After hearing this, Yang Haiyan agreed: "Mammy, women can manage marriages, but they can only deal with concubines and mistresses. If a marriage can only last long because women control men, then such a marriage is happy."
Nanny Lian, who was deeply influenced by ancient thoughts, naturally understood what Yang Haiyan meant: "Managing marriage? The second wife has to deal with the concubine and the second wife? What is the point of what Madam said?"
Yang Haiyan smiled and said, "The meaning of managing a marriage is that after getting married, two people living together need to tolerate, care for and understand each other. If a woman loves a man, she will think about him. Take the general and I for example. I asked Doctor Wang to prepare a medicinal bath for the general because I care about him and I hope he can be healthy and stay with me all the time. I brought Si Ya and Shou Cheng here because I know he cares about his family. I have extra time, so I am willing to help him educate his younger brothers and sisters when he is busy.
This is my contribution, and this is my business.
But after I paid, after I worked hard, if this man takes my things for granted in return, then I will work hard again. Of course, I am willing to work hard because you are worth it. He is a man who has difficulty respecting women. He is like other men, with blind self-esteem. He is like other men, thinking that women should listen to men.
He would ask me when he met someone who understood me, and he would know what I liked and what I wanted, and he would give me what he could afford. Even though what he gave me was precious and rare, in my heart, a man who could give you what he could afford was the most precious. It was more precious than a rich man who bought me things with hundreds or even thousands of taels of silver.
Therefore, marriage requires two people to take care of each other, rather than one-sided giving.
This is business.
Similarly, if one day he has a concubine or mistress, just once, then our marriage will come to an end. I care about my man, and he had other women before me, because at that time, I hadn't discovered it yet, so I could be angry with his past and care about his past. But at the beginning of our relationship, if he had other women, it would be a betrayal to me. I would put away everything I had paid for, and after that, he would be a stranger to me.
Even if you die in front of me, I won't shed a tear.
What about disciplining concubines and mistresses? That's even more ridiculous. This is a man's woman, why should I take care of her? Why don't I just break up with him and find someone younger? Why bother to spend time disciplining his woman?"
Yang Haiyan's words were earth-shattering to Nanny Lian. She had never heard such words before. When women were in the boudoir, they were taught the three virtues and four virtues. When they got married, they were taught to respect their husbands. Even if a woman was noble, even if she was a queen, she still regarded her husband as the heaven. But today, the lady said that if a man had a concubine and a wife, it would be better for them to separate and the woman could find a younger one.
It sounds like these words subvert the ideas that Nanny Lian has always had, but if you think about it carefully...
Seeing that Nanny Lian was in deep thought, Yang Haiyan could not help but say with amusement, "Think about it, Nanny. There are many good men in this world, but the best ones with good figures. As long as you are a woman with money, you can find such a man even if you are in your forties or fifties. What do you think?"
Aunt Lian said quickly: "Oh, my wife, if this happens, you must tell the general. If the general knows..."
Yang Haiyan said: "Even in front of him, I dare to say it. If he treats me well and dares to find a younger man, why would I worry about finding a man better than him?"
Aunt Lian: "Pfft, pfft, madam is really bold." But if you think about it carefully, it makes sense. If a woman has the ability, why should she be bullied by men? Find a young, good-looking, and good-looking man, isn't it okay? Aunt Lian thinks it's okay, and her thoughts are influenced by her wife.
Yang Haiyan looked at her nervous expression and laughed so hard that her belly hurt: "Don't worry, Mammy, I'm just talking. If your general treats me well, I will be very satisfied with him. I have no time to like such a good man."
The two were chatting in the house, and Qin Fang was completely stunned when he heard them.
Even though he had never thought of finding a concubine or a mistress, he was scared to death when he heard what his wife said. He was not scared by her shocking words, but worried that she might find a young man with a good figure at any time.
Qin Fang felt pain just thinking about it. If one day, they were separated, she would have a man who would replace him, who would live with her and do the intimate things they had done. Thinking of this, Qin Fang felt sour. He wanted to catch that man and beat him up.
Yes, he might be able to give Yanyan such an opportunity. Yes, just thinking about it could make Yanyan think so, so he thought to himself, has he been approached by other women along the way? Qin Fang's memory was wrong, he felt that he kept a very safe distance from other women, that time, those women he brought to Yunxiang County to settle down, there were few who wanted to get close to him, he avoided them and kept his distance.
