This year, Lao Qi was unable to go home on New Year’s Eve due to work reasons, so the arrangement after the New Year was that they first went back to Xiaofeng’s hometown to pay the New Year’s greetings, and then went back to Lao Qi’s home to pay the New Year’s greetings.
Xiaofeng is still the same as before, buying a lot of things for his family in small bags, everyone has a share, this old Qi is already used to it.
Although the future father-in-law and mother-in-law also prepared a large table of dishes to entertain Lao Qi, the eating process was extremely unpleasant. Because they asked when Lao Qi and Xiaofeng got married at the dinner table, and they said that the girl had been together with Lao Qi for so long, so they should have an explanation.
Old Qi felt that the two had been together for five years, and there should be an explanation, so he proposed that he can get the marriage certificate first, and wait until enough money is saved, buy a house, and then hold the wedding. Unexpectedly, the expressions of Xiaofeng's family suddenly changed, and they immediately expressed their opposition! What they mean is that if you don't even do a wedding, you have to prove it, absolutely not!
Old Qi couldn't help but asked Xiaofeng's family what to do. They made it very clear that this year or next year, they must buy a house and get married as soon as possible. The condition is that one hundred thousand yuan must be paid!
Hearing this, Old Qiyi was exactly the same as Xiaofeng said. He couldn't help feeling a little angry, but he didn't attack on the spot. He could only talk about the current difficulties in a whirlwind, and then fell silent.
Fortunately, they stayed at Xiaofeng's house for two days, and then they went to Lao Qi's house. Lao Qi hasn’t seen his parents for a long time, and it’s a new year. He wants to buy something in the county town to take home. Who knows that Xiaofeng is resolutely opposed to it!
"What she said at the time is crooked! What you said is that your family's conditions are so good, your parents are not short of anything, we don't have any money to get married, so pretend to be generous!" Old Qi said with a bit of resentment.
When I heard this, I couldn't believe it. Is this the Xiaofeng I know? What's wrong with her? are you crazy
Lao Qi then said that there is no one who doesn't carry anything at home during the Chinese New Year, even if the neighbors see it, they will laugh at him! He quarreled with Xiaofeng in the street. What irritated him most was that Xiaofeng was clearly unreasonable, his voice was quite loud, his temper was not small, and he seemed right and righteous!
Old Qi's heart was cold. He sat on the side of the road and smoked a sullen cigarette. After a long time, Xiaofeng finally let go, saying that he could buy cigarettes, alcohol, and fruit. In the end he bought something for less than 200 yuan.
Of course, the seventh parents are very happy to see their son and future daughter-in-law go home. They don't count the importance of the gift at all. They also have a large table of dishes. The family could have a harmonious and happy New Year.
Unexpectedly, when Xiaofeng was toasting to his seventh parents, he suddenly proposed to get married. Of course the parents of Old Seven were happy. They were very excited to ask about their plans, but Old Seven had no plans at all, and he didn’t want to say it when he was impatient.
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Next, Xiaofeng made her own way and started talking about marriage with the seventh child's parents. Seventh's parents also hope that their son will get married soon, and they are also willing to pay for a house, even a gift of 100,000 yuan! In their opinion, these are not what you should be a parent!
But Lao Qi refused on the spot! After all, he was in his own home, and he couldn't bear it. He said angrily: He is so old and doesn't want to ask for his parents' money. Either just listen to him and get married when he is rich, or Xiaofeng will be with someone else. Get married!
This sentence irritated Xiaofeng, and became angry on the spot. The two quarreled. How the seventh parents persuaded them, neither of them listened. In the end, Xiaofeng packed up and slammed the door.
This time, Lao Qi didn't chase him at all. He didn't let his parents chase him. As a result, Xiaofeng became even more angry and sent a message to break up. Lao Qi's reply was even more straightforward: Split!
In this way, the relationship between the two people finally began to go strange.
In fact, the old seventh's parents also scolded him afterwards. Their opinion was that the married parents should take some money, and they are willing to take it. How could this child be so stubborn! But Lao Qi was just a tendon, and he refused to say anything. Later, he stayed at home for a day, so he simply came back to work!
