What I said to the old woman was actually an irony. As we all know, in the West, parents also work hard to raise their children, but none of them cry tired and cry hard. They are like Chinese. You can say anything and piss to raise you, you have to do whatever you want. …
After the children of Westerners grow up in Chéng Rén, their parents no longer care about their children, and their children basically no longer care about their parents. They get along well with each other, and they can usually talk on the phone, or come to see you. We have been together for Christmas, then It's a very rare thing; but if you don't get along well with each other, it's because you don't have a phone call from adulthood, it's even more impossible to meet, and even like enemies, they don't care about each other!
Of course, the way of life and philosophy of Westerners is not so adapted to the situation of the Chinese. I don’t admire that kind of indifferent human relations, but some of our people’s concepts should indeed be changed, that is: No one should be you. If you don't owe you, if you want to get respect, it's not because of your status and role, but because you first learn to respect others!
And the thinking of some people in the country is so strange. They think that parents raised their children so hard that they didn’t even raise you. You grew up by someone else. As long as you are given life, you should Repay them infinitely!
●31 novel app download address ●This kind of infinite return seems to be divided. As long as you don’t do that, it is filial piety, and someone will criticize you from the commanding heights of morality!
This so-called return is necessary, even if you are swallowing your breath, even if you are living in pain and helplessness all day, even if your own life is messed up, you are also necessary, you should! Isn't this really reasonable
Filial piety to the elderly is wrong, but we still have to advocate filial piety to the elderly. Respect is respect, but respect is mutual, and this is true for everyone. The same is true between parents and children, especially after the children grow up Chéng Rén.
As the saying goes, you respect me and I respect you. Respect each other and live in harmony is the right way.
Between the father and son, it seems that the son is not filial, but it sounds like the old father's problem is not small. The feudal cancer in his heart is very deep, and he thinks in his heart, I am a father, I am the sky, and his son must listen to me, and he must obey me and listen to me! If you don’t listen, that’s not filial piety. If you don’t adapt to my habits, it’s also filial piety. I raised him and he should do what he did for me! I am the grandfather, I am the patriarch, everyone has to give me face, listen to me!
There is no need to carefully calculate the right and wrong of his thoughts, just ask, how many people in this society are like this
Many parents have worked hard to do everything they can to do well for their children, for their children to study, after graduation, they also trust someone to find relationships, find jobs for their children, and even get married and buy a house, all of which pay for their children! If the children are not pleasing to the eye, they will stand up too
Change and adapt in an instant!
It is undeniable that such parents do seem to be too doting on their children, but they are now mainstream parents. In short, there are really rare old ladies who are as bullish as this old father.
If it is that kind of mainstream parents whose children are not filial, then I also criticize that child. But is the old man in this case like this
And there is another key point, which I have not mentioned until now. Now, I have finally raised this question.
"Old sir, I want to ask a question..." I turned to the old father and said tentatively.
"Um..." The old man didn't say anything, but just responded like this, meaning that he could ask.
"When your son bought the house, did you pay the money? Or did you make the down payment?" I asked about the financial situation of the family.
This is actually a common phenomenon. Nine out of ten parents can prepare a marriage house for their children. Even if they are too poor, they will pay the down payment for buying a house. In the future, the children will repay the loan by themselves.
"Haha, you really got the point!" The old father hesitated and said nothing, the son sneered at me.
When I saw his performance, I immediately understood it! It seems that this old father is also inadequate in some things, and has not fulfilled the responsibilities of a parent!
"No... I didn't take..." The old man obviously felt a bit wrong, and he hesitated to answer this question!
"Do I understand that, your son bought a house to get married, and even in the following days, you hardly spent a penny?" I asked bluntly.
"No... I bought food for my granddaughter..." The old man thought for a long time before he answered such a nonsensical sentence!
Is it also called spending money to buy something to eat for my granddaughter? That's your own granddaughter, and it can cost you a few dollars to buy something to eat! What does this old man think!
The audience at the scene heard the old man's words and immediately let out a neat exclamation. How could this be? This dad didn’t buy the house, and the son didn’t spend a penny on renovations, marriage, etc.? Just bought something for your granddaughter
Obviously, many viewers do not understand, let alone believe, that there is such a father in China. At least in the current society, unless the son is not his own, how could there be such a father!
"It's nothing. The tuition fees for my university are all earned by my own part-time job. My dad hardly spent any money!" The son added at this time.
This surprised the audience again. This seemingly unfilial son is really a good self-reliant child. He can earn his tuition when he goes to college. After graduation, he can work hard on his own and buy a house without using a penny from the family.
Marriage, have their own family, there are really few such outstanding young people in this society now!
"Then you go to elementary school! Go to middle school!" The old man seemed to grab a life-saving straw and asked quickly.
"Yes, thank you for the tuition you gave me during the nine-year compulsory education..." The son also had a temper at this time, and his tone was not very good.
"But what about high school? I was admitted to the provincial experimental self-funded line. That is a high school that how many people want to go to can't go! Have you paid for me!" Then the son mentioned this story.
The son said that at the beginning of the high school entrance examination, he played a bit too well, and he actually reached the self-financed score of the Provincial Experimental Middle School! This high school can be said to be the best high school in the province. It is really not something ordinary people can go to. It must have excellent academic performance and excellent grades in the high school entrance examination!
Entering this high school means entering Peking University, Tsinghua University, or other well-known colleges and universities with one foot!
Of course, his performance is still a bit far from the public expense line, but he has passed the self-funded line, but this is already commendable! How many people dream of wanting to spend this tuition to study in an experimental middle school, but they still don't charge it!
However, the old father resolutely refused to give his child the tuition fee, which caused the son to end up in a key high school in the city. No, he suddenly missed the middle school and went to the third school).
"How much is the tuition for this self-financed student?" I asked curiously.
"Three thousand dollars!" the son replied.
"Three thousand a year?" I added.
"Three years and three thousand!" the son said through gritted teeth.
In fact, when I heard three thousand, I really thought it was three thousand a year and nine thousand in three years. Then this amount of money is not a small sum, it is 10,000! This son seems to be about 40 years old. He is 10 years older than me. At that time, the family had a small amount of 10,000 yuan. Maybe the old father could not get the money. If that was the case, it would be understandable.
But I heard from the son that it was only three thousand yuan for three years in high school, so the money is not much! Experimental middle school! The place where I didn't even pass the exam was recognized as the best high school in our city. Who wouldn't want to go there to study! It was 3,000 yuan, which was really too much.
"Is the family's economic conditions bad?" At this time, the host Jiang Nan also asked the son.
"Hehe, if the family is poor, I won't have anything to say. The key is that the family has money. He didn't pay me the tuition, but bought a video recorder!" The son answered Jiang Nan's question with a very dissatisfied expression. Very angry!
OMG, the video recorder? I was a little confused at the time, why did this old man buy a video recorder? (End of this chapter)