Chen Xuan was very comfortable interacting with people in the academic world. On the day when Chen Xuan gave a speech at Peking University, Wei Nian dressed in a suit and took the children to listen. Chen Xuan was still a little shy at first, but she was well prepared and performed very well. Chen Xuan was not the kind of person who was good at speaking, but she could always move people with her words. It must be said that this was Chen Xuan's unique ability.
Parents are the best teachers for their children.
The children are also very proud of their mother, mainly because they all think their mother is very capable. Wei Xin is fine, she is a big child now, her own outlook on life and the world is beginning to form, and Wei Xin has always known that her mother is very capable. Like Wei Xin, Chen Xuan actually never beats or scolds her children, but Wei Xin is a little afraid of her mother, she thinks her father is easier to talk to. The same is true for Wei Yu, while Wei Hong and Si Baoer, who has just started to walk, are more dependent on their mother.
After his mother finished her speech, Wei Hong straightened her pretty face and congratulated her mother, saying that her mother had spoken very well.
Chen Xuan smiled and touched her second daughter's face, saying encouragingly, "Ahong, you will definitely be better and more outstanding than your mother in the future." Chen Xuan thought that she had started a little late.
Wei Hong said very seriously, "Try to catch up with mom first."
Wei Xin thought, "Then you have to study hard, but you don't have to study too fast. If you skip a grade again, you will catch up with Ayu, and Ayu will be under a lot of pressure."
Having a sister like Wei Hong is really stressful. Wei Yu said, "What can I do? I will try to skip a grade next year. Otherwise, it will be embarrassing if Hong catches up with me." He doesn't need his parents to spur him on. Having a sister like Wei Hong is the best spur! Wei Yu thought bitterly.
Based on Wei Hong's intelligence, she would never get involved in such boring topics.
The lunch after the speech was hosted by Professor Chu, and both the guests and hosts had a great time.
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No matter in what era, the success of one person is not the ultimate success, because no matter which nation, even in the West where the small family system is popular, people will pay attention to the person's marriage and children in addition to the individual.
Chen Xuan's own experience is impressive enough, but Chen Xuan's success in family and children also adds a lot of points to her. Especially with Wei Nian being so handsome and charming, even the children are very polite, especially Alice Wei, who is particularly good at boasting. Of course, Alice Wei is not just bragging, she is already a child with ideals. Judging from her dress, you would think that Alice Wei will pursue an artistic career in the future. In fact, she is a mechanical fan, and she is even obsessed with science and engineering subjects. The professors in the university are naturally knowledgeable and experienced, and liberal arts professors like Professor Chu think that Alice Wei is simply a mechanical genius.
If Chen Xuan and her family had not decided to go abroad and planned to send their children to study abroad, Professor Chu would have really wanted to introduce Alice Wei to the Department of Mechanical Engineering.
In addition to academic exchanges, the question of whether Wei Jin's family and Wei Shi's family should go abroad together was also on the agenda. Because going abroad is not as convenient as before. In the past, there was no need for any procedures. You could just buy a boat ticket and go abroad. Now it is different. Now it requires government approval procedures.
For example, Chen Xuan and Wei Nian do not need to do this. They came back from the United States, have a status and a career, and can go abroad directly. But if it is the first time for people to go abroad, they need to get approval from the government. So the number of people must be determined in advance.
Wei Shi was reluctant to let his children go abroad at first, but with Li's presence, he finally decided that Wei Jie's family and Wei Yin would study abroad. Wei Ming's major was Traditional Chinese Medicine, and there was not much room for further study in this major abroad. It was the same for him to work in China to gain experience.
As for Wei Jin's family, the situation was more complicated. Wei Jin wanted the whole family to move out, but then Old Lady Zhao started to act like a demon. Old Lady Zhao didn't know if she had a brain problem due to her age, but she actually wanted the second branch to move out with the Wei family, and the first branch to stay behind to show her filial piety.
It's really hard to tell how to evaluate this old lady's wild imagination!
Even Alice Wei said, "We are not related to the second branch of his family." Her family returned to China this time because they wanted to live a peaceful life with their eldest aunt and uncle's family. It has nothing to do with the second branch of the Zhao family. Her eldest aunt did not marry the second branch of the Chen family.
Fortunately, the children are all grown up now, and Mrs. Zhao can't make the decision. But she seemed to be using this matter as a threat, saying that if the second wife is not brought, the first wife is not allowed to go out. Mrs. Wei was so angry that she almost rolled up her sleeves and went to Zhao's house to fight with the old woman.
