Zhang Ketao said that one night, Xiaomei went out to play with her friends, but she didn't return until the next morning, saying that she drank too much and slept at her friend's house.
Zhang Ketao suspected that Xiaomei had betrayed her, and was very angry, so he quarreled with her for the first time. He insisted that Xiao Mei had spent the night with a man, but Xiao Mei insisted that nothing happened. At the end of the quarrel, both of them broke up.
But after calming down, Zhang Ketao regretted it again and didn't want to break up with Xiaomei. They coaxed her in every possible way, and the two finally reconciled.
But what does Zhang Ketao do, detective! Suspiciousness was originally his occupational disease, how could he not check what was going on.
To say that detectives are indeed capable and capable. He could actually find out Xiaomei's previous house opening record! Looking at the shocking record, he felt deceived at the time. Angrily, he returned home and asked Xiaomei about it.
Xiao Mei looked at the record and was even more angry than him, saying that Zhang Ketao actually checked her behind her back, so she didn't believe in herself so much. She also pointed out that all the room opening records in the record were only with her ex-boyfriend.
Xiaomei said that there is no one who is not going to bed now. Her previous emotional experience, she also admitted to Zhang Ketao, she just went to open a room with her boyfriend at the time, what is worth checking for him! There is no betrayal!
She also pointed out that after getting along with Zhang Ketao, she never went out and opened a house with anyone. It was indeed not in the record. She had never betrayed him.
After that, Xiaomei was very sad to propose to break up again, Zhang Ketao also felt that she had done too much this time, and hurriedly went to coax. But this time, Xiao Mei's attitude was very firm, and he couldn't coax it well.
Soon, Xiao Mei moved out and officially broke up with him.
After that, Zhang Ketao regretted it and tried to save Xiaomei's heart many times, but they were all rejected. He was actually very depressed because of this, and he didn't know who to talk to. It happened to mention today that I was a psychiatrist again, so I told me about it.
"Lao Gao, tell me, who is it to rely on for this matter!" Zhang Ketao asked me feeling unbalanced at the end of the talk.
Who do you rely on? If a slap doesn't make a sound, both of them are responsible!
Let me talk about Zhang Ketao first, no matter whether your girlfriend betrayed you or not, it is too much for you to use your own convenience as a detective to investigate people's past behind the scenes.
In this society, who hasn't had the previous emotional experience? Coupled with the liberation of human nature, it is quite normal for young people to have sex before marriage. You said that you check people's house and face the record of opening a house. Isn't it unpleasant to find yourself
No matter what kind of emotional experience Xiaomei had before, after she was with you, no matter if she did not do anything to sorry you, you can't check people!
For his behavior, one hundred women, one hundred and one would not forgive him. It's not that you are asked to trust her 100% unconditionally, but you can't investigate people because of doubt! This is an extremely disrespectful behavior!
Regardless of whether Xiaomei has done anything to betray you, if you check it this way, it is tantamount to ruining the relationship with your own hands.
Of course, the development of the matter is irreparable in the end, Xiaomei is actually not small in responsibility.
Although, the pre-marital intimacy is no longer a big deal, and it’s not a heinous practice to go to bed with a loved one. But after you broke up, you still have contact with your ex-boyfriend and make friends, which is very wrong.
Maybe you are confidant and have never done anything to be sorry for Zhang Ketao, but have you considered his feelings? When two people are together, it is the right way to understand each other's feelings.
And Xiaomei, just because she has no ghosts in her heart and confidence, she insists on getting along with people in her own way, which is typical of not taking the feelings of her current boyfriend into her heart. There are still contacts with ex-boyfriends, such behavior, so to speak, a hundred men, ninety can't accept it in their hearts.
It is said that the ex-boyfriend is the public enemy of the society, in fact, there is some truth to this. Especially like Xiaomei, who fell in love with Zhang Ketao, but still kept in touch with her ex-boyfriend.
