. The foot was dislocated, and in exchange for a noble concubine, I went to the Queen's Palace to thank her.
Ning Yuxuan asked for congratulations on the grounds of illness, and implored the emperor to issue a decree to grant a marriage quickly so that he and Jiman could get married as soon as possible.
However, Zhao Zhe still disagreed.
Not only did he disagree, but he also took advantage of Ning Yuxuan's serious illness to call Jiman into the palace to write poems and essays.
"I still remember the song "Will Enter the Wine" that you wrote in Luoyan Pagoda." Zhao Zhe said with a smile, "Can you write anything else?"
Ji Man nodded, and handed him a copy of Su Shi's "Shui Tiao Ge Tou": When is the bright moon, ask the blue sky for wine.
Long Xin was so happy that the palace people passing by outside Zichen Hall could hear him laughing. So everyone in the palace fully understood that there was someone in the emperor's heart whom he couldn't wish for, and whom he loved very much.
Ji Man went to write poems in front of Zhao Zhe for three days, but the queen finally couldn't take it anymore and persuaded Zhao Zhe face to face to marry Nie and Mo Yuhou.
"Why do you want to give it?" Zhao Zhe pursed his lips: "I don't want to give it."
Shen Youqing was trembling with anger: "Your Majesty, that's someone else's wife, the flowers are gone, why does the Emperor love you so much?"
Zhao Zhe scolded angrily: "As a queen, how can you be so narrow-minded? I am willing to discuss poetry with Mrs. Nie, so why is it your turn to speak?"
Men will ask their wives to be generous and not to be jealous. He often makes such requests because he has a guilty conscience.
Shen Youqing was kicked out of Zichen Palace, went back to the palace and cried all night, after that the fetal image became unstable again. After tossing and tossing one after another, the imperial physician felt that the fetus must be in danger.
As a result, Erxin sent the queen a baby-preserving soup, a secret recipe handed down by the family, which really kept the fetus intact.
However, after that, Er Xin favored the empress, and the three-month fetus was stable, and the empress was willing to sleep with her, but she had a miscarriage just after she slept with her.
When Ji Man heard the news, he seemed to smell blood again, and couldn't help retching.
"What's wrong?" Ning Yuxuan put down the book and looked at her.
Ji Man shook his head, probably because he had too much imagination and made himself sick.
The emperor caused the empress to have an abortion, no one can blame it on others. Shen Youqing was a little stupid, closed the door and didn't see anyone for a whole month. The Shen family was found to be involved in corruption and bribery in the court. Although Xiao Tianyi tried to protect it, many people were still involved.
Ji Man had a premonition that the Shen family would be the second Nie family.
More and more people came to the Hou's Mansion under the guise of visiting the sick, but they were locked in the study room with Ning Yuxuan for half a day, and then dispersed, everyone's expression was very solemn.
Ji Man didn't ask Ning Yuxuan what he said, but just helped him make a pot of tea and rubbed his shoulders. When he was in a good mood, he even hummed a little tune to him.
It's been a long time since Ning Yuxuan went to rest elsewhere. When Ji Man was around, he didn't even see a woman beside him. Jiman secretly followed him and found that he was not too close to anyone.
A tiger suddenly only likes carrots, believe it or not? Ji Man didn't believe it anyway, but she was also happy that he behaved so well, cooking for him from time to time, being a virtuous little woman.
One day when she was going out, she heard maids talking in the backyard.
"How do you feel now that the Hou's Mansion needs that Beiyuan, that girl Nie is enough, why leave other places for it? It's useless anyway."
The maid next to her hurriedly covered her mouth: "Be careful to let people hear about you, there is no shortage of maids in this mansion."
Ji Man reflected on herself, such a modern life, does Ning Yuxuan really like it or fake like it
Lying on the bed at night, Ji Man couldn't help asking him this.
Ning Yuxuan was at a loss: "What is modern life?"
"It's like this now, only you and I are good, and there are very few maids and servants. I will cook and wash your clothes for you, and then go to the food store to have a look. When you come back from court, we will have dinner together. I am the only one around you woman."
Ning Yuxuan looked at her seriously for a long time, then pursed his lips and said, "It's not impossible, after all, I don't have any woman to marry now."
There are only two kinds of his women, those who need to marry and those who don't.
Ji Man was a little discouraged. For a long time, it wasn't because he liked the two of them together, but because he didn't have anyone else to marry