249 How can an adult bully a child
Lin Chu didn't ask any more questions and smiled as he and Mo Jingsheng got to know each other.
Since it was Mo Jinxi's parent-teacher meeting, he didn't delay and hurried to the teaching building. Arriving at the door of Mo Jinxi's class, Lin Chu asked Mo Jinxi about the thin child on the way and learned that his name was Yue Chaoqun. From his name, he could see his parents' high expectations for him.
The parent-teacher conference has already started in the classroom, so the door is closed. The cries of Yue Chaoqun and Xu Mingming were heard in the classroom, the door was opened, and the head teacher came out and saw them, and opened his mouth in surprise.
"Mo Jinxi, you... what are you..." the head teacher asked in surprise.
Lin Chu looked at the young female teacher in front of him, as if she had just graduated from school a few years ago. Because primary school is part of the nine-year compulsory education and the location of the orphanage, Mo Jinxi, Shitou and Tiantian were assigned to this primary school by the government.
This primary school is public, and it is not an outstanding school. Unlike some well-known key primary schools, when recruiting teachers, they specify how many years of work experience they need, or have the title of model teacher, etc.
Except for a limited number of veteran teachers, most of them are teachers who have just graduated. As the teaching experience increases, the position will be gradually promoted. Just like the current dean of the school, he just came out of the school more than ten years ago and served as a Chinese teacher, mathematics teacher, and class teacher in the school.
In order to reduce costs, teachers in schools below the third grade have multiple jobs. Some teach English in the second grade while teaching Chinese in the first grade. Some teach mathematics in the second grade, nature activity classes in the third grade, and occasionally ideological and moral classes.
It can be seen from this that the teachers in this primary school are not very good, and they just do not delay the children's learning. The others are probably not as good as those well-known key primary schools, and naturally they cannot be compared with Jixia Academy.
"Maybe they did something wrong and refused to admit it. They were so scared that they cried when they heard us saying that they wanted to come and tell the class teacher and their parents." Lin Chu said rudely.
If these three children had known shame and that they had done something wrong and were willing to admit their mistakes, Lin Chu would not have been reluctant and would have had a good talk with them and let them go back.
After all, as an adult, how could she be as knowledgeable as a child? How could she be harsh on children who corrected their mistakes as long as they knew they were wrong
But all three children refused to admit their mistakes. One would rather cry than admit his mistakes, and the other turned around and ran away when he got the chance. He and his mother said so with confidence. The other one was even more powerful. Not only did he not admit his mistake, he even took action.
Lin Chu felt that they really should teach her well, and at the same time, the class teacher should pay attention to it. There was such a bullying classmate in her class. Shouldn't she pay more attention to it
Children of any family are loved in every possible way at home and should not suffer these undeserved grievances at school. Even Mo Jinxi, should he be bullied because he has no father or mother
"What did they do wrong?" The head teacher was a little unhappy. After all, these were his students.
Looking at Lin Chu and these three people, it felt like they came here deliberately to cause trouble.
The parents of three children also heard their children crying and came out quickly.
He quickly held his child in his arms and looked at Lin Chu displeased.
Xu Mingming's mother protected Xu Mingming and said loudly: "Who are you? What's going on? How can an adult still bully a child?"
The head teacher also frowned, lowered his head and asked, "Mo Jinxi, what's going on?"
As soon as Mo Jinxi opened his mouth, Lin Chu patted him on the shoulder and told him to leave it alone.
He said calmly: "Hello everyone, today my husband and I are here to hold a parent-teacher meeting for Mo Jinxi. Jinxi must have told you, the teacher, that at first, the teacher at the orphanage had to give care to younger children. There was a parent-teacher conference for my child, and Jinxi, as the elder brother, gave it to his younger siblings. As a result, no one came to hold a parent-teacher meeting for him. I found out about this, so I came with my husband to hold a parent-teacher meeting for him."
"Yes, I know about this. Mo Jinxi also told me about it later." The head teacher nodded.