After listening to what Lao Qi said, I deeply felt that the words I often said, the people involved are fascinated! Old Qi is a wise man, and he is also engaged in psychology-related work. He doesn't know some things, but he is a little confused when he is in it! And Xiaofeng is even more so!
In fact, there is no fundamental contradiction between the two people. The key is that the two people stay together and are the best!
It is true that Xiaofeng's behavior of helping her brother-in-law, or taking care of her family's family, is indeed a bit excessive, but her current behavior more looks like she is arrogant with Lao Qi! Including the behavior of going to his parents' house and not letting you buy things, I guess it will be this time, and it will definitely not happen before!
Based on my understanding of Xiaofeng, she can do this unless she is crazy! She is definitely not the kind of person with crooked eyes!
Xiaofeng treats Lao Qi very well, that's the point where Yi comes to reach out for food and open her mouth! It can be said that the old seventh in housework does not stretch out a hand, and Xiaofeng takes care of it properly! With the good food on the table that she cooked for New Year's Eve dinner, you can also tell what kind of girl Xiaofeng is!
In fact, Xiaofeng also knows in her heart that Lao Qi has already given her a lot, especially helping her family and brother. Lao Qi does not spend less money. Of course, she is very grateful to Lao Qi, and because of her love and this affection, she is willing to treat her. Old seven is good.
These two people can be said to be a perfect combination of lovers and relatives, but there is no real contradiction at all.
In fact, the biggest contradiction between the two is the difference in concept! small
Feng felt that if his parents had that condition to marry, why not? If Lao Qi's family situation is not good, she will not be so entangled. The key is that she has this condition, but Lao Qi said nothing, and would rather not get married, which made her unable to understand.
In Xiaofeng's view, Lao Qi just didn't want to marry her, and didn't care about her performance! If you care about her and want to marry her, she has already arranged everything in order. She probably feels that Lao Qi has no intention of marrying her at all!
However, Xiaofeng ignored the pressure that she was blindly taking care of her family and younger brother, which invisibly brought pressure to Lao Qi! She never thought of a truth, that is, as the future son-in-law and brother-in-law, Lao Qi should be given some money, but Lao Qi's parents have no obligation to help and take care of Xiaofeng's family!
Old Qi worked so hard to save the down payment for the house, but was taken to Xiaofeng’s brother to pay off the debt. Now he is married. If he asks his parents for money, it is equivalent to the parents paying the debt to Xiaofeng’s family. One reason! Adding the one-hundred-thousand-dollar bride price, which was clearly used for that unsuspecting brother to marry a daughter-in-law, wouldn't it be equivalent to the old seventh’s parents giving Xiaofeng’s family 200,000 for nothing? Is this buying a wife!
Besides, that Xiaofeng’s younger brother is a bottomless pit. That guy himself is still a naive child, and he is about to get married, and he has to have children when he gets married. Wouldn't the whole family have to rely on Old Qi and Xiaofeng to support him
Although the salary of the old Qi is not bad, but it is enough to feed her family, and feed her younger brother's family more for no reason. How can the old Qi not have any doubts
In fact, one of the biggest problems of Fu Di Mo, I have also said before. That is, if you want to help your younger brother and family members, of course you can, but you must be within the scope of your ability. Xiaofeng gives all of her income to her natal family. It doesn’t count. The old seventh’s salary has to go back, which is too much. !
At this point, Lao Qi has done a good job, and he couldn't stand it long ago when he changed to another man! However, Xiaofeng and her family had to make an inch of it. After experiencing the sweetness, they demanded more and more. How could this not make Lao Qi worry about the future!
Moreover, Xiaofeng's blindly doting on her brother is tantamount to destroying him. Some people are just like this. They are used to others and don’t work hard on their own. They are lazy and selfish. But if you don’t care about him, he doesn’t. If there is a solution, it can only be self-reliant.
In other words, if Xiaofeng really loves her younger brother, he should end this spoiling, which is really good for her younger brother, otherwise, if it continues like this, it will be like harming him!
Pampering is harmful, strict is true love! Xiaofeng doesn't understand this truth. She is also a psychiatrist, how can she not understand? She is now blindly blinded by family affection, so she can't get out of the so-called fascination with the person involved. (End of this chapter)