After listening to Xiao Jiang’s account, I immediately understood what was going on here. What happened to his girlfriend, Xiao Wang, is actually very common in today’s society, and it is not a rare case.
Someone even gave a girl like Xiao Wang a nickname, "Fudi Demon"! In the famous magic movie "Harry Potter", there is the biggest villain BOSS, called Voldemort, and this special title is the homonym here.
The specific explanation of the demon of the brother is: to support and help the younger brother in his own family, it has reached the level of demon!
In other words, this kind of girl is even willing to give everything for her brother! I would rather lose my life's happiness to help my brother and help my brother. For this reason, they save money and spend money on their younger brother, but also implicated their boyfriend and husband to pay for the younger brother!
Even some girls, as long as a man is willing to pay for his brother, she is willing to agree with her, even if the man is an old man, or a man with a family! In other words, they can sacrifice everything for their younger brother!
This is actually an unhealthy psychological pattern of behavior. Many of these girls suffer from severe obsessive-compulsive disorder. In other words, a morbid psychology led to her various behaviors.
In fact, these girls don't want to think that it is your younger brother, not your parents. Although they are your relatives, he is also an independent adult himself. Why do I need you to help him endlessly? Why doesn't he work hard
You keep giving him money, if you can help your younger brother eventually grow up and find a foothold in the society, you can have a good future, but most of the younger brothers of Fu Di Mo are not that. It's the kind of idler who is used to asking for money from his family and sister and can't help him!
To be honest, the reason why such a younger brother is doing that is also the reason why his parents and sisters are too spoiled with him. The so-called habitual son is like killing a son, you are always used to your brother, in fact, it is tantamount to harm him. Could it be that he can eat his parents and his sister for the rest of his life? What should you do if you can't help him
Just like the problem that Xiao Wang is encountering now, it is estimated that the conditions in her family are not very good. If his brother does not accept it, he wants to marry a daughter-in-law, and he needs a lot of money as a gift. This is actually an unsolvable matter, and there is no way to continue to help him, but Xiao Wang passed the trouble to Xiao Jiang!
She proposed that they would get a bride price of 180,000 yuan for their marriage, and she also clearly told Xiao Jiang that the money was for his brother's marriage. Who could accept this? I live frugally, but all the money is given to my girlfriend's brother. Who can balance it
To put it nicely, this is a brother with one heart and one mind. It is not good to say it. It is actually the same as the behavior of selling one’s body to bury the father in ancient times!
Sell oneself
The funeral of the father is at least a manifestation of filial piety. There is no moral taint, but you sell as a younger brother and marry a daughter-in-law, which makes no sense in ancient times or now.
Perhaps many people would say that this woman’s betrothal is a custom handed down in ancient times! I can say responsibly that China has never had such a custom!
It is true that in ancient times, marrying a daughter-in-law required the man to give a dowry, but in most cases, the woman would also give a dowry equivalent to the amount of the dowry! Some people, in order to make their daughters face, will not be angry when marrying into the man's house, and even dowry is more than the betrothal gift!
In "Dream of Red Mansions," Regia married a maid, and they all took out a few hundred taels of silver to dowry. The purchasing power of one hundred taels of silver is equivalent to today's five to six hundred thousand yuan! A few hundred taels of silver, that is more than one million!
In other words, even in ancient times, when a man and a woman got married, the families of both parties paid for it. Of course, the man must contribute more money than the woman, but this does not mean that the woman does not need to spend a penny, or even There is still money to be made!
Of course, in ancient times, there were also cases where the woman’s family did not have to pay, but only had to pay. That was the situation of sending her daughter to be a concubine in a big family. Moreover, she was still an untitled concubine. Big girl, not even a concubine. Because the wives and concubines in the side house also need to dowry at home!
In other words, the situation where the woman asks for a bride price but does not need much dowry is like selling her daughter!
I don’t know when it started, probably after the end of the Qing Dynasty. In Chinese society, especially in rural areas, a very bad habit was formed, that is, when the woman got married, the woman asked for a huge gift, and, This gift money will not be sent back to the escort! This so-called custom is still common today.
Some people say that this is a traditional Chinese custom and an "old order". In fact, to put it bluntly, it is because of ignorance! What kind of traditional Chinese custom is this special? Which dynasty and generation in China has this custom been popular
The reason should be that in that era of poverty and poverty, there were many children in the family, patriarchal and poor, so it is not uncommon for daughters to be sold, especially daughters from poor families, who were born in the future. The fate of selling. Therefore, such bad habits and vices have gradually formed.
But now, the times have changed a long time ago. Although some people's conditions at home are not very good, they don't mean to sell their daughters for money, right? You ask for a huge amount of bride price, but few dowry, what is the difference with selling a daughter? Now it is a monogamous system. There is no such thing as a concubine, and it is very common for young couples to live alone and not with their parents. The so-called marriage and marriage have lost their original meaning. If you continue to do so, It can only be said to be ignorance, plus insatiable greed
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Speaking of the incident between Xiao Wang and Xiao Jiang, it is obvious that Xiao Wang is a demon helping his brother. He wants 180,000 yuan as a gift, and it is too much for his family to accompany him back with a 20,000 yuan! Because they want this money for the younger brother to get married!
This also means that Xiao Jiang spent more than one hundred thousand yuan to buy a daughter-in-law! If Xiao Wang is an only child, don't say you want 180,000, but 1.8 million. As long as you can afford it, I don't think Xiao Jiang will hesitate. The key is that she still has such a hopeless brother who can't help it!
In other words, it is a bottomless pit, and Xiao Wang is a standard demon helping his brother. If this goes on, it will be endless! Now Xiao Wang can use the marriage to coerce Xiao Jiang into paying money. He may do anything excessive for his younger brother.
Here, I need to explain. There is nothing wrong with Fu Dimo's own behavior. What's wrong with caring for his family and his younger brother? The mistake is just wrong, you don't have that ability yourself, but you have to help your brother too much! If you Xiao Wang is a capable woman who makes a lot of money on her own, and has enough money to support her brother under the conditions of satisfying her normal life, then no one can say anything!
The point is, this girl, Xiao Wang, can't make much money herself, she has difficulties in life in this big city, and she is still paying her brother money persistently. This is a bit too much! What's even more exaggerated is that she actually took her future husband, and her current boyfriend Xiao Jiang was "buried" together, which really made people unable to say anything about her. And most of the devil who helped the younger brother committed such a problem!
As I said earlier, some girls would rather go to be a junior, or even sell their bodies to make money! If this is the case, it is even more pathological!
Especially for such a girl, she also has a straightforward face and attitude, which is even more speechless!
I thought a lot and was silent for a while, and then said to Xiao Jiang: "You don't need to make a choice now. Take the time to take her to my clinic. I will give her a psychological treatment. It is estimated that her obsessive-compulsive disorder should not be mild... "
"You mean, she has a mental illness?" Xiao Jiang asked quickly.
"Well...Let's take a look first..." I can basically be sure that Xiao Jiang's girlfriend Xiao Wang has obsessive-compulsive disorder, but as a doctor, you need to make a specific diagnosis before making a good judgment.
"Thank you so much, Doctor Gao!" A happy expression appeared on Xiao Jiang's face, looking very happy. I guess he loves Xiao Wang deeply, and he doesn't want to end the relationship between the two people because of this kind of thing, and he is also trying to save it.
I then told Xiao Jiang his contact information. This should have come to an end. But when I turned my head to look at Xiaofeng, I found that the expression on her face was very unnatural! (End of this chapter)