Thinking about it now, he was so scared that he broke into a cold sweat. Fortunately, he didn't let the woman get close to him at that time, otherwise he would suffer today. Suffering and others suffering, of course, others suffer. Thinking of this, Qin Fang immediately had an idea. When he settled the women in the bandit den, he would settle them in the village farthest from the county town to prevent them from looking for him.
Qin Fang felt guilty about this idea. He owed them. Saving them and bringing them here was already a righteous act. Anyone who wanted to ruin his reputation and his marriage would be trying to kill him. He would kill whoever wanted his life. It was fair.
Yang Haiyan knew that Qin Fangjun was on the road of treating women as tigers.
Qin Fang turned around and left, so as not to let his wife know that she had heard these words.
The dishes in the hall were already laid out. When Yang Haiyan and Nanny Lian came over, Qin Fang was already sitting upright. When he saw Yang Haiyan coming in, he quickly stood up and said, "Yanyan, are you tired? Let me help you." He was as attentive as a little Qinzi.
Yang Haiyan is such a greasy person, the kind who says, "I'm so tired from what you did, give me a hug." She glanced at Qin Fang and said, "I am tired. But you have been worried for a month or so. Now that the barbarians have finally arrived in Yunxiang County, you can have a good rest. You should eat well."
Yang Haiyan really cared about him, but to Qin Fang, it was just that, it sounded like she was reminding him of what happened on the road. So, he said more attentively: "I am tired, but you have come all the way from the border to here, you are even more tired. Come, Yanyan, I will serve you some soup."
Yang Haiyan sat down and saw him start to serve the soup. She asked Qin Fang to pick up a piece of meat and said, "Husband, eat some meat. The chickens we bought here are very tender. Tender chicken meat is delicious when braised in brown sauce. Try it."
Qin Fang put down the soup bowl and ate the chicken Yang Haiyan picked up: "It's delicious, Yanyan, yours is especially delicious." Sweet words are like asking for money when a man is highly nervous, uneasy, or even guilty. Although Qin Fang feels that he did nothing wrong, he is the information.
Yang Haiyan thought Qin Fang had mastered a new skill and learned to say sweet words, and she was very satisfied. Some words seemed too sweet and cloying to others. But as the person concerned, she was happy to be treated like this by her husband. How could a couple feel cloying
After dinner, the couple walked for half an hour to digest the food, and Yang Haiyan went to take a bath and went to bed. When Qin Fang came back from his second bath, he saw his wife sitting at the head of the bed reading a book. He took off his underwear and walked back and forth in front of Yang Haiyan. After walking back and forth twice, seeing that Yang Haiyan did not respond, Qin Fang hummed: "Yanyan..."
Yang Haiyan raised her head: "What's wrong?" Seeing him with his upper body naked, and his black underwear across his waist, she could tell that this man had a figure like a model, which was indeed good. There was a trace of fat on his body, especially at this moment, the way he was fiddling with his figure was a bit coquettish.
Qin Fang looked at her sparkling eyes and felt that his plan was right. Yanyan liked his body. In Qin Fang's eyes, liking his figure and liking his body were the same.
Qin Fang was very satisfied with Yang Haiyan's performance, but he hid his inner thoughts and asked with a silly and honest look: "Yanyan, compared to when I was at the border, I am thinner. You see, I have less meat here." As he spoke, he pinched his abdominal muscles.
Yang Haiyan looked at it carefully and answered seriously: "No, muscles will become smaller, but your face is much thinner." If muscles can be lost so easily, why are there leg slimming injections in modern society? You know, many modern women like to wear high heels, and that's how they get their calf muscles. Even if they wear high heels, there are still many with well-developed calf muscles. They all suffer from the loss of calf muscles.
If you can reduce your muscles by working hard for a month like Qin Fang, then leg-slimming injections will probably be out of business and women will all laugh their heads off.
Qin Fang felt a little bitter when he heard Yang Haiyan's serious evaluation. He wanted her to really comment on the muscles and to show her the muscles.
But since his wife said so, what else can he do
"Really? That was my illusion. When I put on clothes, I felt they were looser than before, so I thought I had lost weight." Qin Fang struggled to find an excuse, and then asked casually, "So is my face better like this? Or is it better before?"