Gu Yiman has been listening attentively, and only after hearing that she stopped talking, he asked: "What is the reason for the quarrel?"
"He buys everything for his younger brothers and sisters!" Shen Qiangwei said angrily, "From clothes and shoes, to houses and cars, as long as we have, he will also buy them for his younger brothers and sisters, which cost a lot of money. !"
"What about his brother and sister's attitude?" Gu Yiman asked, "Do you respect and appreciate you?"
Shen Qiangwei was stunned for a moment, and then said: "It's okay, I still appreciate and respect us."
Gu Yiman asked: "I respect and appreciate you very much. Do I treat you as close relatives, or is it just a compliment on the surface, but I don't really appreciate you in my heart?"
Shen Qiangwei was silent for a moment, and then said uncomfortably: "It's not about face... My husband has a very good relationship with his brother and sister, and they have a very good relationship with brother and sister."
Gu Yiman asked again: "Is it within your financial ability for your husband to buy things for his younger brother and younger sister? Will it affect your life?"
"That's not true, Shen Qiangwei said, "We have accumulated a lot of wealth over the years, even if he bought a lot of things for his younger brother and younger sister, it will not affect our own quality of life. "
"Well, I understand," Gu Yiman nodded, and asked again, "If your husband doesn't listen to your advice, even if you quarrel with him and strongly oppose him, he still wants to buy things for his younger brother and sister, what will you do?" Divorce him?"
Shen Qiangwei thought seriously for a long time, then shook her head: "No."
If you want to leave, you have already left.
She and her husband have a very good relationship, and they went from poverty to wealth together. She hasn't changed, and neither has her husband.
Her husband is gentle and considerate to her, loyal to her and to the family. He does not have the problem of some men becoming bad when they have money. He is an out-and-out high-quality man.
Moreover, she and her husband have two children, a son and a daughter.
Even if she was very angry at her husband's bottomless love for his brother and sister, and quarreled fiercely, it was impossible for her to divorce her husband.
"Since you don't plan to divorce, I can only advise you to think about it," Gu Yiman said sincerely, "I'm speaking from the bottom of my heart, don't be angry, I don't think it's a big deal for your husband to buy things for his younger brother and sister." Big problem."
Shen Qiangwei frowned, with a somewhat dissatisfied expression.
"I say this with a premise," Gu Yiman explained, "The first premise is that your husband's shopping for his younger brother and sister has not affected your own quality of life.
The second premise is that your husband's brother and sister are grateful for your contributions and respect your husband and you. "
She looked into Shen Qiangwei's eyes, and said seriously: "As the saying goes, one person attains the Tao, and the chicken and the dog ascend to heaven.
Although this sentence is not very pleasant to hear, it is the truth, and it has been passed down for thousands of years.
If one person attains the Tao, chickens and dogs can ascend to heaven, let alone brothers and sisters who have grown up together since childhood
If the sibling relationship is not good, or the sibling character is not good, that's all.
But your husband's brothers and sisters don't have this problem. If I were your husband, I would also buy things for my younger brother and younger sister.
In your eyes, you only see your husband's sacrifices, but for your husband, he gets happiness and a sense of accomplishment from the sacrifices.
Happiness is something that money cannot buy.
But your husband spent money to buy happiness, and the money didn't affect your daily life, so why not do it? "
(end of this chapter)