"Yeah, you asked not to have an optometry, but you got unsuitable glasses. The responsibility lies with you!" I turned to Xiaomo and said my opinion.
"Then their store, won't you remind me?" Xiaomo still looked straightforward.
The Xiaomo in front of me reminded me vaguely of the woman who smashed my head today. How could this energy be so unreasonable.
If you asked not to have optometry, you returned the goods for this reason. Ten optical shops, eleven will not refund you. It's surprising that people don't remind you, as an adult, you need to be reminded of everything else
Could it be said that the tiger will eat people and the high-speed rail will be delayed, and others need to be reminded, don't you know
At this moment, I can't help but feel a little speechless for people like Xiaomo. But after all, she was my classmate, and I couldn't say this, so I had to make a round of it.
"Forget it, it's nothing more than changing two spectacle lenses. It's not much money. I'll pay the money for you!" I touched my pocket and said to Xiaomo.
I knew in my heart that the focus of the contradiction was on her. Bailu is actually very innocent. If she really returns the goods to you, she will have to pay the money by herself, and the optical shop will not bear the loss.
"It's not that I can't afford this money, I'm mainly angry about it..." Xiaomo was still stiff at this time, but because I was there, his attitude eased a bit.
I understand Xiaomo's mentality very well. In fact, she is not ignorant of her own responsibility, but one of the biggest characteristics of such people is that they look for other people's reasons for everything, but can't see or deliberately ignore their own problems.
Because the glasses are unsuccessful, her heart is actually annoyed. If she is an ordinary person, she will regret her behavior when she didn’t get optometry. But a person like her will impose her regrets and worries on others. It is the "passive transfer" in psychology.
In fact, as she said, maybe she didn't care about spending these two more money, but the annoyance that the extra money brought her. She needed to find an outlet, and she needed to vent.
As a result, the innocent optical shop and Bailu became the object of her vent.
The development of such a personality is actually closely related to the family education of the parents. for example:
A mother hugs her baby and sits on the bus. Suddenly there was a sudden brake, the child's head knocked on the back of the front seat, and the child began to cry.
At this time, the mother was coaxing the child while hitting the backrest, saying: "The backrest is a badass. Mom hits it and it hurts the baby's head!"
Such examples can be said to be common, and many parents coax their children like this. However, the back of the seat is innocent, and even the driver stepping on the brakes because of traffic conditions is not at fault. What is really at fault is that the child’s mother failed to protect the child and did not hug the child.
But the mother’s actions invisibly shift the responsibility to the inanimate chair back. If there are too many things in similar situations, the child will gradually develop a way of looking for other people’s reasons for everything, emphasizing objective factors in everything, but not Admit that you have a habit of thinking that is at fault.
This habit of thinking is a distorted way of thinking, which will seriously affect a person's life outlook and values, but it is gradually developed because of some small things. When parents see this, will they feel that they have harmed their children
In fact, my classmate Xiaomo had this kind of personality when he was in school. Although I didn't have much contact with her, I felt that the girl was too unreasonable at the time and made me stay away from her, and didn't want to have too much contact with her.
Unexpectedly, after so many years, she was still the same. Also, the formation of a person's character does not happen overnight, and it is reasonable for her to change her nature and her nature is hard to change.
In the present situation, I have no good solution, I can only persuade Xiaomo to pay for the two lenses by himself. On the other hand, I also persuaded Bai Lu to apply for gifts or small gifts for her to find some psychological balance for Xiaomo.
I had never been able to rub the sand in my eyes. At this time, because both sides were my classmates, I had no choice but to live up to the mud.
Old classmates who hadn't seen each other for many years started to reconcile, Xiaomo and Bai Lu were still willing to sell me a face, and then negotiated to resolve the matter.
After Xiaomo's optometry, she changed a new pair of lenses, took the small gift that she gave to her, and said to me somewhat happily:
"Gao Xin, thank you!"
"Old classmate, what can I thank..." I responded not very positively.
"What do you do now?" Xiaomo asked suddenly.
"I am a psychiatrist, and now I have a clinic..." I replied.
Unexpectedly, before I finished speaking, Xiaomo interrupted me in front of me. "What? Psychology... Clinic?" She looked at me with a puzzled look, a little surprised.
"Yeah," I took out a card from the clinic and handed it to Xiaomo. "Are you free to come over?"
I'm actually just a polite remark. I didn't expect Xiaomo to take the card and look at it, and said to me:
"Unexpectedly, you did this job, maybe... I really have to go over and see..."
When I heard something in her words, I knew that she might have encountered some trouble, and she needed to ask a psychiatrist for help.
I really don't like her kind of personality. If it weren't for her to be my classmate, I wouldn't want to take care of her. However, as a psychiatrist, since someone is troubled and needs help, then I should help.
However, this spectacle shop is not a place to talk. I told her if I needed my help, I asked me and said goodbye to her. Later, Xiaomo left the optical shop.
"Thank you today, Gaoxin!" After Xiaomo left, Bai Lu thanked me again. It can be seen that she thanked me sincerely, and there was an inexplicable excitement in her eyes, as if it did not match this kind of gratitude.
Could it be that the hero saves the beauty, and the beauty loves the hero? I can't help but fill up this picture in my mind. But I am not a hero, nor can I talk about saving the United States. Besides, Bai Lu in front of her is not a beauty either.
Bai Lu is not tall and can't show much body behind the counter. She is slightly fat, but it should be plump and not obese. She is a little dark and her skin is not so fair. Anyway, from the looks of her, she is just a normal person!
However, her changes are not that big, almost the same as when she was in elementary school. With a baby face, she looks very young.
"Where, you are all my classmates, you should!" Seeing that Bai Lu was wronged just now, I comforted her: "My junior high school classmate has the same personality, don't take it to your heart!"
Hearing what I said, Bai Lu's face showed an aggrieved look again. "It's okay, our salesperson, what kind of customers have never seen..."
Although she said so, it can be seen that her mood is also very affected by this incident. It is estimated that the mood that was good for the day was caused by this incident.
I can't help but think of "kick cat emotion". The so-called emotion of kicking a cat is derived from a psychological story.
A boss drove to work in the morning, but was punished by the traffic police for breaking the regulations. He held his stomach and got angry. When he arrived at the unit, he immediately called the vice president, and scolded him because of the decline in sales.
The vice president said inexplicably, he was sulking and went back to the office, and he called the sales manager for another training;
The sales manager was told, and was very depressed when he went back, so he gathered all the salesmen for a meeting and reprimanded everyone, especially one of the salesmen was named and said that he had the worst performance. If this continues, he will be fired.
The salesperson was named, and it was extremely annoying. When I got home from get off work, I saw my wife lying in her arms and playing with her mobile phone. She couldn't help but reprimand her for being lazy and how hard she was working outside. Anyway, she was upset and irritable in the end.
The bored wife was unwilling to cook, and the child just went home. She reprimanded the child again, saying that he didn't study well, he always failed the exam, and slapped the child when he was excited.
The child was beaten, and he was in a very bad mood. He felt wronged and had nowhere to vent. It happened that the cat at home was passing by and he kicked the cat aside.
This is the so-called emotion of kicking the cat. (End of this chapter)