How can you not wet your shoes when you often walk by the river? Who can guarantee that you will not drink too much because of a certain day, or because you are in a bad mood because of a quarrel with Zhang Ketao, and relive your ex-boyfriend's old dreams? Such a thing, even if it happened once, would be an unbearable pain for him.
In the final analysis, the way two people get along is to respect each other and understand each other's feelings. Think more empathy and think less from your own perspective.
For the time being, Zhang Ketao, speaking of Xiaomei alone, she has had many failed emotional experiences, in fact, it has a lot to do with her own way of acting on her own.
She feels that since she is a lover, she should believe in herself unconditionally and should not have any doubts; she feels that she is not afraid of shadows, as long as she does not do that kind of betrayal, you have no right to doubt her; as long as you doubt it, it is Don't trust her; as long as you don't trust her, then break up!
This is also the fundamental reason why she was a good girl, but she has repeatedly failed in relationships and had so many boyfriends!
This girl has overlooked one thing, you have a clear heart, but you know that it is not enough, you still need to prove it to others! The saying that you are not afraid of shadows when you are upright, as long as you are worthy of your conscience, is actually an excuse for self-indulgence.
You are worthy of your conscience, but you can't trust you with what you have done. Who can blame it
I guess not only Zhang Ketao, but Xiaomei’s previous boyfriends have this mentality!
Afterwards, I told Zhang Ketao my thoughts. Xiaomei was not present. I naturally said that she was less and criticized Zhang Ketao more. In the end, he blushed.
"You are playing 50 boards each, and you haven't solved any problems!" Zhang Ketao said with a little dissatisfaction at this time.
"What problem do you want to solve? Let me make you and Xiaomei reconcile?" I looked even more dissatisfied, looking at him, "Xiaomei knows who I am?"
I mean, I don’t have the conditions to persuade them. I don’t know Xiaomei. Could it be that I can come to her in person, criticize her, and let her reconcile with Zhang Ketao
Haha, don’t think I’m a psychologist, but a mentally ill person at that time!
"Then what should I do?" Zhang Ketao still asked without giving up.
"Unless you can bring Xiaomei to my clinic someday, I will persuade her, and..." I looked at Zhang Ketao and paused, "I can't guarantee that I can persuade her to reconcile with you!"
Originally, I would not forgive him for investigating people's behavior behind his back! Not to mention Xiaomei!
"Aren't you the same as you didn't say it! Do you have any opinion books or something? I want to give you a bad review!" Zhang Ketao said, looking around.
Haha, this kid, you still have to give me a bad review, who will you show me the bad review? I am the leader of the clinic. After you give me a bad review, I will deduct my own salary
"I'm sorry, this clinic has not yet set up a suggestion book!" I knew he was joking, and simply pretended to respond in a serious manner.
"What a broken clinic, I don't even have an opinion book!" Zhang Ketao still complained angrily.
"Okay, you, don't be endless!" I stopped teasing him, and said solemnly. "You'd better cure your suspicious problem first, just for a suspicious person like you, which woman can stand you!"
"So, I am also mentally ill?" Zhang Ketao suddenly became a little nervous.
"It's not necessarily a mental illness, but it's also a paranoid disorder. It's probably related to your work." I explained. Originally, when a detective, being suspicious is an occupational disease. The problem with Zhang Ketao is that he failed to distinguish the relationship between work and life.
"Then you have to treat me well!" Zhang Ketao leaned back on the sofa, looking like it had wronged me.
I was about to bury him, when my cell phone suddenly rang, it was an unfamiliar cell phone number.
"Hello, who?" I answered the phone and asked.
"Gao Xin, I am Zhang Shuang! Are you still in the clinic?" Zhang Shuang's voice came through the phone, which turned out to be her mobile phone number.
"I'm here..." I just wanted to say a few words to her when Zhang Shuang's eager voice came again.
"Wait, I'm going to find you! Something happened!" (End of this chapter)