"When Jinxi told you that no one could come, the Chinese class representative of your class heard it and started talking about it. I wonder who the Chinese class representative of your class is? I want to ask her, What is the reason for spreading this incident? Out of sympathy for Jinxi, or out of ridicule for Jinxi? I know that after children go to school, they will always have their own small groups, whether they are ignored by the class or not. A student who is liked by most of his classmates. So as a parent and a teacher, I have always taught my children to be united and friendly, not to bully classmates, and to help each other." Lin Chu couldn't help but ask with a little anger.
The head teacher was a little embarrassed. The female classmate who was the representative of the Chinese class did often tell some things about some classmates she saw being scolded by the teacher in the office. Most of the scolded were children who did not study well in the class. She told some classmates After hearing this, some students didn't like playing with them.
Some will even bluntly say that you don’t study well and always get into trouble, so don’t play with you.
The head teacher also knew about it, but didn't care. Because there are too many of these things, I can’t manage them all, and I can’t manage them all.
Moreover, the head teacher feels that this also has a certain motivating effect. At least it can make them study hard and stop being naughty and playful in order not to be excluded by their classmates. Moreover, the Chinese class representative did not go too far, and no parents came to her because of it, so she just ignored it.
Unexpectedly, Lin Chuba came out today.
Lin Chu's voice was loud. The mother of the Chinese class representative was also there, and she blushed immediately. No matter what, it's not a good thing to talk about other classmates behind their backs like this. It shows the upbringing of a child.
This is not the first time for the parents in this class to have a parent-teacher conference, and they all have impressions on each other. Especially as her daughter is a Chinese class representative, everyone has a deeper impression of her. Looking over now, she really couldn't sit still.
"What does this have to do with my child?" Yue Chaoqun's mother asked, "There are so many children, why do we only make our child cry?"
"Madam, we didn't do anything to these three children. After all, no matter how angry we were, we wouldn't do anything to the three children. But they did something wrong, so I have to protect our children!" Lin Chu She said sonorously that the truth was on her side, and she was not weak at all.
"After the Chinese class representative spread the news that no one would hold a parent-teacher meeting for Jinxi, that day, you three children surrounded Jinxi and said that he was a child without a father and a mother. Neither his parents wanted him. Jin Xi refused to say the more unpleasant words, but these words alone are enough to make people angry."
"So I decided to come with my husband to hold a parent-teacher meeting for Jinxi. Because something unexpected happened today, we arrived a little late. But when we got off the bus, we saw your children surrounding Jinxi, saying that he Lie, say he has no parental education, say he is bad. These words should not be said, no matter how old you are. Being young is not an excuse to hurt others."
"So you can bully children? You have to educate them and us as parents, why do you!" Hu Yidong's mother raised her voice fiercely.
Lin Chu said calmly: "They have said these words twice, once when the Chinese class representative spread the word last time, and once this time. Last time Jinxi went back and cried all night, this time it happened to be us. We bumped into each other. We didn’t do anything to them. After we stopped them, they not only didn’t know their fault and refused to apologize. This classmate Hu Yidong even wanted to attack my husband. I didn’t expect that this little guy is quite capable and temperamental. .”
Hu Yidong's mother's face turned red and white, but she heard Lin Chu say: "We only said that we would take the three of them to find their parents and the head teacher to see how to solve the problem. Classmates Yue Chaoqun and Xu Mingming went there first I started crying. After thinking about it, I realized that I had done something wrong and that I was scared. And classmate Xu Mingming even ran away and was stopped by this police comrade."
Being called out suddenly, Mo Jingcheng was not surprised at all and nodded calmly, "I witnessed the whole process at the school gate earlier. I am not the parent of these three children and cannot control them, so this classmate ran out and was stopped by me. , come and let their parents and teachers discipline them.”
"What kind of parents Jinxi is cannot be judged by anyone without knowledge. Jinxi cannot choose his origin, but even though he grew up in an orphanage, he still does not lack the upbringing he should have, and he is better than his parents. He is much better than anyone else. He knows how to love his younger brothers and sisters, study hard, and has the natural naughty nature of a boy but knows how to behave. Your child, why do you hurt him with such vicious words? I also want to ask, do you know your child's These thoughts?”
"What do children know?" Xu Mingming's mother said harshly.
