Let me talk about the problem of the old seven.
It is true that he is very ambitious and does not want his parents' money. There is certainly nothing wrong with that. However, you also have to think about the actual situation of Chinese society.
Just now, when how many children get married, don't their parents take a penny? Too little, too little. If you change to a foreign country, you can understand it, but in China, this obsession of the old seventh seems to be reasonable, but in fact it is a kind of unnecessary entanglement!
Again, if the parents don't have that condition, the children will have no complaints, and they can only work hard on their own. But the seventh child’s parents have that condition, and the current marriage custom is generally like this, so why should he be so persistent
The consequence of this stubbornness is that Lao Qi and Xiaofeng’s wedding date has been delayed again and again. Although there are also responsibilities for Xiaofeng and his family, two people who truly love each other cannot be together because of this, and it is really not worth it. NS!
Marriage is the union of two families, and China is different from the West. After Westerners get married, they don’t have much contact with their parents. This is not the case in China! On the surface, it looks like two young people are together, but in fact, two families have become one family.
In the future, many things will all have to be dealt with by the family. So what can't the parents of a family take care of for this kind of marriage
Of course, I don’t mean it’s just right for the parents to take money. If the old man earns one million a year now, he doesn’t have to worry about money. The point is that he is a doctor now and his income is not too high. For him, he is also very short of money. For the sake of his own stubbornness, he seems to be very ambitious on the surface, but he has a bad life, will his parents be happy
They won't be happy just because the old seven doesn't ask them for money. Instead, they saw that Lao Qi's marriage was too late to be finalized, and they were very worried about him! This seemingly ambitious behavior makes the old people worry, isn't it counterproductive
In addition, there is one more point, which is not the old seventh. Because he loved Xiaofeng before, he was too indulgent towards Xiaofeng, especially for her family too much help! This looks good on the surface, but in fact he also joined in this kind of indulgence and indulgence, invisibly spoiling Xiaofeng and her family!
Loving someone is not the same as spoiling someone, and it does not mean that you have to satisfy any request made by the other person! Sometimes, the best choice is to take the risk of breaking up and hold your own bottom line!
Didn't Old Seven think that his blind indulgence would cause the situation like today? It's impossible to think of it! He chose to compromise at the beginning, but now he refuses to continue. Isn't this his
It's the same in life and work, and you can't be "used" to anyone! Don't be too accustomed to your friends, colleagues, boss, and family! Otherwise, one day, you will eventually suffer because the other party touched your bottom line.
It's impossible!
An example is an employee who worked hard and even secretly worked overtime in order to get the boss’s appreciation. Someone else took a week to complete, but he stayed up late and finished it for three days! The boss was really happy at the time and praised him, but the boss expects him even higher for the next job!
Helpless, he took two and a half days to complete this time, but he was so tired that he almost didn't even have time to eat or sleep! But next time, the boss has higher expectations!
Finally, once he failed to complete the task assigned by the boss on time, the boss was disappointed, and after the phenomenon that he often could not complete the task "on time" appeared, the boss thought he had some emotions, mentality went wrong, and finally laid off employees. At that time, he became the first to be laid off!
Perhaps this example is a good example of what happened to Lao Qi! I don't need to say too much.
After listening to Lao Qi's narration, I thought about it for a long time, and then looked at Wang Nan. At this time, Wang Nan seemed to have her own opinions in her heart, but she seemed to want me to persuade Lao Qi.
The relationship between me and Lao Qi is very strong. Therefore, I don’t have to hide anything. I just say what I think. Lao Qi was not convinced at first, and he refuted me from time to time. Later, he also said something. Don't argue, because he thinks that I'm right.
In fact, I seem to have an attitude of playing 50 games each, not just being ridiculous! In life, conflicts occur between people, and often both sides have problems, otherwise how could there be conflicts! It would be unfair to just criticize one party and force one of them to change!
"Where is Xiaofeng, did she come back?" Finally, I asked Old Qi.
"I don't know, we haven't contacted!" Old Qi replied directly.
"Make an appointment, I persuade her!" I said again.
"Yes, ask Xiaofeng to come out, everyone sits together, if there is anything wrong to say, I also persuade her!" Wang Nan also interjected from the side.
"Ask... You make an appointment, I... Not..." Old Qi's tone hesitated.
"I'll make an appointment, the key is to give you an attitude, what are you going to do?" I agreed, but the key is that the old Qi must also compromise. He can give in, so I can persuade Xiaofeng to give in!
"What are you going to do?" Old Qiyi raised his head and glared at me and asked.
Yes, I just said it for nothing! He is pretending to be stupid with me, or he really didn't take my words to heart!
"What's so special about you, I'm asking you what to do with your marriage!" I shouted to my feet and asked dissatisfiedly, pointing to Lao Qi's nose.
"I can't bear to let my parents take the money... Don't you have to bear it?" Old Qi turned his finger at me and Wang Nan.
"Lao Qi..." I didn't speak yet, Wang Nan sighed softly, "We are all born and raised by parents, which
Does anyone rely on their parents at all? "
Wang Nan said this very truthfully! As if suddenly received some prompt, I hurriedly said, "Isn't it? Look at you two. After graduation, you can be assigned to the hospital and become a serious doctor. What about me?"
I mean, you don’t rely on your parents on the surface, but how good can you be? If it weren't for family relations, would you be able to hold this iron rice bowl? At that time, I had no relationship at home, so I could only open a clinic by myself!
Doesn't it need to spend money on this relationship? Without spending money, how did this personal relationship be established? Do you think it's okay to rely on flicker
Hearing what I said, Lao Qi was a little moved. Yes, I have been persistently wanting to support myself for so many years, but when I started working in a mental rehabilitation center and became a doctor, wasn't it the way my father was looking for? What kind of self-reliance
Moreover, even Lao Qi has to admit that this is the reality of the current society. The so-called self-reliance from scratch is actually brainwashing and fooling people!
Take me as an example. If it weren't for that set of storerooms at home, I would run the clinic by renting a house. Like the dismal benefits at the beginning, I would have to close the door in a month! Where are the benefits today
Many successful people patted their chests and said how difficult they were at the beginning and how they finally succeeded by their own efforts, but in fact, in the process of success, how much strength he borrowed, how many noble people helped and how much he walked. Shortcuts, without mentioning a word! If you really believe it, you have been fooled!
Old Qi thought for a while, but still felt a little sad. I just made it clear to him!
"Well, the down payment you buy a house, I will lend it to you first, tell you, you have to pay me back the money!" I promised first.
"Pull it down, you have to spend money to marry Wang Nan!" Old Qi looked a little disbelief, and glanced at Wang Nan.
There is no expression on Wang Nan's face, and I don't know if he is happy or not. But for a while, I was loyal again!
"Also, you can let your parents take the one hundred thousand yuan gift!" I suggested again, "In addition, I will persuade Xiaofeng. The one hundred thousand yuan you paid for the debt before is something that must be repaid. Write an IOU, and this time the gift of 100,000 yuan, her family must accompany him to send back 50,000 yuan!"
Hearing what I said, Old Qi seemed to be a little more balanced, but he still insisted that he didn't need to borrow my money.
I was very pleased to see that things had turned around, but suddenly, the door of Wang Nan's office was suddenly opened again!
I was taken aback, and said to my heart that there is something wrong with the people here, don’t you know how to knock on the door
"Dr. Wang, Dr. Lu, you are coming soon! Something has happened!" A nurse broke in and said anxiously. (End of this chapter)