If you want to pursue a girl, you must first have a good relationship with her friends.
This is true, but... how to say it...
Some things are not as straightforward as they seem.
It's like you make all kinds of plans before going camping, but the reality is that something unexpected happens that you didn't plan for. Your plan is good, but it is not very close to reality.
On the surface, there is nothing wrong with this strategy. Start laying out the people around the goddess bit by bit, and surround them layer by layer, leaving the goddess with no way out.
However, you must know that girls are different from boys.
Generally speaking, boys are more generous and care about appearance. They are usually embarrassed to cause any trouble when they are together.
And smart boys generally won't do things that hurt each other's feelings.
So, normally, boys in a dormitory have good relationships, but girls are different...
How should I put it? Actually, from a boy's perspective, Mo Ming couldn't understand the attitude of girls towards each other. They were obviously very nice to you one moment, but then...
Mo Ming remembered that when he was in college, he saw several classmates in a girl's dormitory. They were working on papers in pairs. They had agreed to meet up in the afternoon, but for some reason, one of the girls... Suddenly I left my roommate behind and went with my classmates in another dormitory...
It's embarrassing, depressing, and... unpredictable...
There are many such things. He remembers that a similar thing happened to the girlfriend of a roommate in college. It was clear that they were fine before, but suddenly they started to quarrel for no reason...
Two girls who were obviously very close before turned against each other too quickly...
What does that mean
That is to say, in the eyes of boys, the relationship between the goddess's roommate and the goddess may be very good, but the fact is that the relationship between girls and girls is very subtle...
Girls' emotions are very delicate, but it is precisely because of this delicateness that their emotions are easily fluctuated and they are more likely to notice external things.
It is precisely because of this that women usually have their own thoughts.
Don't think that this is just a scene in those TV series. In fact, in reality, there are really many such women, who quarrel with everyone, and generally starting from the age of teenagers, many girls gradually begin to have this mentality.
Although they don’t really do those evil things, they usually agree to it.
For example, if one of the five or six roommates in a dormitory suddenly buys something and plays it in the dormitory, her roommate will usually behave in three ways:
The first type is completely indifferent. I am completely unmoved by others' pretentiousness. Under normal circumstances, if a girl behaves like this, it can only mean that the relationship between them is not good.
The second type is that when I listen to you on the surface, I either don’t feel anything in my heart, or I just feel like hehehe. This usually means that the roommate has seen through the roommate, has a normal relationship with him, is not easy to break up with, but is very disdainful of him in his heart.
The third type is really flattering...
There can be these four kinds of people in a small dormitory. Excluding the pretentious person, four or five people can have three kinds of behaviors. You can imagine how delicate the relationship between girls is...
got it
If you mess around with your relationship at this time, it's really easy to get blacklisted...
Moreover, to take a step back, even if you find a roommate who has a good relationship with the goddess, it does not mean that you will be able to get closer. On the contrary, it may have the opposite effect.
For example, a girl sees a boy who has a good relationship with her best friend. If this girl were a normal person, what do you think she would think
She will definitely give it a wide berth!
Why
The reason is very simple, she will definitely think that you are her good friend’s boyfriend, or that you want to chase your good friend!
In this case, would a girl with the correct outlook on life still take the initiative to get close to her
Because she has to take care of her friendship with her good friends!
With this kind of thinking, the goddess will only treat you as an acquaintance, but it will only be an acquaintance. No matter what the reason is, she will never go further.
Even if you really get involved in her life through her roommate relationship and hang out with her, she will keep a psychological distance from you.
This is a kind of psychological rejection!
She has already drawn a white line in her heart, isolating you from the white line, and will never allow herself to cross the white line even half a step.
Normally, when a boy pursues a girl, if the girl doesn't have feelings for the boy, that's okay, because feelings can be cultivated slowly.
But once you let this girl psychologically reject you, then wait and see!
And if you show the desire to take this step further, then you are screwed. Girls are not fools. You, a stranger, suddenly have such a passionate fight with your best friend, and then extend your claws to her. What do you want her to do? think
Are you a scumbag? Eating from the bowl and looking at the pot? Restless and self-reliant
Moreover, it will make her think that you are very dangerous and scheming, and she will never get close to you!
Of course, this is just Mo Ming's opinion. Many people regard this kind of words that seem reasonable on the surface, but in fact no one has practiced them as wise sayings and regard them as life strategies.
In fact, there are now many so-called "emotional scientists"...
They wantonly follow various rhythms, equate feelings with money and material things, distort human emotions, distort human hearts, spread some rumors that have never been confirmed, or are just a small group of people. , but it is a theory that has no actual basis at all.
Not only that, these people also wantonly recruit some believers and spread some rhetoric in public that seems reasonable on the surface but is actually anti-human.
To put it bluntly, these people are no different from a group of liars. They are using these theories that seem reasonable on the surface but are actually completely baseless to deceive people and seek their own interests.
Mo Ming has always felt that people who give complicated lives are stupid. Life should be simple. Most of the problems in the world are caused by human beings.
For example, for a question that is clearly divided into right and wrong, the answer is either right or wrong, but some people drag the incident into a gray area, giving people a mysterious answer that is neither right nor wrong.
Living in this world should be simple. Just like practicing cultivation, you should be down-to-earth and take it step by step. Only when you pay will you be rewarded. Be a good person, practice slowly, accumulate strength, and one day you will always be able to succeed. Reach the state of your dreams.