Seeing that she didn't want to be reasonable, Lin Chu sneered, "Children don't understand, so as an adult, you should understand, right? This classmate Xu Mingming just said that these words he said were all from him. Mom, that is, You said that. He also told him that Jinxi had no parents to teach him and was a bad boy, and told him not to associate with Jinxi. Xu Mingming had parents to teach him, but he ended up being taught these things. Is this what you call a tutor? Jinxi He has no parents, but the orphanage has teachers and a kind old dean who teaches him a lot of things. He never speaks ill of his classmates and never uses words to hurt others. His tutor is much better!"
"I can also testify to this. I was watching at the school gate just now. Even these three classmates said something so outrageous. Mo Jinxi did not say anything unpleasant like them. He just kept defending that he was not lying." Mo Jingcheng said. .
"I don't lie!" Mo Jinxi said with tears in her eyes, "I won't let the old dean and Chuchu down!"
After hearing this, Lin Chu felt sour in his heart and lowered his head to touch Mo Jinxi's head.
Hu Yidong's mother pointed at Mo Jingsheng and said, "Who knows if you are in the same group!"
"Madam, you are being unreasonable. If you are like this, how can you set a good example for your children?" Mo Jingsheng said calmly.
Yan Beicheng couldn't help but glance at Mo Jingsheng and felt that he was really free today, and he even followed him here to serve as a witness and refused to leave.
Lin Chu ignored her and said to the class teacher: "After hearing what they said that day, Jinxi went home and cried all night. But even so, she insisted on letting the two teachers from the orphanage go to the parents' office for her younger siblings first. Yes, I don't want my younger siblings to feel disappointed. But my younger siblings said that they want the teacher to hold a parent-teacher conference for Jinxi, but everyone rotates with each other every year. But Jinxi didn't agree, saying that he was an older brother, so it didn't matter. They were not biological siblings. , they are just orphans living in an orphanage, but they have always been so friendly to each other."
Lin Chu didn't say anything else, but glanced at the three children, with a look that made people unable to look up.
"One more thing. I also came out of an orphanage, so I know how much these children need love. So after I married my husband and became capable, I told Jinxi that we I want to adopt him," Lin Chu said.
The head teacher and these three mothers are not without discernment. Even though they cannot recognize the brand based on the style alone, the clothes Lin Chu is wearing, even if they are maternity clothes, are beautiful and elegant, and are very different from those they usually see. .
In addition, Yan Beicheng's temperament can really make anyone with a dull eye know that he is extraordinary, and they know that the living conditions of this couple must be very good. Coupled with the fact that he has a relationship with Mo Jinxi, being adopted by them is something that will change his life and fly into the branches.
"But Jinxi refused without thinking, because he said he was afraid that his younger brothers and sisters would be sad. He wanted to wait until they were adopted and had families. If we were still willing to adopt him at that time, he would be our child. ." Lin Chu lowered his head and felt particularly distressed when he saw Mo Jinxi lowering her head, her little body so fragile.
From Mo Jingsheng's angle, he could see tears falling from Mo Jinxi's eyes and falling on his sneakers.
"If such a child cannot be named well, then please tell me, madam, what a good child should be like?" Lin Chu looked at Xu Mingming's mother.
She didn't know what the other two mothers thought. Maybe they had the same thoughts as Xu Mingming's mother and said similar things to their children. But only Xu Mingming said it definitely.
Xu Mingming's mother blushed and was speechless.
"I'm here today. In addition to holding a parent-teacher meeting for Jinxi, I have no other reason for looking for you. I want my children to apologize to Jinxi and never say these things to Jinxi again. You don't have to be friends, but you don't have to Hurt him! The harm caused by words is no less severe than the harm caused by physical injuries!" Lin Chu looked at the three mothers with a stern look, which actually made them unable to bear it.
Although they felt that Lin Chu had lost face by saying this and were unconvinced, so many people in the classroom heard it, and they knew that they were being unreasonable. Even if they were sophistical, they would only make themselves more embarrassed.
The faces of the three of them became very ugly. Finally, Yue Chaoqun's mother pushed him and said sternly: "Apologise!"
She would beat him up when she got home, causing her to be embarrassed in front of so many parents.
It is shameful for one's own children to do such a thing. How will they face other parents in the future
There are also her colleagues here, whom she will have to see every day at work from now on!
Yue Chaoqun was crying, wiping away his tears, and said to Mo Jinxi, "I'm sorry."
