In-depth consultation
Sun Wen remained silent and took another sip of wine.
Although he really wants to try how deep this depth is, but he is not in the mood right now.
"Deadly." Xu Wei shook her head seeing him, then laughed again, "But I'm more interested in you."
It would be more interesting to conquer such a man.
"Are you dead set?"
"no the same."
"What's different?" Sun Wen asked.
"I'll find a way to make myself comfortable, and you'll find a way to make yourself uncomfortable." Xu Wei pointed at him with her finger, and then pointed behind her, "The more you can't get it, the more uncomfortable you will be, and as long as I meet someone who is similar, I will feel better." I can replace you."
Sun Wen laughed, "Aren't you in your thirties?"
Women, especially women who know how to take care of themselves, are really hard to tell their age from their appearance.
Not to mention the makeup.
"Eighteen this year."
"Okay, I believe it."
The two didn't talk anymore, Sun Wen put the cup on the bar and twirled it gently, Xu Wei put her forearm under her neck, leaned against the edge of the bar and watched him quietly.
The more I look at it, the more interesting it becomes.
When the beautiful illusion crumbles, the man who has been in love for a long time will collapse more thoroughly.
"I can give you an idea."
After a long silence, she spoke with a smile.
"What idea?" Sun Wen asked.
"An idea to help you save your relationship."
"tell me the story?"
The woman suddenly changed her attitude, and he was a little uncertain what she was thinking, with obvious doubts on her face.
Xu Wei didn't care about his attitude, she still kept leaning on the bar and said, "Do you know what your problem is?"
"What is it?"
"What's the difference between a man and a woman?" Xu Wei didn't answer, but asked another question.
"Just say what you want to say." Sun Wen was too lazy to play guessing games with her.
"I'm here to help you analyze the essence of your relationship." Xu Wei flicked her nails lazily, "I just talked about the princess dream, have you read fairy tales?"
"Of course I have."
"What do princesses in fairy tales look like?"
"Beautiful, gentle... kind... generous, strong..." Sun Wen thought about it, and finally laughed to himself, "Add all the good things and it's over."
"The way they do things?"
"Well… "
"Wait." Xu Wei raised the corners of her mouth and showed a meaningful smile, "Whether the princess is abused by the queen, captured by the dragon, or cast by the witch, they will endure all the sufferings silently, and then wait for the prince or the warrior." Go save her, all she has to do is wait."
"Then what?"
"Princes and warriors are the opposite. They are all overcoming thorns and thorns, crossing thousands of mountains and rivers, and overcoming many difficulties to save the princess."
Seeing Sun Wen's thoughtful expression, Xu Wei smiled even wider, "This is the difference between a man and a woman."
"Huh? Men and women?"
"Women are passive, men are active. No matter how much suffering a woman suffers, it is difficult to wake up from the princess dream, because it is normal for a princess to suffer a little bit. Sooner or later, a prince will come to rescue her. You can't, that's because you are not her prince."
She paused, and continued: "It's different for men, as long as they go out of society and bump into walls a few times, they will wake themselves up and realize that they are just ordinary people, not princes or warriors, just ordinary people. Ordinary mortals, the dream of marrying a princess is gone."
"So women's standards are almost aligned upwards. To find a spouse, you must be better than yourself, and there must be no too many shortcomings. They can ignore all the other advantages of a man for a small defect, and then tell him: We are not suitable."
"Men are just the opposite. Most men's standards are aligned downwards. They don't need to be very good. As long as they can see past and have one or two advantages, he can ignore all other shortcomings, fall in love with this woman, and start pursuing. "
Sun Wen lit a cigarette and thought for a while, "Isn't it a bit absolute?"
"Of course, I'm only talking about the majority, and there must be exceptions." Xu Wei didn't deny it, but just looked at him and said, "But you, and your ex-girlfriend, are not that exception."
"continue."
"A person like your ex-girlfriend who regards 'you don't need to be reasonable in a relationship' as the truth is obviously just a dream. It's okay to be unreasonable when you are in love occasionally, but you don't care whether it is right or wrong. You just want to be coaxed unconditionally. Pampered…”
Xu Wei smiled and shook her head, "Once you can't do it, she will think you are not her prince—this is the root of your problems."
"What can we do if we don't coax?" Sun Wen asked.
"For someone like your girlfriend, it's okay to coax, but you shouldn't try to reason first, and only coax when it doesn't make sense... Humans have evolved for billions of years to evolve such a perfect brain, but she is reluctant to use it. You don't even bother to reason, you just want to be coaxed and pampered like a pet, why do you want to reason with her?"
"..."
"The relationship between the two of you is not equal from the beginning. Maybe you sometimes feel that you are humble in this relationship, but in fact the humble one is not you, but her. She has turned herself into a man's. Vassal, you don't need to reason with her, you just need to coax and lie, think about it this way, don't you suddenly see the light?"
"..." Sun Wen smoked a cigarette and did not respond.
Xu Wei looked at him with a smile, "Do you know what to do now?"
"what to do?"
"It's too much to say just now." She shook her head, "The reason you broke up is because you are not scumbag enough."
"Not bad enough?"
"As long as the pie you paint for her is big enough, your words are sweet enough, your lies are true enough, and you are used to her enough, she will never leave you—you are not her prince, but you have to pretend to be one."
"..."
"Unconditionally pamper and get used to it, cheat when it comes to money, promise a bad check, do you still need me to teach you these things?"
"I don't want to just play around." Sun Wen frowned.
"But you want to get back together." Xu Wei shrugged indifferently, "The more you spoil her, the more she will be unable to leave you. Even if you break up in the future, her new boyfriend will not be able to stand her, and then she will still Will be back."
"is that so?"
"Think about it, should we just break up like this, let her try and make mistakes again and again, and then find another scumbag, or do you do it yourself?"
"...I actually think what you said is very reasonable." Sun Wen stubbed out his cigarette and took another swig of wine, "So, everything is the fault of my reasoning with her?"
"Reason is the trigger, you have to learn to cheat." Xu Wei shook her head, "She wants an LV bag, and you reasoned with her that you need to save money and think about the future... Isn't that stupid? You have to learn how It would make her happy not to buy it."
"Is there still such an operation?" Sun Wen was stunned.
"Of course, as long as you make her happy, she will naturally be inseparable from you."
Seeing that Sun Wen's wine glass had bottomed out, Xu Wei raised her hand and called the waiter to refill him.
"Thank you." Sun Wen did not refuse, "But what about the future?"
"I'll just teach you how to get it back, and the rest depends on you."
There was a hint of amusement in Xu Wei's eyes.
after
The essence of this kind of love is that one person uses words to make another person happy, and when the other person is happy, he uses depth to make him feel good too.
It's just a transaction, where's the future
"So how do I start?"
"What's your situation now?"
"right now… "
The two continued to drink and talk.
It was getting darker outside.
(end of this chapter)