Even Wei Jin was almost furious, and for the first time she scolded the vicious old woman in front of her husband. If it was just Wei Jin, she probably wouldn't be so angry, but once a woman becomes a mother, and the matter concerns her own children, she can do anything as a mother.
Maybe after several years, it is not a big deal for a daughter-in-law to scold her mother-in-law, but Wei Jin is an old-fashioned daughter-in-law, so this matter is very serious. If she had not been furious, she would not have said bad words no matter how dissatisfied she was with Old Lady Zhao. Now she really can't bear it anymore. Wei Jin's eyes were blazing with fire, and she sprayed her husband in the face, "If you dare to agree to that old woman, go to the government with me to get a divorce certificate now! This is not the age of lifelong loyalty! Let's go our separate ways, I will go abroad with my sons, and you can live with that biased old woman in China!"
Fortunately, although Brother-in-law Zhao is a weak man, now he has two grandsons, so he naturally knows what is right and wrong. In fact, as a father, he also hopes that his son will be successful and bring honor to the family. Brother-in-law Zhao’s performance in bringing honor to the family is average, but he believes that both of his sons are more promising than himself. Brother-in-law Zhao helped his wife to sit down first. Wei Jin pushed him away with a palm. Brother-in-law Zhao comforted his wife in a kind voice, "I just found out about it too, and I didn’t agree to the old lady. Look at you, we are both in our forties, and you don’t have to be so angry. Think about it, I’m not stupid. No matter how close brothers and nephews are, can they be closer than my wife and son? I’m angry too, so I came back to discuss countermeasures with you."
"What's there to discuss? You should have fought back at that time!"
"You think I didn't fight back? As soon as I said it, the old lady rolled on the ground and slapped her legs and cried. I couldn't stand it, so I pulled back." Brother-in-law Zhao poured his wife a glass of water and sighed, "My life is limited. It's a relief that my two sons are good at studying and have a bright future. They are the success of our family. I see that Ah Nian is more outstanding now that he has gone abroad. Our Ah Feng and Ah Yu are both graduates of Yenching University, and their wives are also college students. Now women are not prohibited from studying and working, so we might as well let them all go abroad. I was thinking, why don't we just not go abroad and let the children go abroad. I heard that the boat tickets are not cheap."
Wei Jin slammed the table, "My son, daughter-in-law, and grandson are all out, so why don't we go? What are we doing in Beijing? Working like slaves for that biased old woman every day?"
"That's not the case. The children go abroad to study, but why would we go abroad? The strawberry business in Beijing is pretty good now."
"What's good about it? Everyone knows that this is an expensive product. There are more and more strawberries on the market, and the price has dropped by several percent. How many years of good times can we have just relying on strawberries? Besides, think about it, Wang Damei has been away for a few years and has been able to open a restaurant with our little girl. I don't believe that I am worse than others." Wei Jin said angrily, "God can't let the sparrow starve to death, so how can we starve to death when we go out? Look at Uncle Wang's family, they are so smart, and they sent two little girls from home to work with us. Although they are doing housework, they are still... We are also going abroad. The conditions there are better than here. We can go there and find a job to earn some money, and we can also help the children. Otherwise, the children will go there, and they have to study, earn money, and raise grandchildren. What a huge expense. Do we have to rely on Ah Nian for everything? I don't have the nerve to do that. Even if the boat ticket is expensive, I will lend it to my brother now, and I can pay it back when I earn money in the future! But our family has never been separated in these years. I can't live without seeing my son and grandson!"
Brother-in-law Zhao actually couldn't survive either.
Brother-in-law Zhao thought about it, slapped his thigh, and made up his mind, "Okay, then let's go out as a family!"
Although brother-in-law Zhao had made up his mind, he was really a man without any means. He just thought that the old lady would cry, and once the family went abroad, they would no longer be able to hear her. Wei Jin no longer counted on her husband, so she summoned her eldest son to talk about this matter and asked him to help her think of a solution. People always say that nephews look like their uncles. Zhao Feng actually doesn't look like his uncle's family. However, he doesn't look like his father either. He looks more like his mother. He and Alice Wei look like siblings, and they also have thin eyebrows, thin eyes, and fair skin. Zhao Feng looked down on his grandparents when he thought of them, and laughed, "Grandma is just making a wishful calculation."