The mothers of Hu Yidong and Xu Mingming also sternly asked their sons to apologize, but their harsh attitude was obviously not because they felt that their sons had done something wrong, but because they had lost face.
Regardless of whether Hu Yidong and Xu Mingming were sincere or not, the two of them cried and apologized to Mo Jinxi.
Lin Chu said: "Although I have not officially adopted Jinxi, I have long regarded him as my own son. I will follow up on his affairs in the future, and I hope that teacher, you can pay more attention to the student's situation. Jinxi does If he does something wrong, I will still educate him. But if he is bullied and wronged in school, I will come to ask for an explanation like other parents of students. We put our children in school not only to learn knowledge, but also to learn knowledge. We don’t treat teachers as babysitters, but we also hope that teachers can pay attention to the physical and mental health of students.”
The head teacher blushed at what Lin Chu said and was speechless, so he could only nod in agreement.
Hu Yidong's mother said to Hu Yidong: "Okay, go home quickly and stop playing outside. After I finish the parent-teacher meeting, I will go back and talk to you!"
Hu Yidong said "Oh" listlessly and didn't take the matter seriously. He obviously thought that he had done nothing wrong and left with Xu Mingming and Yue Chaoqun without any pressure.
When Lin Chu saw them like this, he knew that this was simply treating the symptoms rather than the root cause. As long as no one is watching, these children will say those things again, and even go further. But on the surface, they had already expressed their humility, and she couldn't hold on to them, so she could only watch them go.
The mother of the three of them gave Lin Chu a shameless look, turned around and entered the classroom. But all the parents in the classroom were staring at them, which really made their faces feel hot and shameless.
With such a commotion, Lin Chu had no intention of staying here any longer. The head teacher was a young man with a thin skin.
This matter was due to her dereliction of duty at work. If Lin Chu really complained to the director and principal, she would have a demerit, or even be fired.
However, Lin Chu didn't plan to sue. Mo Jinxi still went to school here. As long as this teacher was still Mo Jinxi's class teacher, she couldn't make things too ugly for them.
It was temporarily satisfying to sue the class teacher and get a demerit, but what if she put small shoes on Mo Jinxi? It is impossible for me to keep an eye on the situation at school all the time. If I am really wronged, Mo Jinxi will not come back and say that it will be bad if the child does not want to come to school.
It's not that she thinks bad things about people, it's just that she has had too much experience in the workplace, and many things are really inevitable.
She didn't know this class teacher, but seeing how much trouble there was in the class and not seeing the class teacher taking care of it, naturally she couldn't trust her.
If you were really responsible and concerned about the students' condition, how could something like this happen
The two-child policy has just been relaxed. Before, the majority of children were only children. Today's elementary schools are no longer like her time, with fifty or sixty students in a class. Teachers may not be able to control them, and occasionally make mistakes.
There are only about thirty children in the class now, can't they still manage it? Occasional omissions are inevitable, but it is obviously not the first time that the Chinese class representative has done this kind of thing, but she has never seen the class teacher take care of it, which shows that she is laissez-faire and not responsible. This kind of negligence is completely different.
With such an approach, it was difficult for Lin Chu not to doubt that if the commotion really got too big, the head teacher would stop giving Mo Jinxi some shoes.
After all, when children are sent to school, they will have the most contact with their classmates and teachers throughout the day. Children also have a kind of reverence for teachers. What the teacher says is what they say. If the teacher doesn't like a student and really ignores or ignores it, it will be very troublesome.
The head teacher also knew that he was in trouble and knew that the matter was serious, so he apologized in a good manner: "I'm sorry, I didn't do a good enough job in this matter. I will definitely pay attention to it in the future to avoid such a thing happening again. I know Jinxi He is a good kid, he plays very well with the kids in the class, he never gets angry with anyone, he is also progressive in his studies, and his grades have always been among the top three in the class."
The head teacher really didn't like Mo Jinxi at all.
The head teacher lowered his voice and whispered: "Those three children just now... are indeed very naughty in the class. Many students have been bullied by them and have come to me. I have intervened, but they have refused to change despite repeated admonitions. That's why - "
The head teacher didn't dare to say that there was nothing she could do. It sounded like she was shirking responsibility.