This is actually unscientific, let's settle the account!
Even if I’m 30 years old and eat half a catty of rice a day on average (in fact, half a catty is not enough), then 30 years × 365 days × 250 grams = 2737,500 grams. When I was young, I didn’t have such a big appetite, even 2.5 million. Gram! Equivalent to 5,000 catties of rice!
My mother is 55 years old this year, so 2.5 million grams of salt ÷ 365 days ÷ 55 years old = 124.5 grams of salt! That is equivalent to about two and a half of salt! How heavy is her old man's taste!
Haha, of course, this is a bit too much! However, when I was young, I really did calculations after listening to my mother's words!
In fact, what this saying means is that the old people have never seen any storms, so why don’t they understand? But I think that her elders may not understand everything on the psychological level. Especially when discussing things about good sisters with her, my mother will easily consider issues from the standpoint of Aunt Yang, which will be very different. objective.
I also introduced before that Aunt Yang is the kind of naturally beautiful woman. When she goes to school, she is a school flower, and she is a factory flower when she works. It can be said that this is an innate advantage that many people envy, but is inherently unavailable. It should have been possible to marry well and enjoy a happy life.
But I don’t know if you have found a problem. Take a look around. Those who marry well are usually very ordinary women, and this kind of natural beauty is often in the end, not as good as people think, even It will be miserable!
This seems to have responded to the sentence: Since ancient times, confidantes are so unlucky! But what caused this
Being beautiful is indeed a kind of innate advantage of women, but this kind of advantage is actually unreliable! A famous sociologist once talked about this issue. He said that the beauty of a woman is a devaluation of assets, while a man's wealth is an appreciation of assets!
In other words, no matter how beautiful a woman is, she will age with the passage of time. With the effect of "aesthetic fatigue", the beautiful appearance is actually in a state of constant devaluation. As for the assets of men, if they are managed properly, they will gradually increase. Coupled with factors such as men's prohibition of old age and still being popular at the age of forty, men are equal to a state of appreciation year by year.
If there is no guarantee of love in a marriage, a man likes a woman's beauty, and a woman likes a man's future or assets, then this kind of marriage is like a transaction. If a woman just uses her own beauty to exchange, it is absolutely unreliable! Use depreciated assets to exchange appreciation assets, even if it was an equivalent exchange at that time, it will lose balance over time!
Of course, what I'm talking about here is that there is no such kind of marriage that has deep love as a prerequisite guarantee, and love marriage is another story!
Everyone is looking forward to having the most beautiful love, but the truth
The situation is that very few people will have that kind of perfect love. Most men and women get married for the sake of getting married.
This kind of marriage is often based on exchange as a prerequisite. Women require men to have houses and cars, and men require women to be beautiful and in good shape. This is like a business.
A truly smart woman will not use her youth and beauty to make such exchanges. What should be exchanged for should be the traditional virtues of women of the Chinese nation, that is to say, it is an internal show. , Is the beauty of the soul. Only this kind of spiritual beauty is a personal value that can be trusted for a lifetime.
To put it bluntly, it means being kind to your husband, such virtues as filial piety, gentleness, virtuousness, diligence, kindness, housekeeping, loyalty and so on! Women with these qualities tend to marry very well! But it doesn't depend on whether she is pretty or not.
The beauty of appearance should be regarded as an added value, an extra "by-product" to enhance the value of one's whole person! Think about it, a woman is both beautiful in heart and beautiful in appearance, so how can she marry badly
However, many women have made a mistake. They don't pay attention to internal cultivation, but only pay attention to appearance, thinking that they are beautiful and they have everything, and they think that they can exchange everything she wants with her beauty! As everyone knows, this beautiful appearance is not only depreciated, but also unreliable.
Snow White's stepmother always asks the magic mirror who is the most beautiful woman in the world, but in fact, this is a false proposition. There is no prettiest, only prettier, this is the reality.
No matter how beautiful a woman is, no matter how beautiful she is, there will still be someone more beautiful than her. What's more, no matter how beautiful you are, you can't stop the erosion of time!
Aunt Yang had made such a mistake in the past. She has always been a variety of "flower" roles. She is accustomed to being noticed and accustomed to being liked and surrounded by many people. The reason why she is almost 30 years old and not yet married is probably the same as many older leftover women nowadays. —Hold and arrogant!
Her conditions are very good, and she always thinks she can find a better man, and as a result, she missed many people in her life who could have given her happiness, but they have been wandering. In the end, because of his age, he chose a man who seemed to be good to marry, but he chose the wrong one.
The reason why Aunt Yang chose Chen Shimei at the time was nothing more than considering: first, she was still unmarried at the right age; second, that guy was a young deputy factory manager with a bright future!
In other words, she had committed the mistake of exchanging beauty for a man's future or wealth! In fact, this man is not suitable for her at all!
Through my mother's story, I feel that Aunt Yang is a kind of little woman in her bones, who needs to be loved, paid attention to, and needs men to be around her. But her husband is busy with work, basically
It can't satisfy these.
My mother didn't tell her, maybe Aunt Yang deliberately concealed it. Because reality is different from the beauty and happiness she imagined, it is speculated that she often quarreled with the deputy director over such matters, or expressed her dissatisfaction.
Perhaps in the eyes of Chen Shimei, a woman should be gentle and supportive of his efforts and struggle behind his back, and Aunt Yang's performance probably made him very dissatisfied.
As a result, he entered a vicious circle. At that time, he didn't want to go home more and more. Another reason for being so busy with work was that he avoided Aunt Yang and didn't want to fight with her anymore.
I speculate that he must have had such feelings at the time. It was precisely because of this that he met the director's daughter. Maybe that woman is not as pretty as Aunt Yang, but that Chen Shimei guessed from her a feeling that Aunt Yang could not give him. In addition, her father was a big leader and could support him in his career. Therefore, that Chen Shimei did what happened later.
Of course, I'm not saying this here to excuse Chen Shimei. I always call that man by Chen Shimei, which represents my attitude. Here, I don't want to make more comments on the beasts that are no longer humans. I just want to analyze the reasons why Aunt Yang's tragedy belongs to her.
It is precisely because of this earliest mistake that Aunt Yang started a life of tragedy. In addition, her character is too weak, and too simple and naive, and she has compromised for her son countless times, which finally caused the tragic experiences she later experienced.
Of course, I am writing a novel, not an essay. I really shouldn't write more of these commentary things, but I still write it. In fact, I want to alert the world and stop making the mistakes that predecessors made!
The current divorce rate remains high, many people's unhappy marriages, and even the social problems of older leftover women, are actually caused by psychological reasons.
It's not necessarily that everyone has a mental illness, but the wrong world outlook and distorted outlook on life and love are important reasons for these social phenomena!
Of course, I will not discuss the above with my mother. To put it bluntly, although she eats more salt than I eat, it is still difficult for her as a housewife to understand. So in the end, I still suggest that she encourage Aunt Yang to sit in my clinic and get rid of the psychological shadow that has formed over the years.
It was at the moment when I was talking to my mother, the phone rang suddenly. I saw that it was an unfamiliar number, and while I was complaining about who was calling so late, the phone called Here came the anxious voice of Team Qi:
"Doctor Gao, it's okay, something happened to Zhang Shuang!" (End of this chapter)