"Who said it wasn't!" Wei Jin snorted, "Your father is a soft-hearted person, and your grandmother is good at dealing with his hard-to-talk personality. He will throw a tantrum and make people look down on him!" Wei Jin sighed and said to his eldest son, "I've thought about it, there must be a way to deal with this matter. Don't let that old woman make trouble, and we can also calm down and prepare to go abroad."
Zhao Feng agreed immediately, "Don't worry, Mom. Just leave it to me. Just prepare the things for going abroad. I'll be there for Grandma."
Wei Jin wanted to find out what his son was going to do, but Zhao Feng didn't elaborate.
Zhao Feng was quite resourceful. Although the old lady treated his mother indifferently, she valued Zhao Feng, the eldest grandson, very much. After all, he was the eldest son and grandson. However, no matter how much she valued him, the old lady's heart was still biased. Zhao Feng, the eldest grandson, had never enjoyed the love and care of his grandmother. From childhood to adulthood, he could only get two pieces of candy from his grandmother during the Chinese New Year. The two brothers Zhao Feng and Zhao Yu lived with their mother at their grandmother's house since they were young. In those days, children were close to their uncles.
Zhao Feng went back to the old house. Now, 99% of the houses in Beijing have installed electric lights, and even the roads have street lights. However, his grandmother, who is said to be quite good at living, is still afraid of wasting electricity and refuses to install electric lights. The family still uses kerosene lamps. Therefore, Zhao Feng has to go back to the old house before dawn. If it is late, the whole family will have only one small kerosene lamp. Because of the rules of the old house, regardless of whether it is a man or a woman, everyone should go to the main room to watch the lamp when talking or doing things. If there is no light in other rooms, you can light a lamp if you want, and pay for the lamp oil yourself.
Whenever Zhao Feng thought of these strange things in the old house, he would shake his head. When he went back and said a few words, he received a crying complaint from his grandmother and second aunt. His grandmother simply said that his brothers had a promising future, and his second aunt's family was not doing well, so she wanted them to help his second uncle's family, so this opportunity was given to his second uncle's family.
Zhao Feng smiled with an understanding look, "Grandma is right. I understand. We are blood relatives. It doesn't matter who goes and who doesn't. I didn't want to go. The boat ticket to the United States costs thousands of dollars, which means two or three thousand dollars per ticket. My family can't afford the boat ticket alone. So, I didn't plan to go. The main reason is that my grandma said that if my mother goes abroad and learns to drive, she will give her a car. Nowadays, cars are cheap, but they still cost eight or nine thousand dollars. After the round-trip boat ticket, I can make a net profit of three thousand dollars with this car. It's for this reason. My mother wants to go abroad. However, what grandma said makes sense. What car is not a car? I don’t want grandma to spend the money. If my mother doesn’t go, grandma can save the money. If my second uncle wants to go, they can go. My second uncle is not an outsider, but the boat ticket must be bought in advance. If my second uncle wants to go, I will tell my second uncle first, and I have to go to Nanjing in advance to complete the procedures for going abroad. Our procedures are urgent, and the expedited procedures are not cheap, but compared to the boat tickets, they are not expensive. One or two hundred dollars per person is enough. Grandma, when can the money be prepared? Let me tell my second uncle."
When Old Mrs. Zhao heard about the car, her head almost exploded.
Oh my god!
Although it seems that the second branch of the Wei family is prosperous, I didn't know it was so prosperous! The wife of the in-laws actually wants to give the eldest daughter-in-law a car!
However, when she heard about the price of the boat ticket and the fees for the paperwork to go abroad, Mrs. Zhao was immediately distressed and said, "Why is the ticket so expensive? And that paperwork costs one or two hundred dollars! We might as well just rob it!"
Zhao Feng smiled helplessly, "How can I lie to you, grandma? Otherwise, you can ask your second uncle to find out how much the boat ticket to the United States is? And the procedures for going abroad are so urgent. When has the government ever offered a cheaper fee? Even for this, you still need to ask someone for help." Zhao Feng said to the second aunt Zhao, "But you don't have to worry, the money is from grandma's public funds, isn't it for the second uncle? My father also agreed."
When Mrs. Zhao heard that they had to take money from the public treasury, she immediately said, "Where does the public treasury get the money? You know that business has been getting harder and harder these years. If you have money, you can lend it to your second uncle for a few years. When your second uncle gets rich, he will pay you back double."
