I walked into the clinic and found a woman sitting there in the waiting area outside the front desk, but at this time she was facing the direction of the door.
I hurriedly walked over, "Hello, may I ask..." Before I finished my words, I recognized her. It turned out to be my classmate Xiaomo!
That is, before, in the optical shop, the girl who had to return the goods was a little unreasonable!
"Yo! Xiaomo, it's you!" Although she is a headache woman, but she is an old classmate after all, I still greet her enthusiastically.
"Gao Xin, I'm here to ask for your help..." Xiaomo's mood was not high at this time, and there was no smile on his face. Moreover, I can see that his eyelids are a bit swollen, as if he had cried!
"What's the matter with you? Come, come in and speak slowly!" I was a little surprised, and hurriedly took Xiaomo into the treatment room.
I asked her to sit down on the sofa. Just as Zhang Luo asked Xiaofeng to serve tea, Xiaomo quickly said, "No, I won't drink anymore. My eyelids are all swollen. Drink more water, and it's even more swollen..."
As she said, she rubbed her eyes with an aggrieved expression on her face.
"What the hell is going on, talk about it!" I asked immediately without letting Xiaofeng serve tea.
"Oh! I have no choice but to come to you. There is really no one to tell!" Xiaomo couldn't help but feel aggrieved, but also looked helpless and sad.
"Who bullied you?" I asked when she saw her being wronged and felt that she should have been bullied. In fact, based on what I once knew about Xiaomo, it would be nice if she didn't bully others. Can someone bully her
"You have to keep it secret for me, you can't tell it!" Xiaomo chirped still refused to say it!
"Confidentiality, I won't disclose it, this is our psychiatrist's professional guidelines, don't worry!" No way, I had to comfort her.
Later, Xiaomo burst into tears again, and said in a choked voice, "My husband... it's him... he cheated! Uuu..."
After speaking, she cried more fiercely, and the tears couldn't stop streaming down. I quickly handed over a tissue, asked her to wipe it, and comforted her with a good word, but she still cried, and I couldn't ask anything.
I had no choice but to let her vent first. I silently watched Xiaomo snot and tear, using more than 10 tissues in a row!
She cried for a long time before she gradually calmed down, but she couldn't stop choking.
"Okay, don't cry. What's the matter, tell me?" I was a little impatient by her, and also very helpless. She is my classmate after all, and I can't say anything about her.
Later, Xiaomo began to talk about her and her husband's past intermittently.
Xiaomo said that she and her husband are college classmates and have been in love since their freshman year. It has been three years since they were married. Together with the four years of university, the two have been together for 7 years.
Her husband turned out to be the monitor of the class and the cadre of the student union. He was a very good boy. When the two were not together, Xiaomo had a crush on him. Unexpectedly, afterwards, he also pursued Xiaomo, and the two of them got together naturally.
Xiaomo said that the love between them is the kind of plot that can only be found in the story. Not to mention happiness and romance, the first time two people have given each other, they are particularly pure.
Pulling the opposite sex's hand for the first time, hugging for the first time, kissing for the first time, for the first time..., all for the first time, with each other.
Xiaomo said that they get along very well, and her husband has always spoiled her, and many things followed her, which made her feel very happy. And in the eyes of the classmates, they are also very envious of the love between them, as if they were a couple of gods and goddesses.
After graduating from university, Xiaomo and her husband soon got married. In the eyes of many people, this seems to be natural and natural.
Xiaomo works in real estate sales. Her husband is a corporate executive. The income of the two people is neither high nor low, but it can be regarded as a well-off standard.
After marriage, the two got along pretty well. Although there were sometimes disagreements and quarrels, the husband also coaxed her afterwards, and didn't feel that there was any estrangement.
It was this year that Xiaomo discovered that her husband was becoming more and more impatient with herself. He had spoiled her very much, but he was used to her, but now he loses his temper with little things. Xiaomo's own temper was not small, and they began to quarrel often.
Xiaomo said that at the beginning of the quarrel, they could still pay attention to each other, but later, the more the quarrel, the more fierce, and once they even used their hands!
In this way, all the love in her heart was quarreled, and enough, she asked for a divorce. Unexpectedly, her husband readily agreed, as if he had been looking forward to this day.
By this time, Xiaomo felt something was wrong. He did not divorce her husband, but secretly observed, secretly looked at his mobile phone, and even followed him.
Finally, one day, she discovered that there was an ambiguous chat history with a woman on her husband's phone! What baby, dear!
Xiaomo said that she was mad at the time, pointed her husband's nose and started cursing.
At first, her husband didn’t admit it, but later he admitted it, saying that he loves that woman and wants to be with that woman. He also said that he was fed up with Xiaomo and felt that he was blind. Why did he stay with her for so many years? Wait. In short, they are all vicious words.
Xiaomo was stunned. The man she had always loved suddenly became like this. She was not mentally prepared at all! It feels like he has suddenly changed into a different person, crazy!
The two had a big quarrel on the spot, and her husband simply moved out and never went home again. The phone was either turned off or refused! Xiaomo estimated that he must have gone to live with that woman! She once went to the work unit to find her husband, but the people at the work unit said that her husband has already gone through the resignation procedures!
Xiaomo was really mad. She didn't expect her husband to do so well. In order to leave her, she didn't even have to work!
So she went to her husband's parents' house to have a meal again, which forced him to show up. Now, as long as two people face each other, they will quarrel. Every time they quarrel, Xiaomo is very sad.
A man who has been in love for seven years, she has caught up with all her youth, but in exchange for such a result, Xiaomo said that she was not reconciled.
But now she really has no way to make her husband change her mind. Every day, she washes her face with tears and wets her pillow at night.
Just a few days ago, she accidentally saw the news of the kidnapping case and found me in it. Then she remembered that I was a psychiatrist and desperately wanted to try, so she came to my clinic.
Xiaomo shed tears while telling all this. When it came to the emotional part, she couldn't speak anymore, and finally finished speaking intermittently.
"Do you really want to get a divorce?" After listening, I asked the first question. The purpose of asking this, I want to find the key to the problem. If Xiaomo is determined to get divorced now, then it's useless for me to say anything! However, looking at her performance, it's not like this.
"I... reluctant to leave..." Xiaomo said hesitantly. In fact, I can see that she is not willing at all. From her story, I realized that she at least couldn't bear the kindness that her husband had treated her.
"Is your core contradiction that he cheated?" I asked afterwards.
"Actually, it's not..." Xiaomo explained. "At first I felt that I couldn't accept the reality of his cheating, but now..."
Xiaomo paused, and looked up at me. There was a lot of helplessness in his eyes, "Now as long as he can break with that woman and come back to live a good life, I will forgive him..."
After listening to these two answers, although I knew it in my heart, I didn't know how to help Xiaomo.
The problem now is that his husband has fallen in love with another woman, and he may even live with that woman. Xiaomo's attitude is very clear, so he can come back. But her husband is unwilling!
If, now, the reason they can't reconcile is in Xiaomo's place, I can persuade her to reason, analyze the pros and cons, and make her change her mind. But now the cause is her husband, what can I do
"Thing... I understand, how do you want me to help you?" I can only throw the question to Xiaomo at this time and listen to her thoughts.
"I don't know, I'm just upset! Depressed! Uncomfortable!" Xiaomo said several negative mental states in succession, but didn't say how I would like me to help her. (End of this chapter)