Zhao Feng was very disappointed when he heard this. Although he didn't look like his uncle, he was shrewd and had some of his uncle's influence. Zhao Feng said, "If I had money, I would give it to grandma without asking. Grandma, don't you know that in recent years, the salaries of the government offices have never been paid in full? The colleagues in the government office celebrate their birthdays and hold banquets at their superiors' houses, and there is no day without peace. My mother's strawberry business is not as good as before. She borrowed a bucket of rice from my uncle the other day. I think I have to pay it back first when I get my salary next month. Why don't you lend me two dollars, I will pay my uncle's rice bill first, and when I get my salary next month, I will buy snacks from Daoxiang Village to honor grandma."
Old Mrs. Zhao held her purse very tightly, and even if her eldest son and grandson asked for money, it would be difficult to get a penny out of her pocket.
Zhao Feng explained the matter of spending money abroad to Old Lady Zhao and Second Aunt Zhao, and then he went to the railway department to call his younger brother to his uncle's house. As the eldest brother, he also discussed the matter of going abroad with his younger brother. Anyone who has been to college and has elders like Wei Nian and Wei Yin who studied abroad as role models in their families, the younger generation is also willing to study abroad. However, it is one thing that the second uncle is willing to support their family, but they can't let the second uncle help to cover the many expenses of going abroad.
Although Wei Jin didn't care, his brother got rich anyway. Wei Jin was used to relying on his mother's family, but Zhao Feng and Zhao Yu were not like their parents. The two brothers discussed and decided to clarify these matters with their second uncle before going abroad and ask about the expenses.
The two nephews often come over, and Wei Nian is very happy to see them. After dinner, when Zhao Feng and Zhao Yu talked to their second uncle alone, they talked about this matter. Wei Nian is very satisfied that his nephews can be so caring. If the nephews were young, he, as an uncle, would give money, which is reasonable. Uncles always love their nephews. However, now that the nephews are grown up, they have become adults, and adults have to be independent, so it is naturally better to be more clear about the finances.
Wei Nian already had a plan in mind. He was willing to help the younger generation so that they could go abroad to develop their skills, not to be idle. Wei Nian said, "For now, it's the money for the boat and train tickets. After you arrive in the United States, I will pay for your board and lodging. By then, you will have to prepare for the entrance examination. If you can get a full scholarship, the pressure will be much less. If you can't get a scholarship, the tuition fees of American universities are very expensive, and the pressure will be great. Tuition, living expenses, and children's education expenses are all yours to pay for. If you are unable to afford it, you can borrow money from me, but you must have a repayment plan, and the interest will be calculated according to the interest rate of American banks. How about it?"
The two had no objection.
Wei Nian asked them, "Have you sorted out the issues with your grandparents?"
Zhao Feng said, "Everything is ready. I told grandma the price of the boat ticket, and she immediately stopped urging my second uncle and his friends to go."
Wei Nian Yi Le.
Speaking of the old lady of the Zhao family, even Chen Xuan had to say, "The Zhao family has also been doing business in Beijing for many years. In terms of knowledge, they are not as good as the uncles of the Wang family."
"That old woman is hateful outside, but the old man of the Chen family is a traitor inside. Otherwise, if the old master of the Chen family understood, he wouldn't have let the old woman make such a fuss." Wei Nian snorted coldly, "Those two old guys are as clear as mirrors in their hearts. They know that the eldest son has a promising future. They don't want the eldest son to leave. They just want to keep the eldest son by their side to take care of them in their old age."
When Chen Xuan thought about the Chen family, she couldn't help but sigh. In this world, not all parents hope that their children can have the broadest sky. In fact, the choice of more parents is like that of Old Master Chen and Old Madam Chen. The first function of children is to provide for themselves in their old age; the second function is their own desire for control. The eldest branch of the family is old enough to be grandparents, but these two elderly people still want to control the eldest branch to give the opportunity to go abroad to the second branch; apart from the benefits of providing for the elderly and their own desire for control, what remains is the children's own life.
In comparison, people like her mother are much more noble.
Seeing that Brother Anian was angry at such a person, Chen Xuan consoled him with a smile, "Don't worry about it. We just need to be ourselves. When our children become successful in the future, we won't stop them at all. We just hope that they can be more successful."
What is there to be afraid of in old age? I raise children because I hope they can see the world with their own eyes, achieve something within their own capabilities, see the beauty of the world, and taste the flavor of life. I am not selfishly creating a tool for my own old age.
I will not be partial. Each of my children comes into this world out of love and expectation. I have a lot of endless love to pour into my flesh and blood. How I love my children, my children will learn how to love their children in the future. This is what Chen Xuan believes is the true meaning of childbirth.
The author has something to say: ps: Good night~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~I hope every child is born out of love.
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